Babybird Posted March 27, 2007 Posted March 27, 2007 So many of the posts on this website talk about how the A consists of the MM wanting sex. In order to get sex he will do, lie, and say just about anything in order to get it. My R with MM started off as a purely physical thing. Over time it developed into the emotional A it is now. My question is how did your A start? Was it an EA and evolved or PA and changed?
Meaplus3 Posted March 28, 2007 Posted March 28, 2007 So many of the posts on this website talk about how the A consists of the MM wanting sex. In order to get sex he will do, lie, and say just about anything in order to get it. My R with MM started off as a purely physical thing. Over time it developed into the emotional A it is now. My question is how did your A start? Was it an EA and evolved or PA and changed? Babybird, Mine started first as Neighbors. Then we be came friend's. Then we became Friend's with an attraction to one another, and that lead into the EA, slight PA. My EA never evloved to a Full blown PA. I told H to stop myself from this mess. How do you feel about your R with MM beign an EA now? AP:)
Author Babybird Posted March 28, 2007 Author Posted March 28, 2007 I think my MM is absolutely incredible. Granted, he is frustrating and a pain in my ass while I wait to see if his talk of leaving is a game or if it'll be a reality but he has something about him. For the longest time I thought it was the challenge of getting him to leave...the thrill and the excitement. As time passed I began to know him, really know him and things changed. We went through something incredibly difficult last month and when it was going on I didn't know what to expect. He blew my mind away with his comfort, support and love. I have never known a man to be capable of acting and responding the way he did. I thought I loved him in a way I'd never known before and it grew even stronger. I never expected to love a man the way I love him now. I watched a movie earlier that said "She worshiped the ground he walked on even though she hated to admit it but then again so did he. Have you ever loved like that before? When you do your whole life changes and nothing is ever the same". I understand that. My feelings about my A are irritation that the man I think is perfect for me is married and hasn't left his wife. I get angry with myself for allowing a joke, a flirtation, a 'can I get him to sleep with me' type challenge to turn into this unbelievable love I had sworn that I would never allow to happen. Not necessarily with him but any man ever again. I am hurt that he hasn't left and distraught over if he will. I also know that I am better than this A and deserve more. I am only going to do this until July 4th. If he hasn't left by then well...then he isn't the man that I think is and I will be done with it.
Meaplus3 Posted March 28, 2007 Posted March 28, 2007 I think my MM is absolutely incredible. Granted, he is frustrating and a pain in my ass while I wait to see if his talk of leaving is a game or if it'll be a reality but he has something about him. For the longest time I thought it was the challenge of getting him to leave...the thrill and the excitement. As time passed I began to know him, really know him and things changed. We went through something incredibly difficult last month and when it was going on I didn't know what to expect. He blew my mind away with his comfort, support and love. I have never known a man to be capable of acting and responding the way he did. I thought I loved him in a way I'd never known before and it grew even stronger. I never expected to love a man the way I love him now. I watched a movie earlier that said "She worshiped the ground he walked on even though she hated to admit it but then again so did he. Have you ever loved like that before? When you do your whole life changes and nothing is ever the same". I understand that. My feelings about my A are irritation that the man I think is perfect for me is married and hasn't left his wife. I get angry with myself for allowing a joke, a flirtation, a 'can I get him to sleep with me' type challenge to turn into this unbelievable love I had sworn that I would never allow to happen. Not necessarily with him but any man ever again. I am hurt that he hasn't left and distraught over if he will. I also know that I am better than this A and deserve more. I am only going to do this until July 4th. If he hasn't left by then well...then he isn't the man that I think is and I will be done with it. Babybird, Why is July Fourth your marker? This man is not perfect for you, he is married! He is perfect for his wife! I do understand your feeling's of love for this man. Somtimes's thing's in life just hit you in the face so to speak. I never thought I would have become as involved as I did with a MM as a MW. Early in the "A" I would say to myself "This goes against everthing that I am". Then as time went along and H was mean I just got "Addicted" to the good feelings. It does no good Baby, because know matter how much they may care or even love you, they don't leave!! AP:)
Author Babybird Posted March 28, 2007 Author Posted March 28, 2007 Babybird, Why is July Fourth your marker? This man is not perfect for you, he is married! He is perfect for his wife! I do understand your feeling's of love for this man. Somtimes's thing's in life just hit you in the face so to speak. I never thought I would have become as involved as I did with a MM as a MW. Early in the "A" I would say to myself "This goes against everything that I am". Then as time went along and H was mean I just got "Addicted" to the good feelings. It does no good Baby, because know matter how much they may care or even love you, they don't leave!! AP:) God I hope your wrong!!! I chose the fourth because it's Independence Day. I thought that seemed appropriate. How long did your A last?
Meaplus3 Posted March 28, 2007 Posted March 28, 2007 God I hope your wrong!!! I chose the fourth because it's Independence Day. I thought that seemed appropriate. How long did your A last? Far too long! Don't do it anymore, it hurt' far to much! AP:)
rdnkgrl31 Posted March 28, 2007 Posted March 28, 2007 Well, mine started out physical, there was a connection there. We talked and had sex, then it turned into a full blown emotional affair. I have to say, he has NEVER told me he was going to leave. Never even insinuated it. We just click.
PoshPrincess Posted March 28, 2007 Posted March 28, 2007 Mine started out as physical in the sense that we both fancied each other. We kissed and touched but nothing more. We became emotionally close very quickly though and the more we felt for each other that way the less likely it was that we would ever have sex. He felt guilty of his feelings for me, thought too much of me for it to seem like he wanted me for sex and because of the guilt I don't think he physically could anyway, if you get my drift. We slept together once after seeing each other for over 6 months but there was always such a strong emotional connection. In some ways, I wish it had stayed physical. I guess in the beginning when we thought that was how it would stay he felt less guilty, but as soon as feelings came into it things changed.
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