wlminfla Posted March 28, 2007 Posted March 28, 2007 I miss her...there I said it :-) Yes she left me, but I still miss her. Not a whole I can do about it, but the missing her feeling is alive and well. Thanks for listening!
stace79 Posted March 28, 2007 Posted March 28, 2007 Isn't it sick how we miss people who treated us like dirt? I'm there with ya. My ex pretty much told me that he loved me but there weren't as many "sparks" or "butterflies" or some BS as with his ex-girlfriend, who'd done nothing but try and break us up for five months. And yes, I stupidly miss him. Such is life, I guess. I'm working toward the day that I don't care anymore. That's my ultimate goal. When I can see that he is with someone else, and honestly not care, then I will feel better. =) Good luck...at least we are honest.
polywog Posted March 28, 2007 Posted March 28, 2007 I miss my ex, too....very much so. We're all kind of like the Tin Man in "Wizard of OZ", at least we have a heart! Some people don't, and I pity them, because we will have something wonderful to give to a deserving partner someday.
Trialbyfire Posted March 28, 2007 Posted March 28, 2007 When you let someone into your life, you make room for them by pushing aside other things in your life so you have the time to spend with them. When they're gone, it's not suprising that you feel some emptiness. I don't miss him because realistically speaking, he's not the man for me. It doesn't stop me from missing what I thought we had or could have had.
horn4thor Posted March 29, 2007 Posted March 29, 2007 It really does suck bananas, but the feeling goes away.
Crazy for Crazy Posted March 29, 2007 Posted March 29, 2007 Yeah, I'm around the four month mark myself, and hundreds of miles away from my 3 1/2 year relationship ex. And I still think about her daily, almost all the time when I'm alone- and I live alone. Even after going out and 'pimping' to an almost absurd amount. Just sucks.
oppath Posted March 29, 2007 Posted March 29, 2007 I miss my ex too -- it's been 3 months -- and only a 6 month relationship. She's the first thing on my mind when I wake up and I think about her hourly. Mainly I have a hard time letting go of some drama in the month following the breakup; plus I am depressed outside of the breakup so that is trapping me, and so many things I do are associated with her. Luckily I'm moving towns for 6 months. I really feel it will cut all associations. She is definitely not the one for me, I know that, but I was falling in love with her and still love her somewhat, that or it is just the depression talking. I mean, she asked to be FWB 1.5 weeks after she dumped me, and didn't tell me her ex proposed to her (I guess she said no) 1.5 weeks before she dumped me. And on the day she dumped me, she hung out with me for 6 hours, touching, flirting, and kissing when she KNEW she was going to dump me. When I tried to initiate sex, she denied it and wanted to go to dinner, which would have delayed the dump another 2 hours. No way I want someone like that and who treated me so unlovingly, so scared of confrontation. But I miss her. I shouldn't. I should run away. I know I deserve better. And I will find better. She was my first love though (I'm 27), so I'm going through this grief for the first time and while I'm doing everything right, I don't have the confidence that everything will be alright. I know it will, but I guess I feel it will take longer than for other people and I hate missing her. But it is natural. Other things in my life weren't going well and she was the thing that was, so in my mind and in my heart I made room and hope for her. Now I've had to find other things to fill those spaces, and it takes time for those things to give me the same amount of joy.
shockandawed Posted March 29, 2007 Posted March 29, 2007 Add me to the list of missing their ex. We broke up in December after almost three years. She claims she has moved on and is getting married already in May. It really hurts to still be thinking of someone all the time and they may be planning a wedding. I am having a hard time even dating someone and she is already to the marriage point?? It sucks but I really believe it will get better someday. Hang in there.
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