BenThereDunThat Posted April 5, 2007 Posted April 5, 2007 To HereNow & WWIU - you guys are laying out some truths, but there are those who just want to pick and choose, cherry-pick, their own little truths out of it. Not much you or I can do about it at this point. Love ya, BTDT
lorr Posted April 5, 2007 Posted April 5, 2007 Happy at last I wish you all the best. You obviously seem happy with the OW,and at the end of the day it must have taken alot of guts to come clean with your now ex-wife. At least you didn't string her along, like what most MM do. Better to be straight up and honest in a situation like this, instead of giving the wife false hope. Anyway your happy and I'm sure your ex wife is happy, and it looks like it all worked out for the best.
Impudent Oyster Posted April 5, 2007 Posted April 5, 2007 I dont want to lead anyone on. I want what i best for my children- trying to be a great father. I want to be with the woman i love. And I will in time. sooner than later. I want my wife to have a life. Again this was a joint decision about the children. I am not leading my wife on by believing their is a chance. She knows where my heart is. No question in that. Baloney. I'm so not buying the fact that your wife believes you're in love with another woman and is perfectly okay with staying married to you for the kids. No way would any woman want a man in love with someone else. That's no life. You sound like quite the player, you love the attention, which would explain why you're posting here. If adulation from one OW isn't enough, how great is it to try and get it from a whole group of OW on a message board. Forget about whether OW knows you post here, does your WIFE? You remember her, the woman you took vows with, promised to love, honor, blah, blah, blah. Posting your exclamations of love for another woman on a public message board is quite the way to honor her, isn't it? If you were my husband I'd change the locks and see you in court. You wouldn't be able to string me or the OW along the way you are.
Impudent Oyster Posted April 5, 2007 Posted April 5, 2007 I will be there for my kids and tell them I was doing what I thought was best at the time. That is for me, A and their mother to help them out with. Correction, that is for you and your wife (their parents) to help them out with. Your children are none of "A"s business.
Impudent Oyster Posted April 5, 2007 Posted April 5, 2007 And here's what I think, if anyone cares. 1. OD's wife DOES NOT KNOW HE'S STILL SLEEPING with YSM. No way, no how. He's a user. 2. He came here to placate YSM, and if one were stupid, they'd buy the BS he's slinging, but I'm not stupid. Posting here is a cheap ploy to buy time with YSM. 3. If I were YSM I would RUN, not walk to my email and copy and send this entire thread to OD's wife, afterall, he has nothing to hide, he's been nothing but HONEST with her... . She knows how much OD loves YSM, but she's OK with it. OD loves to play games. Even though it's not baseball. Game on!
yousaveme Posted April 5, 2007 Posted April 5, 2007 I hate the fact I am even posting on this thread. I have no intentions of doing what was just suggested. In fact the W was told as I myself heard it.
Ripples Posted April 5, 2007 Posted April 5, 2007 I hate the fact I am even posting on this thread. I have no intentions of doing what was just suggested. In fact the W was told as I myself heard it. Whatever gets you through, sweetie. Oh wait....
yousaveme Posted April 5, 2007 Posted April 5, 2007 Nothing thats original. LOL:lmao: Whatever gets you through, sweetie. Oh wait....
Impudent Oyster Posted April 5, 2007 Posted April 5, 2007 I hate the fact I am even posting on this thread. I have no intentions of doing what was just suggested. In fact the W was told as I myself heard it. Denial ain't just a river in Egypt. Suit yourself, but he's not leaving. Would you care to wager? If he is still with his wife next April 5th, you donate $25 to the forum, if he's left to be with you, I'll donate.
yousaveme Posted April 5, 2007 Posted April 5, 2007 I really dont have to wager. I know when he is leaving. Have know for quite awhile. But if you care to. Fine. Denial ain't just a river in Egypt. Suit yourself, but he's not leaving. Would you care to wager? If he is still with his wife next April 5th, you donate $25 to the forum, if he's left to be with you, I'll donate.
sadbuttrue Posted April 5, 2007 Posted April 5, 2007 ysm, i am glad things are working out for you, good luck
yousaveme Posted April 5, 2007 Posted April 5, 2007 Thanks SBT. ysm, i am glad things are working out for you, good luck
whichwayisup Posted April 5, 2007 Posted April 5, 2007 If he makes you happy, then fine...But in all honesty, I don't know how you could ever trust and respect him after everything that he's put you through and the way he's treated his wife. If a man can cheat on his wife and betray his whole family, make a life, say vows to a woman he claimed to be inlove with infront of family and friends, and can leave her for another woman, how the heck can you fully trust him??? Good luck though.
yousaveme Posted April 5, 2007 Posted April 5, 2007 WWIU - I understand your point. But there is more to this then has been said. I guess that is why some had stated answers have been vague. If he makes you happy, then fine...But in all honesty, I don't know how you could ever trust and respect him after everything that he's put you through and the way he's treated his wife. If a man can cheat on his wife and betray his whole family, make a life, say vows to a woman he claimed to be inlove with infront of family and friends, and can leave her for another woman, how the heck can you fully trust him??? Good luck though.
GreenEyedLady Posted April 5, 2007 Posted April 5, 2007 I'm reading these posts that are so filled with anger and hate about 2 people's R and wondering why do you all care so much? You say that you don't believe it's true, etc. Then why all the energy in responding? It sucks to have your spouse cheat on you...I know that for a fact...but sometimes people AREN'T meant to be married...it DOESN'T work out for everyone...and people don't always handle it the way they SHOULD... But I think demonizing people isn't really a good way to handle it either...no one really knows what's going on in someone else's head...let's remember what this board is for: support and discussion...and of course we don't have to agree, but I think we should leave the personal attacks out of it...
HappyAtLast Posted April 5, 2007 Posted April 5, 2007 Hal, if your OW was so important to you, it wouldn't have mattered whether your W would have got down on bending knee to keep you from leaving! You still would have slammed the door in her face and cheated with your xOw like you did. So, no matter if your W had gone to counseling or did everything right, she still would not have been good enough because like you said the OW was the one for you, right? My request to go to counseling was many years prior to meeting my OW. I had long given up trying to improve things in my marriage (not proud of that fact, just being honest).
NoIDidn't Posted April 6, 2007 Posted April 6, 2007 Hey Isn't OD the guy she met online on a dating site? Did anyone see the episode where the stalker girlfriend tried to bribe the kids with bling at a baseball game (all behind the W's back)? Wait, wait, what about the episode where she came down with a case of split personality and thought she was three people at the same time? Stay tuned....
Ripples Posted April 6, 2007 Posted April 6, 2007 NID, could you post links to the threads? GEL, as much as I like you, you really don't get it. There's very little anger, as far as I can see, more amusement and irritation at yet another thread that is far from honest.
pelagicsands Posted April 6, 2007 Posted April 6, 2007 I'm reading these posts that are so filled with anger and hate about 2 people's R and wondering why do you all care so much? You say that you don't believe it's true, etc. Then why all the energy in responding? It sucks to have your spouse cheat on you...I know that for a fact...but sometimes people AREN'T meant to be married...it DOESN'T work out for everyone...and people don't always handle it the way they SHOULD... But I think demonizing people isn't really a good way to handle it either...no one really knows what's going on in someone else's head...let's remember what this board is for: support and discussion...and of course we don't have to agree, but I think we should leave the personal attacks out of it... Right on, sister!
Sheba Posted April 6, 2007 Posted April 6, 2007 Oh my - this thread is still getting hits and posts? The OP is a sleazebag, with the greatest disrespect. He is using this forum, where YSM came for comfort and advice, to advance and promulgate the bull**** he has been feeding YSM. And YSM is on the edge of a cliff, but fighting like a person with their back to the wall. YSM, you are NOT SAFE in this relationship. Your married man would LEAVE his wife NOW if he had any respect for you or her or your relationship or his marriage. He does not deserve your attention or the attention of his wife. I started with my current husband as the OW, and he was the OM. He MOVED OUT of his former matrimonial home within 6 weeks of our relationship starting. I MOVED OUT of my former matrimonial home as soon as my kids were finished with school for the year. However, within that same 6 week period I had told my then husband that I planned to leave him when the school year was over. I said it and I did it. We did NOT move in together, by the way, but each into our own place. We carefully sorted through our previous marriages and made sure that we established satisfactory custody/access arrangements and financial settlements and got divorced. I don't mean to hold myself or my husband up as "models of perfection" - we certainly have troubles now, but the point is that we ENDED our previous marriages quickly after starting up together.
GreenEyedLady Posted April 6, 2007 Posted April 6, 2007 Sheba, no disrespect meant, but I actually would have more of a problem with someone who would just throw their marriage away in a matter of weeks after meeting someone...you don't even know the person in that amount of time...
MysterySolved Posted April 6, 2007 Posted April 6, 2007 This married man is selfish and self-centered This Other Woman is equally selfish and self-centered I really dont understand how any of these people can even look themselves in the mirror.
bullhunter Posted April 6, 2007 Posted April 6, 2007 I'm sure you've heard the phrase "**** or get off the pot". You might try applying it.
whichwayisup Posted April 6, 2007 Posted April 6, 2007 BH, you've read this thread, what are your thoughts on OD's situation with YSM? I agree, crap or get off the pot. I don't understand, even for the kids sake, him hanging on to two women, especially when they both know about eachother. It is cruel and selfish to do because it's obvious only HIS needs count and are the most important.
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