mental_traveller Posted April 6, 2007 Posted April 6, 2007 !!! So, do you think this is grounds for a divorce? I can't believe how freaking wishy washy I've become since I told him I wanted him to move out. I'm worried that I'll make an irreversible mistake that I'll regret forever, blah blah blah. He is doing so well with everything else. And I worry about our kids growing up without mom and dad together, etc. God, I'm such a f*cking mess. Combined with everything else then yes, it's enough to divorce, easily enough. You'll never be able to go back to feeling his #1, his lover & companion. You'll always be thinking of yourself as 2nd to this wonderful ex of his. Not to mention the TOTAL lack of respect he showed by bringing this up. Seriously, this is something that even a total sleazeball would not say unless they were your mortal enemy and wanted to make you feel like sh*t. Why the hell is your own husband telling you this? This is just beyond the pale. He's effectively saying that he's only with you because he's resigned himself to having no decent sex life. Grow some backbone, ignore his (temporary) "niceness", it will disappear as soon as you take him back. His real actions, his real appreciation and concern for you, was shown by how he behaved in the last few years, how he ignored your complaints and issues, and now he has just rubbed salt into the wound. Get rid of this guy or you will never have any self-esteem again!
mental_traveller Posted April 6, 2007 Posted April 6, 2007 Good chance he's saying these things out of hurt, not what he actually feels. By you threatening divorce it has put him on edge. I would highly suggest marriage counseling and good chance he will end up saying the same thing I just told you. It doesn't matter how bad he is hurting, you never say something like that to your partner. It's like a women telling a guy he has a tiny dick and never made her come like her previous boyfriends. There is *NO* excuse for what he did!
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