lostsam123 Posted March 29, 2007 Posted March 29, 2007 I met (James) Christian guy from work last year and after three months knowing him I thought he was interested in me because he was giving out some usual flirting signals like play fight teasing and looking at me all the time etc… I think some other co-workers can feel there is something going on between us too. When I enter the kitchen at lunch time he’ll just have to make a fuss and say “hey! Here she is” or “oh no, here she is again” and so many times he’ll say my name randomly for no reason to get my attention also when he finish his lunch he’ll say “look after Sam for me” to the others or “see you later Sam” to me only, even there is 5 other friends in the room. Well some co-workers started a joke about this weird guy Joe (James’s friend) and I are married because they can tell Joe really likes me… at first I was really embarrassed and I made it clear to everyone (especially to James) I don’t fancy Joe, but they still teases me about it, now I just go along with it and talk about Joe as my husband and have a laugh too (but I don’t talk to Joe) sometime when Joe is near me James will tease me about it and as soon as Joe’s gone he will talk about how weird Joe is. I realise now James does play fight and the random names call with one of my close married friend too. And he jokes about her as his wife and he’ll call her darling too!!! If he is interested in me why would he do that??? One minute he’ll give me all the attention and the next he’ll do that with her???? The more I observe James the more I get confuse? I do like him and I have tried to make a move as well, I’ve asked him for his number and I gave him mine, I called him once but he never called me… if he’s interested he would make excuses to call wouldn’t he? I had to go away for a week for a business trip which we used to go together, this time something came up and he couldn’t go but I have text him to let him know that I’ve missed him. He didn’t text me back!!! when I got back to work first thing he asked me how the trip was and he told me he’s got my text. Should I move on? Or should I try harder? Is he interested or just flirting and playing game? How can I make a move but subtle? Because we work together.
waitingforlove Posted March 29, 2007 Posted March 29, 2007 I think he may or may not be interested. If he is, he may be unsure of his feelings or waiting to decide what to do, or he may be just having a good time flirting, without any intention of moving forward. If he isn't, again, he may be just doing this for the "fun" of being a flirt! The best thing you may do is to leave him alone and show him that you are happy without him. Don't show him ANY interest at this point. You have told him that you missed him while being on a trip, and he didn't reply! He just casually asked how the trip was when you got back! It doesn't sound like he's that into you just yet. Now it doesn't mean that you don't have a chance, but only time will tell. Try to back off from him for awhile and see if he's going to come forward. Good luck!
fallendisguise Posted March 29, 2007 Posted March 29, 2007 I 100% agree with waitingforlove. Back off and see what he does. You've told him that you missed him and that should tell him right there that you are interested. I do think he could be doing this to have fun as a flirt, but he could also be really unsure of the situation, especially because you work together and if things were to go sour it could really make for an awkward situation at work. To be honest, he seems kind of childish with the whole thing, which makes me wonder just how old he is. I think it's odd that he started the whole "married" thing too. It almost seems like a retaliation of sorts. Like if he got jealous of the whole thing and decided to do it back. But, I don't know the guy so I can't say for sure. I think you've made it clear you would like to know each other outside of work, by giving him your number and texting him and he is hesitant to do so because he isn't returning your texts. So yes, don't show any interest in him and see what he does.
lostsam123 Posted March 30, 2007 Posted March 30, 2007 Thanks guys for your reply The trip i went on was at the end of Jan this year, after the trip and the no reply to the texting i did back off, i don't say hi or talk to him first, i try not to eat with him in the same room and i hang around with some other friends instead. Since i did that he's been approaching me all the time, try and make conversations with me and also he’ll move into the same room and try and sit near me or facing me at lunch time. And when I chat to everyone in a group I’ve tried not to look at him, but I can see from the corner of my eyes that he’ll concentrate on me and watches me. When he chats in the group also he’ll try and concentrate on me like he is talking to me only. But he is still doing the “married” thing with my married friend. Not know what to do next?????
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