Guest Posted March 31, 2007 Posted March 31, 2007 Sorry about the longetivity of this post! I would really appreciate your help, though. I know what everyone says: If you truly love someone, you won't leave them. But I don't know if I can tolerate all the heartache anymore. And I love him with all of my heart. My boyfriend/fiancé wanted to marry me. He wanted to move in with me as soon as possible. We have been having some real problems lately and he doesn't want to live with me anymore. He just got an apartment with his friend. Being under the impression that I was moving in, too, he showed me his new apartment and then showed me "his" room. My heart fell and I said, "Our room?" And he said, "Everything doesn't just get better overnight, baby. We'll see how everything works out." Keeping in mind that the night before we had a huge fight due to my insecurity issues. He says I'm pushing him away, he loves me but he feels "miserable". He used to want to spend every waking minute with me, but now he doesn't seem to have much time. He's always going to the bar with his friend that he's moving in with. I realize that the first few months are the "honeymoon" stages but one night we had a fight that seemed to ruin everything. He says he loves me more than he's ever loved anyone and his feelings have not changed for me, and I should stop asking him that because it's not true. I know, I know. I should talk to him about it. And I have been. Every night for the last two weeks, almost. He just gets mad when I want to talk about it and calls me insecure. So I've stopped talking about it. Sometimes I think he's cheating on me, and that's what his deal is. I've been reading up on the "emotional signs" of cheating and it seems to fit the bill, even though I do have significant paranoia. The other night when we got in a fight, he got drunk and told me he wanted all of his stuff back. The next morning I asked him if he still wanted to be with me, and he shrugged. Then later he acted like nothing had happened and told me he wanted to hang out with me, and we had a lovely night. God, I don't know what to do. Any similar situations/helpful advice would be really appreciated in my time of crisis. I'm sick of being sad. Iwould have suggested taking a "break" but everyone knows that's keyword for "break up", and I don't want to end things. Thank you. <3
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