BF cheated 7mths ago..on and off again...currently on a break...

[xoxpinkxox]

So here's the story in a very condensed version:

• both me and my boyfriend went off to college this year. He was very overprotected ( i was his first gf), so he got to college and went crazy with partying... and met a girl

  
  

• he picked fights with me and was an a** for a month.. he finally tells me that he slept with this girl...

  
  

• I was faithful to him the entire time.. and was crushed and so hurt when i found out... I at first forgave him but then broke up with him.. dated another guy.. but went back to him

  
  

• We have been together now since then, (7months, but been together fora total of 13 months)... we have had fights and I have gotten drunk a few times and made out with guys just cuz i felt like he desereved it (lame, I know, but true)... it hurt him.. and that caused fights..

  
  

• I love him so much, he tellsme and tries to show me all the time he made a huge mistake..

  
  

• I just spent the weekend at his college( i go to a different one) and things were great.. but today I told him how I just am still so angry about what he did to me and how I can't get over it.. and i hate fighting with him all the time. He told me he just wants me happy... and he asked me waht i wanted '

  
  

• I dont know. I want him, i love him, i can't see my future without him, but at the same time, we both deserve a relationship without constant fighting and "breaking up" (we break up for a few hours and then go back toe ach other.. its so stupid)

  
  

• so rightnow we're just friends... we're going tos ee if we like it better then being togheter...

  
  

• so yeah, I don't know. UGh. How do you get over someone cheating, I mean i trust him so much, but i just cant get over what he did. And i can't stand us fighting, we fight over the stupidist stuff sometimes..bit then we have the greatest of times... i dont know what to do...it's not fair to him if i cant ever get over what he did if he is trying to move on and prove himself as a better boyfriend.. but it's not fair to me if i keep beating myself up over him cheating on me.. ugh im so confused!

  
  

• please help!!

  
  

[Trialbyfire]

While he broke trust first by cheating on you, you've also reciprocated by cheating on him. I'm not sure how you can continue being angry at him.

 

As for getting over cheating, you have to let it go. Sometimes this means letting him go.