Woggle Posted April 3, 2007 Posted April 3, 2007 Not at all. My wife is beautiful and she is way more than a fling. I can't explain it but when a man has met the one he just knows it. That is why you see men in 10 year relationships with a woman they never marry but then break up with her and marry another woman a year later. It has nothing to do with how attractive she is.
pelagicsands Posted April 3, 2007 Posted April 3, 2007 Thanks for settling that, Woggle. I thought that the only hot women in relationships were lesbians. Again, thank you.
Woggle Posted April 3, 2007 Posted April 3, 2007 Thanks for settling that, Woggle. I thought that the only hot women in relationships were lesbians. Again, thank you. Look at how many famous hot chicks are in relationships or married. They can't be all lesbians.
pelagicsands Posted April 3, 2007 Posted April 3, 2007 Look at how many famous hot chicks are in relationships or married. They can't be all lesbians. You're so right. I just wasn't thinking straight.
bridget_jones Posted April 3, 2007 Posted April 3, 2007 My wife is beautiful . Every guy thinks their wife is beautiful. No bias there, right? That was my point in the first place. Guys are not going to pick a woman who they personally don't find physically attractive or "hot' to them to be in a romantic relationship with.
DanielMadr Posted April 3, 2007 Posted April 3, 2007 Every guy thinks their wife is beautiful. No bias there, right? That was my point in the first place. Guys are not going to pick a woman who they personally don't find physically attractive or "hot' to them to be in a romantic relationship with. ...in perfect world, yes. Reality is different. He marry a girl who is out of his league so to speak and when he finally grows up and knows hot to deal with women he reconsider his options.
pelagicsands Posted April 3, 2007 Posted April 3, 2007 Reality is different. It can sure jump up and bite you on the bum.
DanielMadr Posted April 3, 2007 Posted April 3, 2007 It can sure jump up and bite you on the bum. Yeah Im complete with scars already:D
bridget_jones Posted April 3, 2007 Posted April 3, 2007 ...in perfect world, yes. Reality is different. He marry a girl who is out of his league so to speak and when he finally grows up and knows hot to deal with women he reconsider his options. Oh yes, this happens SO often, LOL. Guys don't marry women who they don't want to marry and don't want to have sex with.
DanielMadr Posted April 3, 2007 Posted April 3, 2007 Oh yes, this happens SO often, LOL. Guys don't marry women who they don't want to marry and don't want to have sex with. Why the sarcasm? Its really like that. He has not enough balls to go for hot chick so he goes for less. She finds him a catch. She gives him sex and he is happy. She is not that bad so he marries her. After years he grows some balls or whatever and he is happy to divorce her and marry some 10 years younger.
a4a Posted April 3, 2007 Posted April 3, 2007 Why the sarcasm? Its really like that. He has not enough balls to go for hot chick so he goes for less. She finds him a catch. She gives him sex and he is happy. She is not that bad so he marries her. After years he grows some balls or whatever and he is happy to divorce her and marry some 10 years younger. This does happen........ watching it happen right now to people I know. She (wife) is a beast. He thinks he can get a hottie now because he has some cash. Well his hottie is going to take him for a ride once she gets her citizenship.
nocturnal_kiss Posted April 3, 2007 Posted April 3, 2007 I don't think there is anything wrong with that, but I agree with the poster who said the vast majority of people believe they are above average. That is so true. After years of looking at the same face in the mirror it tends to grow on you. Don't you think? I think when people take a look at themselves in the mirror, they know if they are above average or not lookswise. It's not hard to figure out when people tell you you are pretty, etc. and you look in magazines, the media, celebs. etc. to know what above average attractiveness is. It's not rocket science. Well, maybe the issue isn't her looks. She may have to look deeper than the mirror to find out why guys only want to fling with her.
Trialbyfire Posted April 3, 2007 Posted April 3, 2007 All you have to do is look into the OW/OM Forum. I can't remember which thread but there's enough where there's a 10 year spread between the OW and the MM. It does happen.
PDPullmn612 Posted April 3, 2007 Posted April 3, 2007 for me personally, i dont go after the hottest chicks out there. when i was younger (freshman, sophomore in high school), i would always just tell myself that i wanted to get with the hottest girls i can, not looking for a girlfriend or anything. however, my junior year of high school i got very involved with a girl that was just cute physically to me. now i will stress that personality does have a lot to do with it. i've met many girls who are "hot". but, after getting to know them, if they turn out to be b****** then the whole attraction goes down the drain.
VinaAmez Posted April 3, 2007 Posted April 3, 2007 If that were the case - that 'hot chicks' are only considered fling material - then why are so many attractive women married/in long term relationships etc? I was wondering that myself. Every hot person I've seen is with someone. I've never heard any of them say they can't find anyone.
Trialbyfire Posted April 3, 2007 Posted April 3, 2007 I guess the question is....what is hot? Hot to me, is a state of mind. One persons hot is someone else's...not so hot.
sockpuppet Posted April 3, 2007 Posted April 3, 2007 Seems like lots of people are going to the extremes here...either people are strictly physically hot, or their personalities make them hot. To me it's the whole thing. Looks do matter, at least to most people. I know they matter to me. They're just not all that matter. After I am initially attracted to someone due to looks, their personality either adds or detracts from it. I don't think it's necessary to complicate things by going into what the definition of "hot" is. If a girl always has a steady stream of guys trying to get with her, she usually has at least a certain level of physical attractiveness .
Author chill chic Posted April 4, 2007 Author Posted April 4, 2007 Seems like lots of people are going to the extremes here...either people are strictly physically hot, or their personalities make them hot. To me it's the whole thing. Looks do matter, at least to most people. I know they matter to me. They're just not all that matter. After I am initially attracted to someone due to looks, their personality either adds or detracts from it. I don't think it's necessary to complicate things by going into what the definition of "hot" is. If a girl always has a steady stream of guys trying to get with her, she usually has at least a certain level of physical attractiveness . and that's why it's hard to have guy friends, but sometimes I get along better with guy friends because they don't cause drama. I mean I have girl friends, but I have more guy friends than girl friends probably. But it's hard to tell sometimes when I first meet them if they really want to be my friend or what..I dunno, it's confusing.
VinaAmez Posted April 4, 2007 Posted April 4, 2007 and that's why it's hard to have guy friends, but sometimes I get along better with guy friends because they don't cause drama. I mean I have girl friends, but I have more guy friends than girl friends probably. But it's hard to tell sometimes when I first meet them if they really want to be my friend or what..I dunno, it's confusing. Guys generally don't want to be "just friends."
Pyro Posted April 4, 2007 Posted April 4, 2007 Guys generally don't want to be "just friends." That is true, but there is a small percentage that can be friends with a female.
VinaAmez Posted April 4, 2007 Posted April 4, 2007 Yes BUT you should be able to tell if the guy wants to be friends or not.
Pyro Posted April 4, 2007 Posted April 4, 2007 Yes BUT you should be able to tell if the guy wants to be friends or not. For the most part yes you should. For one, no flirting should occur on his behalf.
Author chill chic Posted April 4, 2007 Author Posted April 4, 2007 Yes BUT you should be able to tell if the guy wants to be friends or not. true, and usually if see that happening, from the start, I'll blow him off. But the others will be normal, and THEN start the flirtiness, so then I dunno what to do. and then others they are just funny so it's hard to tell with that too. I don't I guess I don't know where to draw the line, that's my problem, or to be straight up with them. I do like attention, I'll admit it
VinaAmez Posted April 4, 2007 Posted April 4, 2007 true, and usually if see that happening, from the start, I'll blow him off. But the others will be normal, and THEN start the flirtiness, so then I dunno what to do. and then others they are just funny so it's hard to tell with that too. I don't I guess I don't know where to draw the line, that's my problem, or to be straight up with them. I do like attention, I'll admit it So are you looking for guy friends or something more?
Author chill chic Posted April 4, 2007 Author Posted April 4, 2007 So are you looking for guy friends or something more? guy friends to chill with, because I do tend to be more of myself when I'm around them. some of my girl friends, well 2 in particular stopped hanging out with me because they got mad that I'd get more attention than them while we were out. they were single, so am I, but I guess they were feeling insecure so they don't want to hang out around me. it's happened before, and I don't know why it's such a big deal, and I don't provoke it either it just happens, so that's what I mean by drama, because sometimes I can't trust them.
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