sibernox Posted March 27, 2007 Posted March 27, 2007 Ok, so I've been with my girlfriend almost 2 months now. And it's going great. We have so much fun together and laugh a lot! But I don't know, I haven't been lucky with women, and I thought that once I had found a nice girl, I'd be happy all the time. But that's not the case. As I said, the problem isn't when we're together. It's when we're not spending time with each other. I mean, the first 3 weeks or so into the relationship, she would text me almost every day from school telling me how her day is going and stuff, and now that very rarely happens. When I'm not with her, I find myself wondering if I did something wrong while we were together, I wonder if she's pissed at me or something. I don't know if I'm just paranoid or what. But like I said, I'm not happy when I'm not around her. I also find myself wondering if she's thinking about me or not. Any advice will really be greatly appreciated. Thank you.
norajane Posted March 28, 2007 Posted March 28, 2007 I think you're paranoid, and maybe a little too clingy. Don't sabotage your relationship by obssessing. Go out, enjoy yourself, and enjoy your time with her.
LoveLace Posted March 28, 2007 Posted March 28, 2007 Have you ever heard the phrase, "you can't be happy with someone else until you are happy with yourself"? It sounds like you were counting on this relationship to make you a happy person in general. I'm sure you haven't done anything wrong, but there is a chance that she senses you only seem happy with her but not without her. People have a tendency to get turned off by someone who appears to only be happy if they are in constant presence. Find hobbies and ways to occupy yourself during the times you are not able to be together. We can't solely rely on other people to make us happy. You are the only one who can truly do that. And just because you aren't in constant contact, it doesn't mean anyone has gotten mad or messed anything up. It's just life. Just enjoy what time you do get with her to the fullest. But if you over-do it you might chase her off.
Author sibernox Posted March 29, 2007 Author Posted March 29, 2007 Well, first of all, let me say I appreciate your replies. And yeah, I try to do what you've said. I try to not think about it. But she means a lot to me. Like today, she was at my house and we were watching TV and I decided to have fun by being somewhat mean to her, as a joke obviously. So I wasn't being nice and stuff and she was like "stop!" and I then I told her to just leave, all this jokingly, and she replied by saying "You want me to leave?" and I was like "I don't care." But then we made up and stuff. And a little while after, we were both kind of horny but we didn't have any condoms, so I asked her if I could put "it" in her for like 5 seconds, although thats's really not in my nature, but she said no, then I half insisted, and she said "Why are you pressuring me into doing something I don't wana do?". At which point I felt really bad and apologized like 4 times. And now I don't know if she's pissed or what. I mean, she said it was fine, but I don't know. I don't want her to think I'm some kind of sex addict or something. Cause I really don't know what came over me, I'm usually not like that. Once again, thanks for your help. And sorry for the non-stop blabbering.
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