hrtbroken99 Posted March 28, 2007 Posted March 28, 2007 my ex who left me 4 months ago, his bday is coming up. I have made nc up to this point. He also has made no contact with me since the breakup. his bday is coming up and I wanted to send him a b-day card. I don't expect him to call me or contact me in any way if I send the card. I would also state it in the card that I dont expect any response from you and state that this would be the last form of contact I will ever make in a way it would be a final goodbye. I would keep it generic and just wish him a happy bday and not use any sappy love language or anything. What do you guys think of this idea? I would like to know about anyones experiences where they have sent a card and NOT expected a response in return.
a4a Posted March 28, 2007 Posted March 28, 2007 Just don't send it. You may get a nice hello back or you may get nothing...... or like my H's X a rather blunt and not so nice request to cease contact with him. He may have moved on and he could be happy not hearing from you. You already had your goodbye.... 4 months ago. I have to say that is funny to say - I don't expect a response- what is the point of sending it? B-day cards are meant for people you want a response from or that you care about. You send cards to people you are in contact with and that want contact with you. Leave him alone. Good chance you will come off looking like an idiot as well and he will get a good chuckle from the card.
Author hrtbroken99 Posted March 28, 2007 Author Posted March 28, 2007 your right...cards are suppose to be sent to those you have contact with...thanks for your input
CaliGuy Posted March 28, 2007 Posted March 28, 2007 Nooooo, don't send it. He hasn't made any effort to contact you, why does he deserve a card? Cards are for people you care about and who care about you.
Guest Posted March 28, 2007 Posted March 28, 2007 stick to the no contact your just using this as an excuse to connect. then the viscious cycle starts.
Author hrtbroken99 Posted March 28, 2007 Author Posted March 28, 2007 ok I will not send one. You guys are right. He doesnt even deserve one from me not even a text message nothing. I know that inside I miss him dearly and for the past 2yrs celebrated his bday and wished him it and to not do it this year would be kind of werid. But then he never cared to contact me on my bday a month ago so its stupid of me to do it. Thanks for the replies. I love this site
polywog Posted March 28, 2007 Posted March 28, 2007 Though you've gotten great advice, and have resolved It, I just want to say that I agree with all of the above posters and am proud of you that you took their advice, for mine would have been the same. I understand the temptation, by the way. It's hard to move on! But we do!
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