Guest Posted March 27, 2007 Posted March 27, 2007 Ok, I'll try and make this short. I went and got my windows tinted and the guy who did it was HOT, so we talked and hit it off right away. We exchanged numbers and starting talking and texting for about 3 weeks. Then 2 weeks ago he invited me over to his house and one thing led to another and we had sex, three times in one night (yes, it was that good). Then I didn't hear form him for about 4 days. I finally saw him and we talked, I told him if his intentions were just to have sex then he should have been upfront about it. I've never, never had a one night stand. We had a great conversation and he said he was very interested in me. Then I didn't here form him for another 3 days. He then called me saturday night and I was so excited, once again we had great conversation. I asked him if I could come over and see him. He said he would love for me to come over, but wanted to prove that it's not all about sex. He said when we talked the last time in person he could see how upset and hurt I was. I wanted to die, I thought that was a very nice thing to say. We have the best conversations, the best sex and we have so much in common. It's been 3 days and I haven't heard from him. I called him twice and got no answer and I didn't leave a message. Is he into me? I just got out of a 6 years relationship and this guy is the first guy I've meet since my break up that has sparked my interest and I really want to hang out with this guy more and talk to him more. He tells me that he is a very busy guy and works six days a week. I just feel like if your into me, then call. I don't like playing games, if I want to talk to you or see you I will call and tell you that. I am really into this guy. Do I stop calling and let him call me? I have asked him on several occasions to be straight up with me. Are you interested or not? he says that he is, but I feel there should be a lot more effort. Call me or at least answer my calls. He gave me his house number and cell number. Guys!!!!
someone2 Posted March 28, 2007 Posted March 28, 2007 That's a tough one. It is of course impossible to give an exact answer unless we can read this guy's mind But, in my opinion, there is a 90% chance he is a player. There is a good chance he is now doing the exact same routine with another "customer". You'd be surprised to know this, but lots of guys have exact routines they follow and perfect over the years. They know *EXACTLY* what they are doing at each step till they get the girl into bed, and they keep repeating it over and over with tons of girls till they perfect it. Probably his job is also helping him But, there is also the remaining 10% that he is a good honest person and he is just being honest. Don't get your hopes up though. IMO, you should try and stop calling for a longer period of time (a week or more). See if he cares at all. If he doesn't, call and be very upfront with him. See where it leads. Good luck to you
Mr. Lucky Posted March 28, 2007 Posted March 28, 2007 Yeah, he might be a player, but he might also be a small businessman trying to make a living. My guess would be that people want their windows tinted outside normal business hours, so might be alot of nights/weekends/7-day weeks for him. And why the hesitation on your part? Why wait for him to call? When you call him, why not leave a message? Might be games played by both sides here... Mr. Lucky
bridget_jones Posted March 28, 2007 Posted March 28, 2007 No. He's not that into you. Please, please, please don't be so quick to jump into a bed with a guy. He hasn't even taken you out on a date. When a guy doesn't call for three days...he's just not that into you. You are SO doing the opposite of what you should....calling, asking to come over? He's using you for sex, hon. I'm really sorry, but that is the absolute truth. Please let this one go and next time try waiting a month or two, develop a bond and relationship first. I can't believe that Mr. Lucky is telling you to call him again when you've already been calling him so much. You're really appearing desperate, he knows he has you at a moment's notice for sex, why should he call? DON'T CALL HIM.
Island Girl Posted March 28, 2007 Posted March 28, 2007 Ok, I'll try and make this short. I went and got my windows tinted and the guy who did it was HOT, so we talked and hit it off right away. We exchanged numbers and starting talking and texting for about 3 weeks. Then 2 weeks ago he invited me over to his house and one thing led to another and we had sex, three times in one night (yes, it was that good). Then I didn't hear form him for about 4 days. I wouldn't have texted at all - I'd have made him talk to me on the phone. I wouldn't have been available to talk to him so much because I have a life. He'd have to ask me out to get a commitment of any amount of time from me. I wouldn't have gone to his house - I don't think you should have if you wanted a premise of a relationship. And you should not have slept with him I finally saw him and we talked, I told him if his intentions were just to have sex then he should have been upfront about it. I've never, never had a one night stand. We had a great conversation and he said he was very interested in me. Then I didn't here form him for another 3 days. Cardinal mistake. You let him know he makes a difference to you. Even in the face of the prior mistakes, that was the time to blow him off somewhat - didn't he deserve it after all? He got what he was after and then didn't put out any effort for 4 days? -- He should have been treated likewise. You may have had a great conversation but this guy can pour it on obviously. I wouldn't put any faith in his words. Actions always speak louder. P.S. Everyone who wants a relationship with their one night stands say they "never" have one night stands. Best if you just remove the notion of saying it. He then called me saturday night and I was so excited, once again we had great conversation. okay... I asked him if I could come over and see him. Ouch. You asked if you could come over? Always let them make the offer until you are in a relationship - and even then they should WANT to see you and be thinking of it as well. It doesn't seem this is the case. He said he would love for me to come over, but wanted to prove that it's not all about sex. Seems like a classic "player" move. The door is now open for him to come and go. You clearly bought this. And it sounds to me like he may have had other plans that night. He said when we talked the last time in person he could see how upset and hurt I was. Again - classic "player" move. He now knows you believe he cares for you and he has access to you when he wants to but is not in a position where there are any expectations from him. It's been 3 days and I haven't heard from him. I called him twice and got no answer and I didn't leave a message. Quit calling him. I'm so glad you didn't leave messages... Is he into me? He likes the sex but it is tough to tell if there is anything more for him than that. I just got out of a 6 years relationship and this guy is the first guy I've meet since my break up that has sparked my interest and I really want to hang out with this guy more and talk to him more. He tells me that he is a very busy guy and works six days a week. I just feel like if your into me, then call. read the bolded part again and again... I don't like playing games, if I want to talk to you or see you I will call and tell you that. I am really into this guy. Do I stop calling and let him call me? Yes. I have asked him on several occasions to be straight up with me. Are you interested or not? he says that he is, but I feel there should be a lot more effort. Call me or at least answer my calls. He gave me his house number and cell number. Guys!!!! It doesn't matter what numbers he gave you. He knows he doesn't have to answer the phone so he can give you every number out there. You shouldn't use them. He should be calling - and if he was really interested he would be. Asking him if he is interested or not - on several occasions - just betrays how interested you are. He's got you without even putting out any effort. Do you think something given to you for free is worth as much as something you had to work for? Usually people appreciate something they have worked for much more and cherish what they have gained. I hope you spend a little time evaluating yourself and everything you bring to the table as far as what you offer in a relationship. Then hold that as valuable - not to be given away to ANY guy - no matter how "HOT". He has to be worth it. Just being good-looking and charming isn't enough. Demand to be treated well from the beginning and do not jump into bed with a guy after a handful of good conversations. Most of them are frogs and you are trying to find a prince. Don't waste a whole lot of time and effort on just one until they show by actions that they are worth the initial investment. Until then - enjoy the buffet of great looking men that are out there - date - realize they will treat you as you allow them to - so go out and enjoy time - have certain standards of behavior - and if you see red flags fire that one and move on.
Erik Posted March 28, 2007 Posted March 28, 2007 Face it, boys are just not that into girls. Girls are boring. If they didn't have tits, no boy would ever talk to them.
Island Girl Posted March 28, 2007 Posted March 28, 2007 Face it, boys are just not that into girls. Girls are boring. If they didn't have tits, no boy would ever talk to them. Ugh. You again. I thought you went off to gain that successful relationship or at least sleep with all those girls you know how to get?
Erik Posted March 28, 2007 Posted March 28, 2007 Ugh. You again. I thought you went off to (...) sleep with all those girls you know how to get? Did that yesterday. Now I'm back to share my dollops of wisdom.
Ssheena Posted March 28, 2007 Posted March 28, 2007 I have to admit when I first read the "is he into me" my first thought was Honey, if you have to ask if he is into you he is waaaay too small..but I digress. Nope, you got played. At least you got some good sex and hopefully will learn from the experience. Keep your guard up! Tough lesson to learn after being in a six year relationship but there are some real jerks out there, you just happened to run into one. Don't call him, leave him alone. Sorry.
Motor35 Posted March 28, 2007 Posted March 28, 2007 Then 2 weeks ago he invited me over to his house and one thing led to another and we had sex, three times in one night (yes, it was that good). Then I didn't hear form him for about 4 days. YIKES! Sex without a date? Sorry to be blunt, but why buy the cow when you can have the milk for free? I don't think the opportunity to have a relationship (other than sex) is going to happen with this guy. It was too easy to bed you and he won't put any work into it. Sorry.
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