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BobFrot New Member

BobFrot

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Well where do i start,

 

i have been with my present partner for about ten years now and we have two fantastic kids

 

the problem is over the last month i have fallen for a girl who loves 300 miles away, who i have never met.

 

we got to know each other through work and it has been a real whirlwind month where i have told her virtually my life story and she has told me hers and i just know this girl is the person i have been waiting to meet all my life

 

my present relationship has been on the rocks for a while after my partner admitted to an affair(well one night stand)

 

i know the average person would say "your stupid, don't do it, stop now"

but i cant stop thinking about her and am finding things at home a struggle as i am constantly thinking about her

 

we have exchanged photos and have long phone chats everyday and send texts and e-mails constantly

 

i just need to know that i am not alone with this problem and if anyone has been in a similar situation and what happened and if there was a happy ending or if tears where shed and lifes ruined

Island Girl Established Member

Island Girl

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You are in "the grass is greener" phase.

 

ALL relationships are great at first. It has only been a month.

 

Just remember back to the first month that you spent with your current partner, I bet it didn't suck.

 

The chances of a relationship working out in any way are less than 50%.

 

At the same time, if you don't commit to rebuilding the current relationship, that one isn't going to last either.

 

So you could sacrifice your current relationship and pursue the new one accepting whatever comes with no regrets as to what you are left with in the end (it may be nothing).

 

Or you could choose to try to make it work sincerely with your current partner - with which you are facing working through infidelity - it may be tough going and in the end not work out.

 

You've got some tough decisions that need to be made. Hopefully you will think long and hard before proceeding so you will not end up with regrets.

Poboy Established Member

Poboy

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i know the average person would say "your stupid, don't do it, stop now"

 

i guess even the intelligent ones would tell you so ...

4whatItsWorth

4whatItsWorth

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...over the last month i have fallen for a girl who loves 300 miles away, who i have never met...we got to know each other through work...

 

If you never met her how did you find her through work? :S Is she a customer and called complaining or is she a person from the same compay from another part of the world? It's all veyr confusing...

 

...except for this bit: the grass always seems greener on the other side.

 

I've been in several distance relationships, and you can NEVER tell a person via internet alone. You won't know what she is REALLY like until after a few months/years together. You have not given enough detail to explain why she is "the one". If you have been with your partner for ten years already, didn't you at one point think that SHE was "the one"?

 

Problems that you have with your present partner can still end up becoming problems in your new relationship. Especially if it was grounded on an EA or PA.

 

Give your relationship a second try - after all, you took her back once, so she must have done something right? With children involved, you're putting much at stake.

Andrea1234 Member

Andrea1234

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are you inlove with the girl thats 300 miles away?

Frances Established Member

Frances

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Well where do i start,

 

i have been with my present partner for about ten years now and we have two fantastic kids

 

the problem is over the last month i have fallen for a girl who loves 300 miles away, who i have never met.

 

we got to know each other through work and it has been a real whirlwind month where i have told her virtually my life story and she has told me hers and i just know this girl is the person i have been waiting to meet all my life

 

my present relationship has been on the rocks for a while after my partner admitted to an affair(well one night stand)

 

i know the average person would say "your stupid, don't do it, stop now"

but i cant stop thinking about her and am finding things at home a struggle as i am constantly thinking about her

 

we have exchanged photos and have long phone chats everyday and send texts and e-mails constantly

 

i just need to know that i am not alone with this problem and if anyone has been in a similar situation and what happened and if there was a happy ending or if tears where shed and lifes ruined

 

Of course you can'nt stop thinking of her. She is your fantasy your escape from the ordinary life. You can tell each other what you want the other to hear. It iis not real life.

 

Try putting some of that energy into your relationship and it may pay higher dividents than your fantasy one.

 

Good luck

Frances Established Member

Frances

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Well where do i start,

 

i have been with my present partner for about ten years now and we have two fantastic kids

 

the problem is over the last month i have fallen for a girl who loves 300 miles away, who i have never met.

 

we got to know each other through work and it has been a real whirlwind month where i have told her virtually my life story and she has told me hers and i just know this girl is the person i have been waiting to meet all my life

 

my present relationship has been on the rocks for a while after my partner admitted to an affair(well one night stand)

 

i know the average person would say "your stupid, don't do it, stop now"

but i cant stop thinking about her and am finding things at home a struggle as i am constantly thinking about her

 

we have exchanged photos and have long phone chats everyday and send texts and e-mails constantly

 

i just need to know that i am not alone with this problem and if anyone has been in a similar situation and what happened and if there was a happy ending or if tears where shed and lifes ruined

 

Of course you can'nt stop thinking of her. She is your fantasy your escape from the ordinary life. You can tell each other what you want the other to hear. It iis not real life.

 

Try putting some of that energy into your relationship and it may pay higher dividends than your fantasy one.

 

Good luck

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