gladys Posted April 1, 2007 Posted April 1, 2007 i have been dating my boyfriend for about 3 years counting recently b/c we have i daughter so we known each other longer. Well recently he had started acting wierd he has a new cellphone and didnt want to give me the number and he would call me private but yet he did give it to his family. Anyways he called me the other day to ask if i could go see him[ he lives in houston and i live 5 hours away] i told him i couldnt b/c i had to work well he got emotional. Then he lasted 2 weeks w/out calling & when he did he acted like nothing i was upset b/c he lasted that long w/out calling, so then he asked me the same question i answered well i dont need to go see you its your responability to come & see us well he got mad and hanged up on me. I got mad so i called his sis in law to get his # & i called of course he didnt answer. Then he called & all he said was so if i go see my daughter will you let me i said yeah & he tried to tell me that what i said was like i didnt want to bw with him anymore &i dont know what to do i cant talk to him about that subject b/c he "doesnt feel like talking about it" what should i do i love him alot his my babys dad?????
BlueEyedSarah Posted April 2, 2007 Posted April 2, 2007 I am finding it hard to understand what your typing. What does your situation have to do with him not giving you he's new phone number?
Island Girl Posted April 2, 2007 Posted April 2, 2007 Not giving you his phone number is a BAD sign and should have been a deal breaker as far as a relationship. This is where you should have put your foot down and said, "there is no relationship between us then. You can see your daughter, she needs you in her life, but I don't." If it has gotten to the point where he actually approached the no phone number situation I'm sure there have been plenty of times along the way when you accepted terms of the relationship when you should have rejected them but that doesn't matter - you can't go back. But you have to realize -- not having his phone number -- he knows you can't call even in an emergency situation dealing with his daughter?! To accept this and maintain a relationship is madness and you are asking him to see you as worthless. You are not demanding respect so you won't get any. You need to stand up for yourself. Realize you deserve better treatment and put your foot down. It may get a reaction - he may decide he made a mistake "blah blah blah". At which point, if you still want him (he's a jerk IMO), then you can set different perimeters for the relationship. But my advice would be to be alone for a little while and work on your self-esteem. You are raising a daughter who will look to your relationship as what "love" looks like later in life. Do you really want her to deal with what you are dealing with now? Would you want her to let a man treat her so disrespectfully and half-heartedly? Or do you want her to have a relationship with a man that is respectful and loving? Where the people involved are kind to each other? Demand what you want in a relationship for yourself as if you are demanding it for HER because you really are.
ddnnee Posted April 2, 2007 Posted April 2, 2007 sounds like good game for you. GG. avoidance he is doing, breakup soon he will.
Salam For Ever Posted April 3, 2007 Posted April 3, 2007 Dear gladys First you must know your daughter need you . and if you stand with her it better to you as mother or let me say you have to be mother of light . Second your boyfriend is cheating. You shouldn’t throw your life away by cheating love. You should know the precious time of your existence is now to come with real love not sacrifices love. Here maybe you will be sacrifice With this kind of love so will we fall and not get up? Believe me . Take care, a about your self.
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