funkify Posted March 30, 2007 Posted March 30, 2007 If you've read my post about getting rid of a toxic friend this is about the same girl... My good friend commonly steals people's friends and then gets close to them herself. I have a fantastic bunch of friends I've been close with since high school, they are the only close friends I have. I made the mistake of introducing my toxic friend to them, and being the very friendly girl that she is, they've now taken a liking to her. She now invites them out instead of her own friends isolating them from me. Mind you, she doesn't have many friends of her own. She recently invited me and my friends to her birthday outing as her own friends and didn't even invite any of her own friends. How can I prevent this friend poaching without starting a fight? She includes my friends in everything without me knowing until I get there and find out they were invited as well. I know she will bitch about me to get them to hate me as well, she already has. Please help.
Porn_Guy Posted March 30, 2007 Posted March 30, 2007 How can I prevent this friend poaching without starting a fight? you can't prevent it....everyone is free to socialize with whomever they choose.
Magnatolia Posted April 15, 2007 Posted April 15, 2007 I can see why you would be upset about her bitching about you How do you know for certain she is doing this? I mean, if I was trying to turn people against someone I certainly wouldn't invite that someone as well. And second, who put you in control of your friends social lives? It's their decision who they hang out with. And from what you've written it doesn't sound like she's 'conned' them into liking her or anything. Okay sure if she's abandoning her other friends, that's not cool. But maybe there's a reason - they might not be as close as they used to be. To be honest, you sound like you're jealous. Or afraid that your friends won't be as keen to hang out with you. Doesn't sound like you have much to worry about as your friend is inviting you as well.
zilverenvlinder Posted April 26, 2007 Posted April 26, 2007 That pisses me off, too. I used to have a friend who would try to get "buddy-buddy" with all of my old high school friends.. including my two best friends in the world. For instance, we went to ONE of their parties and two DAYS after she met them she was luring them in and took them both to Applebee's without inviting me. Sick and twisted. Friend poaching B*TCH. I know exactly how you feel. Also, she used to copy my (strange) taste in music and act like she "discovered" all of these unknown bands to make herself look cool to other people. God, I can't stand her. I know your pain, sweety. From personal experience, dump her. Your other friendships are more important. And talk smack about her to the others. Don't let her interfere.
Star Gazer Posted April 26, 2007 Posted April 26, 2007 That pisses me off, too. I used to have a friend who would try to get "buddy-buddy" with all of my old high school friends.. including my two best friends in the world. For instance, we went to ONE of their parties and two DAYS after she met them she was luring them in and took them both to Applebee's without inviting me. Sick and twisted. Friend poaching B*TCH. I know exactly how you feel. Also, she used to copy my (strange) taste in music and act like she "discovered" all of these unknown bands to make herself look cool to other people. God, I can't stand her. I know your pain, sweety. From personal experience, dump her. Your other friendships are more important. And talk smack about her to the others. Don't let her interfere. I find this post to be very mean spirited. You're essentially saying that "they were my friends first, so they can't be yours" - which is downright childish. To top that off, you're directing someone to talk sh*t...why would she want to stoop to your level? Grow up.
Star Gazer Posted April 26, 2007 Posted April 26, 2007 My good friend commonly steals people's friends and then gets close to them herself. One person can't "steal" another person's FRIENDS. We're not talking about stealing a boyfriend or girlfriend here. Friends are free to socialize and be friends with whomever they want. I understand that you might not like your toxic friend befriending your friends, but I do believe that these feelings come from jealousy.
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