Guest Posted March 29, 2007 Share Posted March 29, 2007 I'm sure I'll get flamed, but here goes anyway... This is serious and I'm in a panic. I had a one night stand with a friend who is married in the process of getting divorced. I'm single btw. Evidently I scratched him with my fingernails while we were at it and now it's infected. He and his wife don't sleep in the same bed and haven't for years, but still it seems unlikely that she won't notice this at some point... Does anyone have any good explanations or cover up ideas? All real help appreciated, and to all flamers, even good people make mistakes sometimes and this will never happen again. Thanks! Link to post Share on other sites
puddleofmud Posted March 31, 2007 Share Posted March 31, 2007 suuure... Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted March 31, 2007 Share Posted March 31, 2007 If he's in the process of getting divorced, this shouldn't be an issue. Let it be and see what happens. Link to post Share on other sites
bridget_jones Posted March 31, 2007 Share Posted March 31, 2007 It's really not your problem. You said it was a one-night stand, so it is he who should be panicking, right? He is the one who is "married." Don't know what you're all worked up about. Plus he is in the process of divorce and sleeping in a different bedroom? I don't understand the problem? A lot of people feel that separated is the same as single, and if he doesn't want his soon to be ex wife to see the scratch, again, that is his problem and doesn't really involve you. Link to post Share on other sites
LucreziaBorgia Posted March 31, 2007 Share Posted March 31, 2007 If his story is true, there is little chance she'll see a scratch on his back. Its pretty simple really. Keep his shirt on. Why would he ever have a need to have it off around her if they don't share a bed and are divorcing? If she sees it, one of two things will happen. She simply won't care enough at that point to make a note of it... or, she will lose her sh*t. There isn't a woman out there who is so dumb as to mistake scratches like that for something they aren't. In fact, a good deal of them see 'innocent' scratches and assume the worse. He will have to either refuse to talk about it, or tell her the truth. There really isn't a plausible lie that is going to fly in a situation like that. The only problem I can see coming out of it is if you are all in a 'fault' state - especially ones with AOA or CC (alienation of affection or criminal conversation) laws. That could make a divorce sticky. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted March 31, 2007 Share Posted March 31, 2007 His problem, his marriage. If what he is telling you is true, that they sleep in separate bedrooms and they're in the process of ending their marriage, why even worry? BUT, something tells me that maybe you're realizing he isn't leaving his wife and what he's told you isn't true...Either way, it's still his problem. Another angle here, if you don't want to worry about getting caught, tone it down in the bedroom. You scratch him in bed, that's part of the consquence of your affair with a MM. Link to post Share on other sites
Reckless Posted March 31, 2007 Share Posted March 31, 2007 how oh how is she going to see scratches on his back?! Are you in Australia experiencing such an unbearable wave of heat that he will feel complelled to strip in front of his estranged wife and turn his back on her? Or do you think he'll be gileless enough to ask her to treat the infection because he cannot reach there to apply ointment? Is it so badly infected that it risks leaking puss and blood through his clothing thus eliciting comments from his wife as she passes him on the way to work? If you are not planning a repeat performance of the famous Cat Woman one nighter why oh why would you even give this a second thought? The questions are going round and round (and round) in my head and all I can think is a) troll b) troll c) non troll who is not giving all the information (ie. Said man is married to your sister and they are in fact not estranged and you happened to scratch your initials on his back) d) foolish woman that shouldn't be in the heat of the kitchen since she clearly is not cut out for OW status e) troll You asked not to be flamed but you forgot to request to be believed... Link to post Share on other sites
polywog Posted March 31, 2007 Share Posted March 31, 2007 OK, I'll cut to the chase (I'm not endorsing infidelity, but I love to come up with creative excuses). "I saw a pitbull carrying off a struggling toddler into this bank of rose bushes, while I was taking out the garbage, and I just could not help myself; I crawled Into the thorny mess and scratched my back up in the process! Unfortunately, I never did find the pitbull and it's prey, and I'm just so distraught over this traumatic experience, and in so much pain, that I need you to apply antibiotic ointment now! Maybe a back-rub, too! I feel so bad about that toddler!" Sure to explain the infected wounds and curry sympathy (and medication) at the same time.... Link to post Share on other sites
lrae Posted March 31, 2007 Share Posted March 31, 2007 Sex is messy - wash your hands Link to post Share on other sites
outofdarkness Posted March 31, 2007 Share Posted March 31, 2007 I'm sure I'll get flamed, but here goes anyway... This is serious and I'm in a panic. I had a one night stand with a friend who is married in the process of getting divorced. I'm single btw. Evidently I scratched him with my fingernails while we were at it and now it's infected. He and his wife don't sleep in the same bed and haven't for years, but still it seems unlikely that she won't notice this at some point... Does anyone have any good explanations or cover up ideas? All real help appreciated, and to all flamers, even good people make mistakes sometimes and this will never happen again. Thanks! not condoning A's at all b/c Im a BW but I REALLY HAVE scratched myself close to my bikini line; where did u scratch him?...It was from those really annoying sensor tags they put on new clothing now days...DON"T have any more one night stand w/ any M guys, separated or not!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
RecordProducer Posted March 31, 2007 Share Posted March 31, 2007 I am pretty sure you're the man who had the ONS and your marriage is regular. Did you really think that people would give you any ideas if your story is true? Or if you told the truth... Anyway, I really don't think that his/your wife would buy ANY excuses. The best is to tell the truth or hide the cratches. Link to post Share on other sites
herenow Posted March 31, 2007 Share Posted March 31, 2007 I guess the truth would be out of the question. If you are just asking for another lie to add to this deceitful situation, I'm sure you can come up with a good one all by your little lonesome. Maybe you should blame the troll. Oh, then again that would be taking responsibility for your actions. Sorry, my bad. Link to post Share on other sites
NoIDidn't Posted March 31, 2007 Share Posted March 31, 2007 Sex is messy - wash your hands LOL!!!! He should also wash himself. LOL!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted March 31, 2007 Share Posted March 31, 2007 If you'de like, I could recommend a good anti-bacterial soap. Kitty litter tends to infect... Link to post Share on other sites
herenow Posted March 31, 2007 Share Posted March 31, 2007 She never did say where she scratched him, leaving much to the imagination. Guest, come out come out wherever you are, inquiring minds wanna know what happened. Did the wife find the marks? Is she nursing him back to health or has he run to you for the love and care that only you can give him? Are you pregnant yet? Link to post Share on other sites
pricillia Posted March 31, 2007 Share Posted March 31, 2007 She never did say where she scratched him, leaving much to the imagination. Guest, come out come out wherever you are, inquiring minds wanna know what happened. Did the wife find the marks? Is she nursing him back to health or has he run to you for the love and care that only you can give him? Are you pregnant yet? oh the bitch bug is out today... Guest, I would tell your lover to get some aloe vera... as far as the excuse portion of it... just curious, did MM ask you to help him in this arena? Link to post Share on other sites
herenow Posted March 31, 2007 Share Posted March 31, 2007 I'm not being bitchy, I'm actually being sarcastic and I'm quite happy today. You know as well as I know that I'm only giving her the type of post she came here to get. I'm actually doing a community service. Don't I get points for that? :D Link to post Share on other sites
polywog Posted March 31, 2007 Share Posted March 31, 2007 oh the bitch bug is out today... Si, seniorita! Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted March 31, 2007 Share Posted March 31, 2007 oh the bitch bug is out today... Guest, I would tell your lover to get some aloe vera... as far as the excuse portion of it... just curious, did MM ask you to help him in this arena? pricillia, no one real could be this clueless to ask on a relationship forum about something as simple as scratches, human or otherwise. Link to post Share on other sites
herenow Posted March 31, 2007 Share Posted March 31, 2007 Cute dog polywog. Is she the bitch that P is talking about? If so, there should be more like her, she is absolutely beautiful! Link to post Share on other sites
polywog Posted March 31, 2007 Share Posted March 31, 2007 Cute dog polywog. Is she the bitch that P is talking about? If so, there should be more like her, she is absolutely beautiful! unfortunately, not a beautiful bitch.... there are many others here on LS (me included) to fill that role. He is an Un-neutered Male! Kind of like my ex, only less complicated! Link to post Share on other sites
herenow Posted March 31, 2007 Share Posted March 31, 2007 unfortunately, not a beautiful bitch.... there are many others here on LS (me included) to fill that role. He is an Un-neutered Male! Kind of like my ex, only less complicated! I still love the dog, bitch or not. You're right, there are enough of us to fill the role anyway. I guess she was talking about me since she used my quote. Oh well, I wear the name with honor and I stand by my bitchiness. Link to post Share on other sites
polywog Posted March 31, 2007 Share Posted March 31, 2007 I still love the dog, bitch or not. You're right, there are enough of us to fill the role anyway. I guess she was talking about me since she used my quote. Oh well, I wear the name with honor and I stand by my bitchiness. Oh... well, maybe it's some OW/MM thread subtext stuff, I dunno because I shy away from all that. Maybe not.. I admire and am fond of Priscilla in any case, and you, too, tho I don't "know you" as well... Anyhow, we must all wear the bitch badge with honor, Westminster Kennel Club style. Best of class, bitch. All of us. Link to post Share on other sites
pricillia Posted March 31, 2007 Share Posted March 31, 2007 I'm not being bitchy, I'm actually being sarcastic and I'm quite happy today. You know as well as I know that I'm only giving her the type of post she came here to get. I'm actually doing a community service. Don't I get points for that? :D yes you get points for that!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted April 2, 2007 Share Posted April 2, 2007 Er, OK, firstly if a troll is someone who's fabricating a story just for the sake of posting, that's not me. No, the MM didn't ask me for help but when he told me about the sratch marks I wanted to suggest ways to help him out as I feel responsible. I was stupid and he's in an uncomfortable spot because of me. There is only one bathroom in the house and he is afraid she'll see him coming out of the shower or walking down the hall to his room. He normally evidently would only be wearing a towel around his waist. The split has been amicable mostly and he wants to keep it that way; she might not care at all, you're right, but he would rather be safe than sorry. No I'm not preggers nor would I be. Can't happen. And this isn't any more sordid than I've already let on, and while it may not seem like any big deal, I just thought that I would try to help ensure that it didn't become one as he was concerned about it. Aloe has been obtained already; thanks for that. Thanks as well for the pit bull suggestion...not useful but quite humorous. If anyone else happens to have any suggestions, I'm much obliged in advanced. Link to post Share on other sites
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