Yui Posted March 28, 2007 Posted March 28, 2007 I've post my story about few weeks ago... It's about my problem with my boyfriend currently in Japan. We had a fight almost 4 weeks ago and we have been in long distance for only 2 months. Basically things were super good until the fight and things just went downhill from there... We barely talk to each other and he said he doesn't know if he love me anymore.....he hasn't initiate break up yet but it's killing me. Last thursday he called me and left me a msg saying how he still love me and want to work things out...2 days later he change his mind again and saying how he isn't sure about his feeling. I'm quite devastated...I don't know what he wants. Sometimes he's warm and sometimes he's hiding. I love him so much and want us to wrok out...but I know it's pretty hard now...especially he seem so confuse... I should be seeing him a month from now...cuz I already booked ticket to go there for 10 days...but one month is very long, considering that we were still really good a month ago... I dunno how to talk to him...it's like I want us to communicate yet I don't want to pressure him....it's so difficult now. I don't know what to do.
VinaAmez Posted March 28, 2007 Posted March 28, 2007 Communication is part of the relationship. If you can't communicate then how's the relationship going to work?
BlueEyedSarah Posted March 28, 2007 Posted March 28, 2007 I've post my story about few weeks ago... It's about my problem with my boyfriend currently in Japan. We had a fight almost 4 weeks ago and we have been in long distance for only 2 months. Basically things were super good until the fight and things just went downhill from there... We barely talk to each other and he said he doesn't know if he love me anymore.....he hasn't initiate break up yet but it's killing me. Last thursday he called me and left me a msg saying how he still love me and want to work things out...2 days later he change his mind again and saying how he isn't sure about his feeling. I'm quite devastated...I don't know what he wants. Sometimes he's warm and sometimes he's hiding. I love him so much and want us to wrok out...but I know it's pretty hard now...especially he seem so confuse... I should be seeing him a month from now...cuz I already booked ticket to go there for 10 days...but one month is very long, considering that we were still really good a month ago... I dunno how to talk to him...it's like I want us to communicate yet I don't want to pressure him....it's so difficult now. I don't know what to do. Your relationship needs communication otherwise it will not work out.
Yui Posted March 29, 2007 Posted March 29, 2007 Your relationship needs communication otherwise it will not work out. I did try to communicate...he's the one keep avoiding me and telling me he's always busy... I'm just really sad how things can turn out like this.. I talked to him again this morning and he just talked about his work...oh i don't know..I feel so lost..I kind of feel like I"m the only one wanting to work it out and he's just not sure about his feeling. I told him about my feeling but his keep on changing..
4whatItsWorth Posted April 2, 2007 Posted April 2, 2007 I did try to communicate...he's the one keep avoiding me and telling me he's always busy...I kind of feel like I"m the only one wanting to work it out and he's just not sure about his feeling. I told him about my feeling but his keep on changing.. My EX used to be like that. He'd avoid me and always be busy. Still he'd send me flowers on valentine's day saying "You're my one and only" after not having called me for over 3 months... The problem with LDR is that when you have an argument, you can only show affection by words. Tons of times I know thing would have been better if I'd been able to touch, kiss or hold the guy. Also, time zone differences can make an argument go on for a whole week or weekend before one of you can catch the other. If he doesn't want to talk things out, it's not looking very good. However, when he sees you again, I bet he will get that rush of feelings (takes a while though, like half to two days) and realise whether or not he wants to let an argument come between you. There will always be reasons to argue, and if you cannot sustain one argument you will not be able to sustain a lifetime of them. Hoping things work out for you p.s. from own experience - a guy who doesn't wanna work on it isn't worth your bother. There will be many other men out there who would move mountains to be able to be with you.
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