milan Posted March 29, 2007 Posted March 29, 2007 So my ex and I broke up when he moved to another city for a job a year and a half ago. During the first year we were hooking up when he was in town and online. We were talking about moving in together when he met someone new(that broke my heart). Well that was six months ago and now he lives with her. Then about a month ago he started emailing and hooking up with me via im again. He tells me he still has feeling for me and its hard not to think about me. Last week he was in town and we hooked up. I'm still very much in love with him and can't seem to say no to his request. How do I deal with this? its been a year and a half and I still can't bring myself to date anyone else. I keep wishing he will leave her and come back but all he wants is sex. What can I do?
Guest Posted March 29, 2007 Posted March 29, 2007 Sigh...why would you want someone only willing to give you half their time..if that? There is a saying and its true: The OW gets 1/2 a life and the M gets a life and 1/2.
LakesideDream Posted March 29, 2007 Posted March 29, 2007 Either take the easy way out and be the "back up babe", or decide it's time to cut this dude off and force him to make a choice. Frankly unless the two of your are very young and equally immature, it doesen't sound like a relationship with a future.
daphne Posted March 29, 2007 Posted March 29, 2007 If you like pain and have no self esteem, stay with his hook up schedule. Otherwise, I say you stop being a doormat and move on. You're letting him hurt you like this.
lorr Posted March 29, 2007 Posted March 29, 2007 First of all stop deluding yourself. What makes you think he's going to leave her, and come running back to you? Its been a year and a half, and I think you need to accept it, rather than letting this sham drag on. He's getting the best of both worlds. Just imagine he gets to press you out, then when he's done he goes back to her. You obviously have low self-worth to even consider being his sex playmate. Nows the time to put the focus back on you,take control by telling him you want no part of this silly game, and move your arse on.
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