hunnypot Posted March 31, 2007 Posted March 31, 2007 Ok, this is going to be a long one...I want to make sure I lay out the whole situation and then I want everyone's opinion. Ok...I have been with my boyfriend for 7.5 years. For almost all of the relationship neither one of us has trusted each other. The first night that I stayed at his house I went through his email and found an email from his "ex" saying how much she enjoyed the night they spent together and she couldn't understand why he was acting so weird after they had sex. (The night that she was speaking of would of been a night that we were already together.) His explanation was that the clock on her computer was wrong so when she sent that email it showed up with the wrong date. BULL****! Now, yes I know I was wrong for going through his stuff, but I wasn't really looking for anything at the time. I was just being nosy, that's my nature. I've always been a curious creature. So, okay we moved on from this. Maybe this would be a good point to point out that I was only 15 years old and he was 24 at the time. I know, I know...terrible! Now, that that's out of the way, let's move on... When I was 18 I moved in with him. We got along good for a while, but then things started going sour again. We were always arguing and eventually I found out that he was seeing this woman that he worked with. The way I found out was one Saturday morning we were sleeping and the phone rang. He didn't answer and let the machine get it. Well the volume on the machine was up and it was her "I had such a great time last night. I was just calling to see what you were up to, call me, blah, blah, blah". Finally after a few more incidents like that, I packed up all my stuff and moved out. I went back home to my mom's house. Then we started talking again and eventually began dating again. Then in December of 03 we bought a house together. (The mortgage was only in his name, thank god.) Things went good until Feb of 05. Then we got into it and I asked him (in the heat of an argument) "So are you saying you want to see other people?" And he said "Yeah, I think I am." So after that I moved out, again. I found a cute lil apartment and moved in. We had both agreed that we would work on our issues while we were apart and see if we could reconcile and make things work. I was working, while he was out meeting and dating other people. We finally decided that it was time to make another go of it. I moved back in May of 06. Now, here's where things get good. I'm not sure when he started talking to his Australian internet girlfriend, but I know that things are pretty hot and heavy between them. It was around July of 06 when I found out about her. And yes, the way I found out was by going through his text messages on his cell phone. So, I found her on the wonderful world of myspace and tried to tell her that I was his fiancee (oh yeah by this time he had proposed to me) and that we lived together and she should just move on. She just would not believe me. I'm sure that he made me out to seem like the crazy exgirlfriend and told her that I was psycho and just wouldn't leave him alone. I believe that not only because I know how he is, but also because of some of the things she said. So, in February he told me he was going to Texas to see one of his long lost buddies. Come to find out he went to Hawaii to meet his Australian girlfriend. She was there on vacation and paid for a plane ticket for him to come see her. I found out because she sent him a huge package to OUR house and I was just sick of it. I opened the package and inside was a card. The card had a picture of him and her in Hawaii with the leis around their necks. I couldn't believe what I saw. That was Feb 26, 2007. I am now in the process of moving out, finally. I can't believe I've finally gotten the strength to leave him. I've said in the past many, many, many times that I was leaving but I just never did. I always thought things would get better and he would realize that I am a good woman who just wants to be treated right. Now, I've realized that he's never going to change. I wish him and Ms. Australia all the best. I just hope that she realizes what he did to me and that she's not immune to his extra activities. There are obviously many other things that have happened but I just can't list them all here. Should I bother trying to warn her or just leave them both alone and let them figure it out on their own?? Any other advice would be very much appreciated!! Thanks all! ~J
polywog Posted March 31, 2007 Posted March 31, 2007 Geez, thank god you're out of it! Don't waste your time/energy warning Ms.A... Concentrate on getting over that crazy dude, and taking care of yourself.
Author hunnypot Posted March 31, 2007 Author Posted March 31, 2007 Thanks! I know it sounds crazy, especially when i look back and read what i wrote. Love...what a crazy thing?
polywog Posted March 31, 2007 Posted March 31, 2007 Thanks! I know it sounds crazy, especially when i look back and read what i wrote. Love...what a crazy thing? It doesn't sound crazy at all. Just read thru LS threads, and see how many of us have been there! I will agree that love is a crazy thing, though! Take care....
Cossette4 Posted April 1, 2007 Posted April 1, 2007 You should throw a huge party for yourself for making the best decision of your life! Then you should sit back and let their drama-filled, deceitful, disrespectful relationship run its course and go up in flames. Then practice your laugh and hang-up technique for when he calls begging to take you back. Then get excited because someone is out there who is actually a good, decent, faithful person, and he is waiting for you.
Broken Heart T Posted April 2, 2007 Posted April 2, 2007 Dear All, I am happy that I becomes LS member.I am truly sad and devastated right now and I need everyone opinion........ I had been with my ex for 4 years.We live happily together and we even have plans to get married and have babies.We discuss about our dreams, plans and futures together.Both of us are 26.She is my first love.I always told myself that she is perfect for me and and I really want to be with her for the rest of my life.She agreed as well.We are meant to be together. There is no third party involvement and we had sex before.Both of us are virgin.Eventhough we havent married, but our lifestyles already becomes like husband and wife.We live together for 4 years. I luv her and she loves me very much.We broke up because of family involvement.I believe that every couple does quarrel sometimes no matter is a big issue or small.However, when she is unhappy, she tends to say bad things about me in front of her parents and not settle by ourselves.This makes them dislike me.Each time I enter her house, the parents will stare at me angrily.However I did not angry with them because I do really love my ex but I started to have the pressure from her parents.My ex always want me to please her family but she doesnt help me.She always listen to her parents advice and to use it on me.Lastly, she listen to her parents advice and dump me.Her parents advice her that there will be no futures for us if she keep on hanging with me. We have been NC for 3 months.What Im still dont understand is that why parents have to be involve and damage the true love between us?Why we cant be together if we truly luv each other?Although its my 1st love but it does hurt me very much and I have no confidence now on the next relationship.She becomes part of my life and I do believe she already move on but not me.Well, maybe because I luv her more than she luv me.......
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