dorky328 Posted March 31, 2007 Posted March 31, 2007 early 30s guy recently been dating early 30s lady .. who is very smart highly educated and somewhat religious (goes to church every week) i've never dated anyone for two months and not had sex .. we have gone out about 10 times .. moslty dinner dates .. she has come over to my place a couple of times, i've been over to hers .. we make out, mildly etc .. but no sex .. the most that happened was she took her shirt off while making out i don't like to TALK about it .. i just do it and have never had so much resistance .. i'm really stumped and don't know how to deal with this .. not had situation like this in the past ...
Walk Posted April 1, 2007 Posted April 1, 2007 Everyones having dinner right now. Why can't you talk to her about it? About how you feel about sex, your expectations, hers, whether or not this should be a long term relationship.. etc... Are you scared she'll get mad at you? Or worried it'll make you look like you're only after sex?
Lauriebell82 Posted April 1, 2007 Posted April 1, 2007 maybe she wants to get to know u better before she hops into bed with u. i'm like that too, i dont sleep with just anyone. have u tried to have sex with her? have u tried to do anythin else and she refused? it sounds like u havnt talked about it,usually if a girl isnt ready to have sex she'll tell u. i ALWAYS tell my bfs the minute they try that i'm not ready. then i can tell if they are really interested in me or just getting laid. like walk said, if u dont know this for sure than maybe u could ask. but DONT try to pressure her. u said she was religious, maybe she wants to wait until marriage. i'm surprised this hasnt come up earlier after two months. usually guys try within like the first couple dates for sex. sounds like ur a gentleman, so keep it up!
Island Girl Posted April 1, 2007 Posted April 1, 2007 Well she is religious and goes to church every Sunday. Chances are she doesn't agree with premarital sex. If it is not something you are willing to wait for - possibly until the two of you are married - then you should have a talk. If you are dating her and not seeing the potential for a lifelong mate it may not even be worth the conversation as you wouldn't be serious at any stage and that is more than likely what she is looking for. Have you probed the religious discussion yet? About how the two of you believe - similarities and differences? Religion is one of the biggies I like to get out on the table right away.
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