chill chic Posted April 1, 2007 Posted April 1, 2007 Do guys look at a hot chick and think she'd JUST be good for a fling? Do other girls have the problem that if they get looked at alot, they feel self-conscious or insecure? How can you tell if a guy is being genuine?
Tony T Posted April 1, 2007 Posted April 1, 2007 Do guys look at a hot chick and think she'd JUST be good for a fling? Do other girls have the problem that if they get looked at alot, they feel self-conscious or insecure? How can you tell if a guy is being genuine? A guy is genuine if he waits a while to try to get in your pants, if he acts interested in what you have to say, etc. When I look at a hot chick, I ask myself just how long it would take for me to find out she's a bxtch! Attraction is important but if you're serious about finding a mate then you'll take some time, a LOT of time, to get to know somebody. Guys who are simply looking to get laid will go for the hotties for a fling...and most hot chicks know how to handle this.
reservoirdog1 Posted April 1, 2007 Posted April 1, 2007 My GF's a hot chick, I got into her pants on date #2, and a year later, we're still together. Best fling I've ever had.
Pyro Posted April 1, 2007 Posted April 1, 2007 Do guys look at a hot chick and think she'd JUST be good for a fling? Do other girls have the problem that if they get looked at alot, they feel self-conscious or insecure? How can you tell if a guy is being genuine? Some guys do think that way. If you want to see if he is being genuine, then hold off on the sex. Let it wait. If he sticks around and shows interest in you and your life, then he is genuine. The guys who only want a fling will get frustrated if you hold off on the sex and he will not stick around.
Poboy Posted April 1, 2007 Posted April 1, 2007 Do guys look at a hot chick and think she'd JUST be good for a fling? Do other girls have the problem that if they get looked at alot, they feel self-conscious or insecure? How can you tell if a guy is being genuine? in general , Yes. whether a guy is genuine or not if the girl is hot , you can never say... it could be either just like if the girl wasnt hot ... get it
Trialbyfire Posted April 1, 2007 Posted April 1, 2007 How can you tell if a guy is being genuine? Age old problem. Actions speak louder than words. If he introduces you without prompting to all the people that are important in his life, you know he's pretty serious. It means that he wants you in his life instead of solely in his bed.
pelagicsands Posted April 1, 2007 Posted April 1, 2007 Did someone say fling? Why not... I'm not doing anything tonight. I have to be up early tomorrow, though.
bridget_jones Posted April 2, 2007 Posted April 2, 2007 No, because men are physically attracted to their girlfriends. So, they are hot to them. If men only saw hot women as flings, only plain or unattractive women would be in relationships.
pelagicsands Posted April 2, 2007 Posted April 2, 2007 No, because men are physically attracted to their girlfriends. So, they are hot to them. If men only saw hot women as flings, only plain or unattractive women would be in relationships. The point is, the more attractive you are, the more you will be the target of a flingster.
bridget_jones Posted April 2, 2007 Posted April 2, 2007 I disagree, Pelagic Sands. It's all in how you present yourself (body language, dress, and personality/conversation.) When a guy wants a fling, it really doesn't matter too much what she looks like in most cases, he just wants to get laid.
ddnnee Posted April 2, 2007 Posted April 2, 2007 i'm a guy and whenever i spot a hot chick, several questions and comments come to mind: 1) girl is dirty, but how dirty? 2) girl had several boyfriends or is having several boyfriends, therefore is taken. 3) high maintainence, sorry, i'm poor. 4) superficial, therefore, only good in bed and makes a bad mother/wife/companion. conclusion: leave the hot girls to rowdy bikers, parolees, gangsters, and drop outs.
bridget_jones Posted April 2, 2007 Posted April 2, 2007 So when we are talking "hot" girl, we are talking basically about big boobs, how are they dressing, etc.? The way you are putting it, hot girls look slutty? because you associate a "hot" girl with being a "dirty" girl, that's why I state that.
ddnnee Posted April 2, 2007 Posted April 2, 2007 yea, a "hot" chick. if we all dont know what "hot" means, please see this site: http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=hot a "hot" girl usually attracts guys and these guys will boost up the girl's self esteem. the over-inflated esteemed girl will develop a queen complex and become bitchy. besides that, the high availability of mr. dick will definately corrupt her innocence and turn her into ms. slut. Simple. slutty? what is the definition? http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=slut so yes, a hot girl can be slutty because high availabiltiy of mr. dick. remember that any girl, pretty or ugly, can get sex whenever, wherever, from whomever, in 1 minute flat. and if you don't know who mr. dick is, press CRTL + A.
bridget_jones Posted April 2, 2007 Posted April 2, 2007 Eh, I am not going by an urban dictionary. I have been told I am everywhere from beautiful to pretty, to hot, and I do like how I look. I keep myself in good shape and have a pretty face. A girl can look "hot" in jeans and a sweatshirt. The definition you gave for "hot" girl is very general. So...I feel it's how you present yourself to men whether they see you as "fling" or "dating" material. The way you are saying is that girls in relationships are ones who are not cute, attractive, beautiful...because all of those are under the definition of hot in the urban dictionary definition link you have provided, and the ones that guys seek for relationships are not beautiful, pretty, hot, etc. It totally doesn't make sense because physical attraction is definitely a big part of a relationship.
pelagicsands Posted April 2, 2007 Posted April 2, 2007 The way you are saying is that girls in relationships are ones who are not cute, attractive, beautiful... That's not how I'm reading it. This is not about girls in relationships. That has nothing to do with this. It's about girls targeted for flings.
bridget_jones Posted April 2, 2007 Posted April 2, 2007 I think any girl a guy finds physically attractive and could get it up for could be targetted for a fling. Some guys don't even need a girl to be that attractive to get it up, so I'd say the answer to the girl's question is "no." The question states are hot chicks "just" looked at for flings. And hot includes beautiful, attractive, pretty,and cute women, according to the urbandictionary.com definition. And yes, it is related. Because if "hot" women were just targeted for flings by guys, then the non-hot ones would be the ones targeted for relationships. The girl is saying are "hot" girls just wanted for flings. The answer, as I have shown, is no.
Ripples Posted April 2, 2007 Posted April 2, 2007 Guys who are simply looking to get laid will go for the hotties for a fling...and most hot chicks know how to handle this. Eh? I don't think so, Tony. Hot chicks are less likely to be fling material, in my experience, as they feel they don't need to get a guy into bed to sustain his interest. I'm sure it's not true for all 'hot' women, but in my experience, the hotter the woman, the less likely she is to allow herself to be treated as a fling. Conversely, there's quite a few guys who will only go for a woman who's less attractive for a fling as they think she'll a. be gagging for it and b. used to be used.
a4a Posted April 2, 2007 Posted April 2, 2007 Eh? I don't think so, Tony. Hot chicks are less likely to be fling material, in my experience, as they feel they don't need to get a guy into bed to sustain his interest. I'm sure it's not true for all 'hot' women, but in my experience, the hotter the woman, the less likely she is to allow herself to be treated as a fling. Conversely, there's quite a few guys who will only go for a woman who's less attractive for a fling as they think she'll a. be gagging for it and b. used to be used. I would tend to agree with this. If you are "hot" you have your own selection of men to choose from. I am in the above average category, and I do the approaching if interested in a man. Very few spark my interest though. As for getting hit on for a fling/laid...... most men won't because I send out a vibe - if they get inappropriate they will be decapitated.
pelagicsands Posted April 2, 2007 Posted April 2, 2007 Hot chicks are less likely to be fling material, in my experience, as they feel they don't need to get a guy into bed to sustain his interest. The "hot" chicks are the ones who are fling material, because they believe people only value them for their looks, and consequently use flings to raise their flagging self-esteem. I am in the above average category, 99% of people say that. The 1% that don't are the truly attractive (and modest) ones.
a4a Posted April 2, 2007 Posted April 2, 2007 The "hot" chicks are the ones who are fling material, because they believe people only value them for their looks, and consequently use flings to raise their flagging self-esteem. 99% of people say that. The 1% that don't are the truly attractive (and modest) ones. well look at my avatar....... then try to deny my hottness factor! :lmao: If you have a brain in your head..... you realize people may initially value your looks. You stay away from those types, or use them to purchase large valuable items for you. :lmao: They are also good for running errands for the hotties.
Ripples Posted April 2, 2007 Posted April 2, 2007 The "hot" chicks are the ones who are fling material, because they believe people only value them for their looks, and consequently use flings to raise their flagging self-esteem. Like you'd know MH.
bridget_jones Posted April 2, 2007 Posted April 2, 2007 There is nothing wrong with being self-aware of your physical attractiveness. a4a was just being honest. When you can 1. look in a mirror and 2. people tell you you are "hot" "cute" "pretty" "attractive" etc. etc. you know you are attractive. What is wrong with admitting it to yourself? saying you are "above average" looking is hardly gloating about your looks or anything. That said, I like how I look. I wouldn't change my face with anyone in the world. In today's world of teenagers having such low self-esteem and image issues, I think it is a healthy attitude.
a4a Posted April 2, 2007 Posted April 2, 2007 There is nothing wrong with being self-aware of your physical attractiveness. a4a was just being honest. When you can 1. look in a mirror and 2. people tell you you are "hot" "cute" "pretty" "attractive" etc. etc. you know you are attractive. What is wrong with admitting it to yourself? saying you are "above average" looking is hardly gloating about your looks or anything. That said, I like how I look. I wouldn't change my face with anyone in the world. In today's world of teenagers having such low self-esteem and image issues, I think it is a healthy attitude. I do alright..... need to get my butt back into shape.... winter laziness takes a toll...... I like my ass walnut crackin' tight! :lmao: :lmao: Besides my H is hot so who cares what I look like, I gotta look at him more than I have to look at myself. :lmao:
Rediculous Posted April 2, 2007 Posted April 2, 2007 What is wrong with admitting it to yourself? I don't think there is anything wrong with that, but I agree with the poster who said the vast majority of people believe they are above average. That is so true.
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