confused&alone Posted April 2, 2007 Posted April 2, 2007 My boyfriend split with me on 19th January, its been a tough couple of months......the first month was the toughest. I had been sleeping with him still up until about 2 weeks ago then i decided that enough was enough because i was being used but i still felt like i wanted to be close to him......we do still talk on msn and if we happen to see each other (one of my best friends lives next door to him so its kind of hard to avoid him) we still get on really well but now that sex is out of the question i think he is moving on which scares me. I dont know if he is seeing anyone at the moment but i dread the day when i find out that he is seeing someone. The last couple of nights i havent been able to sleep because im so worried about him forgetting me and finding a new girl
vivrantflo Posted April 2, 2007 Posted April 2, 2007 Hey there! If you don't mind me asking, why did the relationship end in the first place? And do you want him back?
polywog Posted April 2, 2007 Posted April 2, 2007 You need to practice NO CONTACT, NC. It's impossible to move on without that. You do it so you are away from it and can eventually have the space to get clear with yourself.
stace79 Posted April 2, 2007 Posted April 2, 2007 I can sympathize....I've been broken up for about three months now (I guess only a month officially we took a "break" god I hate that phrase). My ex had feelings for his ex of like four years, and he's officially decided to ask her if they can try and work things out. I'm 99% sure she won't say no because she hates that he was with me and did nothing but try and break us up when she found out about us, and her saying no means he would come back to me. (Not sure that I'd want him now anyway, but regardless.) Anyway I know how you feel...that sick feeling in your gut when you think about your ex kissing or holding hands or whatever else with someone new. It's sickening. Just hang in there....if we didn't have these sh**heads showing us what we DON'T want we probably wouldn't appreciate something good if we get it. It will get better, for both of us.
Author confused&alone Posted April 3, 2007 Author Posted April 3, 2007 Hey there! If you don't mind me asking, why did the relationship end in the first place? And do you want him back? Hi there, He ended the relationship saying that things didnt feel right and he didnt want the commitment although he did still love me (we had been together 5 years, well would have been on the 28th March) We had moved into a house share with a friend of ours in October and it seemed to be going ok for the first few weeks but then we started arguing about money, bills, space and other things like me always pestering him when he was out with his friends (ok, i admit i did do that when we first started dating each other, i dont know why, it wasnt that i didnt trust him it was just because i wanted to be with him all the time). Another reason was because i went out with friends and got drunk and on the odd occasion kissed other guys, he always forgave me but now that we have split he kept bringing it up and now i feel awful about doing it (i know i shouldnt have but the kisses meant nothing to me at the time and dont now) I did so many stupid things and i wish i could take them all back, ive tried everything to get him back, talking, trying to be friends, i even bought him a cake for his birthday and made him a meal but i dont know what else to do. I still love him so much and each day is killing me, i think that moving in together was the worse thing we could have done, it killed our relationship but i cant take it back now.........although i wish i could
vivrantflo Posted April 3, 2007 Posted April 3, 2007 hey, it sounds like the both of you made some mistakes in the relationship, and thats natural.. you guys were together 5 years, you're gonna go through ups and downs. I totally understand that you still love him, and I'm 99% sure he still loves you too. If he broke up with you cause of the lack of wanting a commitment, chances are he is interested in dating other people.. As hard as that is to hear, it may be true. What I suggest, is that you let him know how u feel one final time, and then go into no contact. You need to, so you can go on with you life (not necessarily dating) and not have him consume your mind so much.. which is hard after 5 years. I'm 100% positive he'll contact you again down the line, but you gotta give him, and most importantly yourself time to get over the break up. Time is sooo theraputic (sp?) and it answers all questions.. Just keep your head up hun, and live life.. if you two are meant to be, trust me, he'll come back and let you know. Good luck And to Stace79, I'm sorry to hear about your story.. being a rebound sucks, and I RESENT people that rebound with innocent people and hurt their feelings..
Ellebaby Posted April 4, 2007 Posted April 4, 2007 i know how much it hurts i had a boyfriend for nearly 3 years and he left me in a ****ing sms msg!! then i found out he was seeing this girl that was supposed to be my friend!!!! but to tell u the truth im glad he was cause it made me realise how much of a he was which made me get over him faster xxx
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