cr8sea Posted March 28, 2007 Posted March 28, 2007 I feel so mean...but i cant help being...happy? validated??? I dont know My ex, who dumped me after appearing madly in love with me til the very last days, just bassically got dumped the same way he dumped me. Four days after our break up, he started seeing this chick (this was a shooocker! he had asked me to move in with him eventually not a week or so before and he got over it so quickly?!). Girly, not exactly what I would consider...well nothing really. Much younger than me ("im a senior (in high school) BIAAATCH!!" type of young), just....yeah. ANYWAY I guess they were seeing each other whatever.... Then I found out, girly apparently got over it and moved right along....much like he did with me....She's now dating another guy, young like her. Him? pretty much dissapeared from the online world (as well as they real one for me!! ) FUnny thing is that I know...like i KNOW he's soooo gonna regret leaving me now...if he's not doing it already. And i know i shouldnt care cuz really, looking at it, i didnt lose much and i wouldnt take him back at this point anyway...but man does it feel good to know he's the one losing out and not me.... Anyway sorry, im being soooo very immature about this whole thing I shouldnt even know about this situation. But i was left so confused and sad, i guess i needed to know as a fact that he's just an idiot for letting me go cuz its gonna be hard as hell for him to find what i was giving him... Oh well... As the song says...what goes around comes back around! Sorry about the rant. I just needed to vent.
magichands Posted March 28, 2007 Posted March 28, 2007 its gonna be hard as hell for him to find what i was giving him Do you have some sort of special technique, or something? I'd be careful about being too smug. If you can do freakish things with your tongue, then please disregard this message.
Icantletgo Posted March 28, 2007 Posted March 28, 2007 I LOVE YOUR STORY. Similar to mine. Now it's time for US to heal and for our real lives to start.
stace79 Posted March 28, 2007 Posted March 28, 2007 Oh how I long for this day with my ex.... Yes it might be immature, but it feels good.
polywog Posted March 28, 2007 Posted March 28, 2007 we love schadenfreude: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Schadenfreude :bunny:
Author cr8sea Posted March 29, 2007 Author Posted March 29, 2007 Do you have some sort of special technique, or something? I'd be careful about being too smug. If you can do freakish things with your tongue, then please disregard this message. Well...BESIDES being able to do freakish things with my tongue... lol. But seriously, the reason why i say that...and again at the risk of sounding like a b*** is that for starters, his dating record isnt all that great. He spent 4 years with a girl who cheated on him...twice...after she broke up with him, he spent 9 months trying to date again, which he couldnt do because, lets be honest here, he's got a few habits that i chose to overlook for his better qualities. In any case, on top of that while he's being on and off from school, without really getting anything done, Ive already finish college and im going into grad school pretty soon. His family loved me, and I treated him really well. So to go from that to a 17 year old who drop him like nothing, and getting back into the dating scene, which apparently from what i hear isnt REALLY his specialty.... Yeah, id say he's gonna be one sorry kid. God, the more i think of it, the more i see how im better off, but at the same time...man i feel like an ass talking about him like that. He was a good kid....but that was just it, he IS a kid, despite his age. Oh well, i guess he'll learn to appreciate what he has while he has it. ANd to the others who posted, thanks for the replies and im sure we all will find a way to see the good side of it. After all, something good always comes from bad things.
Author cr8sea Posted March 29, 2007 Author Posted March 29, 2007 we love schadenfreude: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Schadenfreude :bunny: I know.... thats why i feel so guilty, i shouldnt be happy about it...but honestly, when we broke up and he went on his merry way, like nothing had happened, like he never made promises and plans, and worst, stringing me along after the break up, txting me at all hours every day til i found out about the other chick and put a stop to it made me feel like it wasnt fair. There i was, beating myself for believing in him, with his "i would never hurt you" and his "God i cant believe your mine", while he was happily living like i never happened. So...yeah i feel bad, and maybe...juuuust maybe karma is gonna bite me in the ass...but do allow me the satisfaction of knowing that life isnt all that unfair after all.
polywog Posted March 29, 2007 Posted March 29, 2007 I know.... thats why i feel so guilty, i shouldnt be happy about it...but honestly, when we broke up and he went on his merry way, like nothing had happened, like he never made promises and plans, and worst, stringing me along after the break up, txting me at all hours every day til i found out about the other chick and put a stop to it made me feel like it wasnt fair. There i was, beating myself for believing in him, with his "i would never hurt you" and his "God i cant believe your mine", while he was happily living like i never happened. So...yeah i feel bad, and maybe...juuuust maybe karma is gonna bite me in the ass...but do allow me the satisfaction of knowing that life isnt all that unfair after all. That's why we love schadenfreude! :bunny: The warped, wonderful German (Deutch) version of karma!
Author cr8sea Posted March 31, 2007 Author Posted March 31, 2007 Just as i find out all these, laugh a bit...and make my peace...the ex contacts me.... LOL!!! I soooo saw THAT one coming a mile away..... Ofcourse, he just wanted to know what's up with me...... I very pleasantly and nicely told him that my life is pretty amazing these days and bassically let him know that, nope...im not missing him...but he's welcome to pine over me for as long as he wants LOL!! Ok, im done being 12, just wanted to let you all know how that went
CaliGuy Posted March 31, 2007 Posted March 31, 2007 There is no winner in this story. It's better to be humble and not take pride in his failures but instead, move on with your life and look forward to the future. Not chastising you, it's just not a very confident, secure thing to revel in someone else's failures, even those who have hurt you. If you were truly over the guy, you couldn't care less if he succeeds or fails with someone else. All you have control over is you.
bridget_jones Posted March 31, 2007 Posted March 31, 2007 I hate to say this but just because he got dumped after you, doesn't mean he's not having regrets about dumping you, or even considering you at all. Very possible you're not even crossing his mind. But if it helps you to build your confidence assuming that he does, have fun spending time pondering this.
Author cr8sea Posted March 31, 2007 Author Posted March 31, 2007 I know im being immature...hence why i kept saying that i felt bad, that im acting like im 12 and that karma might bite my ass for this.... But having being played the way i was played, then finding out that the player got played, and THEN on top of it, having the player contacting me after a month of not talking to me, right after he got dump??? Sorry, but im only human. and no, im not over him...however, he doesnt need to know that. Im working on it. (promise no more entries about him after this!! ) And actually....im not exactly happy, per say, that he failed in his hook up. In fact if it had been something that i knew was good for him, id prolly wouldnt be as bitter. The point is that he left me to be a player....which he is not....he left me because his friends told him he should be partying and hooking up, and he listened to them...and fell flat on his face... Yeah....so uh....pardom me if i marvel at how karma worked its magic and taught him a lesson. I guess "maturity" will come with age and i wont "ravel" in things like this when i uh.....hm....cant think of when would that be...but im sure someday it'll happen.
Trialbyfire Posted March 31, 2007 Posted March 31, 2007 Pssst...karma is a b*tch, which is probably why I like her so much...
Author cr8sea Posted March 31, 2007 Author Posted March 31, 2007 I hate to say this but just because he got dumped after you, doesn't mean he's not having regrets about dumping you, or even considering you at all. Very possible you're not even crossing his mind. But if it helps you to build your confidence assuming that he does, have fun spending time pondering this. Hm...i dont know, correct me if im wrong, but breaking NC after a month wouldnt be considered as "crossing his mind"??? Then again he could have dialed the wrong number...although didnt sound like it.... I know i sound very cocky here and it was sure to piss some people off but when i found out about him getting dumped, i thought he would regret leaving me since the main reason why he left was because his friends adviced him to do so so he could party and hook up with other girls (straight from the horses mouth). Seeing as how that wasnt working out well i thought he would realize what he lost by listening to his friends. After all, we were doing just fine before this wonderful advice. Ofcourse, this was all assuming, and if u had posted this before today, i would agree with you..... However, the assumption became a reality when he called me today....then again...he might just want to be "friends"
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