Broken88 Posted March 29, 2007 Posted March 29, 2007 I suppose you could say I've been through an odd problem such as this before. I've also never been to an advice site before so this is a little sketchy. The only way I could possibly explain it is by starting at the beginning. I was dating this girl for two years named Irene. We loved each other and became best friends along with being in a relationship. Each passing day we'd laugh and enjoy one anothers company. Over time I noticed something new with her. The sparkle in her eye had died. This changed everything. We fought and argued countless times. We then grew apart and broke up deciding on remaining friends. We took time and space from each other. The fights still continued. She ended up dating several times. One day I met a girl who was extrodinarly nice. She had a deep intelligence and intellect that seemed to parallel with me. She loved the things that Irene never even cared for and were things I had also loved. Of course this new girl and I were simply friends and dating for me wasn't an option. Irene decided to make a stand. She got her boyfriend and some friends to hack into my accounts and pose under my identity. She sent several messages that embarassed myself and this new girl I met. My new found friendship was ruined. Irene hurt me terribly and left me emotionally crippled. I couldn't function properly and and girl I trusted enough to let in or have feelings for would ultimately dissipate from grasp. Irene moved far away and got married leaving me alone with angered people. Eventually this new girl and I met up to speak again and became good friends. It wasn't until much later I realized I was starting to like her a lot. We hung out and laughed and enjoyed ourselves. I would never hug her for respect and to make sure she was comfortable. She initiated the first hug and I realized to her I was no longer the creep Irene led her to believe I was. Then she came to me for dating advice. She was interested in another guy and wanted my opinion. A little heart broken I reminded myself I was her friend so I supported her and gave her the best of luck. A week went by and we continued to hang out but this other guy was never mentioned again. Then one day something amazing happened. Her and I sat together and just talked. Not like we had before, this was serious. We spilled our souls out on the table telling each other our deepest secrets. We made promises of our friendship and that I would always be there for her and vice versa. This is when I discovered that she was unsure about the other guy. Apparently they had kissed once and went on a few dats but when she asked him, "So, are we together?" He responded. "Well I don't know, I'm not sure if I believe in relationships all that much." She looked heart broken and I don't blame her. Point being after this long story is that we still hang out and my feelings grow. I try my hardest to hold back knowing she may still have feelings for this other guy. I've been hurt so bad by my past relationships and I don't know what to do. If I try to express my feelings to her I'm afraid the let down will do a lot of damage to myself and our friendship. Please, anyone out there who can help?
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