Guest Posted April 2, 2007 Posted April 2, 2007 A good friend of mine is in court today to finalize his divorce. I want to say something supportive so he knows I care, but am not sure what to say. Can anyone get me started? Thanks.
Trimmer Posted April 4, 2007 Posted April 4, 2007 Sounds like it was yesterday, by now - did you say anything? Also, are you a man or a woman, and have you had any romantic feelings towards this man, or any romantic hopes for the future? This might affect the advice.
quiet1one1 Posted April 4, 2007 Posted April 4, 2007 Are you kidding? How about "CONGRATULATIONS!!!!"
Guest Posted April 5, 2007 Posted April 5, 2007 I did... I knew on Monday his buddies from work were taking him out. I texted him and asked how he was doing and he responded "I'm drunk." I didn't know what to say to that so I said nothing. Next day, I was going to meet friends afterwork. I decided to call him and check in and he answered. We chatted, he was saying how he was on his way to Burger King to get some greasy food for his stomach. I asked him if he was really ok and he said yeah, more than ok so I took his word for it. He did sound upbeat so I have no reason to doubt that. As far as our status, I'm female, he's male. When I met him we were very attracted to each other but I found out he was technically married so I put on the brakes. I was fine being friends and nothing else. We settled into an easy friendship in the past couple months. He talked about his family, etc. Me about my job, etc. and things were easy. A couple weeks ago though, I ran into a mutual friend who told me that this guy has been asking about me (if I'm seeing anyone or not) and mentioned that he likes me. I will admit I was still very attracted to him but like I said I held back and kept things as a friendship... But last night, I admit I may have complicated things. I had a rough day at work and my friends took me out drinking. This guy texted me later that night to ask if I was having a good time and I said yes, although I wished he were there with me. I said I know he's not interested in me and even though I'm very much attracted to him, he's still my good friend and that I hoped he felt comfortable talking about stuff that's on his mind (his mom had an accident and he's trying to relocate to her city to take care of her although he didn't think his office would agree to a transfer). Anyway, he responded that I was completely off base in my assessment of him and that he has always had feelings for me and still does. That's the way we left things..or I left things because I didn't respond. I mean he JUST got divorced. I feel I would be taking advantage of him if I pursued a relationship and/or I'd be the rebound girl. Plus, I was particularly brave because I was tipsy and pretty much laid things out in the open. This is all very confusing to me now and I wish I knew what I should if anything... friends tell me the ball is in his court now and to avoid all contact with him and if he gets in contact with me, then I have my answer... Could you give me some advice?? Sounds like it was yesterday, by now - did you say anything? Also, are you a man or a woman, and have you had any romantic feelings towards this man, or any romantic hopes for the future? This might affect the advice.
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