openingday Posted April 2, 2007 Posted April 2, 2007 I wanted to check this site out. My GF has been on here on and off. Yes. I am married and have a GF. She is the love of my life. The reason I am married is basically what most of you would call an excuse. I am home for my kids. For the time being. I do plan on leaving shortly. My wife did find out about the affair. I do admit I was a coward I wish I had the backbone to walk out the door. But we made a decision that staying was in the best interest of one of my children. My wife asked me to break contact with my GF. But I couldnt. I love her more than anyother person i have ever met in my life. I am sure I will be bashed. But I will try and answer questions.
IfWishesWereHorses Posted April 2, 2007 Posted April 2, 2007 How does your wife feel about the fact that you still see and are in love with your girlfriend.
Author openingday Posted April 2, 2007 Author Posted April 2, 2007 The marriage was pretty much over. I believe she ignores the fact I am in love with my GF. She knows. When I got caught she asked and I did tell her the truth. She knows I am only here for the children at the moment. She also knows that at the proper time I will be leaving. How does your wife feel about the fact that you still see and are in love with your girlfriend.
IfWishesWereHorses Posted April 2, 2007 Posted April 2, 2007 I encourage you to stick around. There are not many MM on the board, I'm sure there are plenty who may have questions for you. BS's and OW alike. It must be very difficult for you two to live together everday knowing that you would rather be elsewhere. I hope you are able to leave soon.
buggie4u Posted April 2, 2007 Posted April 2, 2007 I hear exactly what you are saying however I am a firm believer in the fact that you cut all ties with the current relationship before starting a new one. I also believe that that what you think may be in the best interest of the children also may not be the truth. Children will sense the tension between two parents as well. You have yourself in a difficult situation being that you want to be with the one you love and cannot be. However what will you do if the one you love is not willing to wait until the day that you will be there? We all say that we will wait however sometimes the wait gets to hard to keep doing...
Izzar Posted April 2, 2007 Posted April 2, 2007 Hi OpeningDay, Your story sounds sooooooooooo familiar. A friend of mine who posts here is in the SAME EXACT situation. She is the ow though. I wonder if she could be your gf? Funny, she's at the opening day game. Go Phillies!!!!!!!!!!!
Author openingday Posted April 2, 2007 Author Posted April 2, 2007 Yes , she is. We are going June 4th game Hi OpeningDay, Your story sounds sooooooooooo familiar. A friend of mine who posts here is in the SAME EXACT situation. She is the ow though. I wonder if she could be your gf? Funny, she's at the opening day game. Go Phillies!!!!!!!!!!!
Author openingday Posted April 2, 2007 Author Posted April 2, 2007 Will be leaving soon enough. Just have to stick it out for what is best at the moment. I encourage you to stick around. There are not many MM on the board, I'm sure there are plenty who may have questions for you. BS's and OW alike. It must be very difficult for you two to live together everday knowing that you would rather be elsewhere. I hope you are able to leave soon.
Chapter2 Posted April 2, 2007 Posted April 2, 2007 Just curious...what are your ages and how long have you been married? What types of counseling, if any, have you and your wife sought out? Do you feel any guilt over living a double life, etc.? You only speak of the one child but state you are staying for your "kids"....why is it only in the best interest of one of your children to continue the marriage? I wanted to check this site out. My GF has been on here on and off. Yes. I am married and have a GF. She is the love of my life. The reason I am married is basically what most of you would call an excuse. I am home for my kids. For the time being. I do plan on leaving shortly. My wife did find out about the affair. I do admit I was a coward I wish I had the backbone to walk out the door. But we made a decision that staying was in the best interest of one of my children. My wife asked me to break contact with my GF. But I couldnt. I love her more than anyother person i have ever met in my life. I am sure I will be bashed. But I will try and answer questions.
Author openingday Posted April 2, 2007 Author Posted April 2, 2007 I hope she does wait. I want her too. I am with her just about everyday. I dont know what I would do without her. She is everything i have ever wanted. Makes me happy when I only thought that was a pipe dream I hear exactly what you are saying however I am a firm believer in the fact that you cut all ties with the current relationship before starting a new one. I also believe that that what you think may be in the best interest of the children also may not be the truth. Children will sense the tension between two parents as well. You have yourself in a difficult situation being that you want to be with the one you love and cannot be. However what will you do if the one you love is not willing to wait until the day that you will be there? We all say that we will wait however sometimes the wait gets to hard to keep doing...
Izzar Posted April 2, 2007 Posted April 2, 2007 Will be leaving soon enough. Just have to stick it out for what is best at the moment. Soon enough is NOT soon enough ya know?!
whichwayisup Posted April 2, 2007 Posted April 2, 2007 How old are your children? Just protect your kids. Obviously your marriage is over and you have no intention of even trying to give it one last shot - So when you do end your marriage, take your time phasing in the OW into your kids life. They are going to have a real rough time finding out that mommy and daddy are not together anymore, last thing they need is a new step mom in their lives so quickly. Some say, up to a year before the OP is introduced... Good luck.
Author openingday Posted April 2, 2007 Author Posted April 2, 2007 No, she doesnt. Guess she will know though Does she know you're on LS?
Izzar Posted April 2, 2007 Posted April 2, 2007 I hope she does wait. I want her too. I am with her just about everyday. I dont know what I would do without her. She is everything i have ever wanted. Makes me happy when I only thought that was a pipe dream Ok. And what if the love of your life can't take it anymore & decides to get on with her life? Will you leave & divorce your wife then? If so, why wait til your gf has had enough of the waiting & heartache?
Author openingday Posted April 2, 2007 Author Posted April 2, 2007 in our 30's. married over ten years. No counseling. Dont feel the need. No feelings really other than parents of our children. Just an important time in one childs life that could effect them. The other will have time to heal. Just curious...what are your ages and how long have you been married? What types of counseling, if any, have you and your wife sought out? Do you feel any guilt over living a double life, etc.? You only speak of the one child but state you are staying for your "kids"....why is it only in the best interest of one of your children to continue the marriage?
Izzar Posted April 2, 2007 Posted April 2, 2007 No, she doesnt. Guess she will know though Oh I'm sure you'll tell her before anyone else does. Right? She'll be flattered by what you've posted about her being the love of your life.
Izzar Posted April 2, 2007 Posted April 2, 2007 in our 30's. married over ten years. No counseling. Dont feel the need. No feelings really other than parents of our children. Just an important time in one childs life that could effect them. The other will have time to heal. Sorry but:rolleyes: !
Author openingday Posted April 2, 2007 Author Posted April 2, 2007 She understands. Ok. And what if the love of your life can't take it anymore & decides to get on with her life? Will you leave & divorce your wife then? If so, why wait til your gf has had enough of the waiting & heartache?
Izzar Posted April 2, 2007 Posted April 2, 2007 She understands. OpeningDay, Kids adjust & at the ages of your children, I don't think you are helping them by waiting to exit the marriage. Just my opinion here.
Author openingday Posted April 2, 2007 Author Posted April 2, 2007 She knows and understands. I believe in the same things. We came a long way. You might not understand. But she does and knows were I want to be and will be.
Izzar Posted April 2, 2007 Posted April 2, 2007 She knows and understands. I believe in the same things. We came a long way. You might not understand. But she does and knows were I want to be and will be. Ok. If you say so.
Author openingday Posted April 2, 2007 Author Posted April 2, 2007 I have no doubts in her or the relationship. She should have none either. Ok. If you say so.
Izzar Posted April 2, 2007 Posted April 2, 2007 OpeningDay, Must you be so vague when you answer questions that are asked here?
Author openingday Posted April 2, 2007 Author Posted April 2, 2007 I am not vague. If you feel I am i am sorry. Trying to answer as best as I can. OpeningDay, Must you be so vague when you answer questions that are asked here?
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