shamishank Posted March 29, 2007 Posted March 29, 2007 I was in a two year, very committed relationship, that ended on good terms but has devolved over the last four months. We lived together, shared bills, bank accounts, all sorts of things that people who have been together much longer do. We moved in together really quickly, and it was always a stress for me. Compounded with that was the fact that I was put in a situation where I was paying for her bills because she couldn't afford to. Money was a huge issue for me, not because I'm not giving, but because I don't have alot of it in the first place. (I'm a student) Anyways, towards the end, we were just always arguing, never agreeing on anything, and we had stopped being intimate. I wanted to break it off, but she insisted that it was worth fighting for. In our last fight, I told her I was concerned that she could just leave one day, and ten grand that I had borrowed to pay her international student fees would follow me around, and she'd get off scot-free. She reassured me that she wouldn't do this, that it was ok, etc, etc... Two days later, she turned around and broke it off with me. One month later, she's in a new relationship and has told me to not talk to her ever again, as we've only increased our fighting after the break-up. I don't want her back, that's not the problem. The issue is that after two years of doing everything to support someone, I feel like I've been used. It's a wound of pride, not of the heart. (and so I'm not expecting waves of sympathy) I'm just angry that she turned to someone else so quickly, and that it was someone in our mutual department, which has made it difficult to go out to pub nights, and other social functions where I might run into the both of them. I was wondering if anyone had any thoughts on how to get over this kind of anger? I don't want her back, and I've been doing things for myself, but how do I deal with the feeling of being used?
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