tomtommyboy Posted March 27, 2007 Posted March 27, 2007 I've been split with my gf for 5 weeks now, 2 weeks of non-contact. Still hurts like hell, confused thoughts a lot of the time, etc....but it IS a little bit easier. Only a little bit but that's progress. One issue - I must admit I spend a lot of time on Facebook looking her friends profiles up (I can't see hers cos she's not on my network) and reading messages she's sent them, photos they've posted of her etc. I know this seems like destructive behavious but there are times I really can't help it, it's just kind of idle really. She can't see I'm looking her up (in fact I'm not even going on her profile anyway) but what do people think of this kind of behaviour? I'm not sure if it's worse knowing, for instance (as I found out recently) that she's with someone new and it's "going well", or not knowing anything. Knowing that she's with someone new has actually convinced me this really is over and to let go of my hope, so is it so bad? But despite that I do continue to hope and look her up in the hope they split up, whatever... Thoughts appreciated. I feel like I'm 'moving on' anyway, just very slowly. Will 'Facebook stalking' impede my progress or will I just get bored of it anyway?
norajane Posted March 27, 2007 Posted March 27, 2007 If knowing she has a new bf has helped you accept it's over - great. But now it's time for you to stop the Facebook stalking. Each time you do that, you are slowing down your progress in moving on. You're not moving on. As you said, you keep hoping and hoping. You keep checking as a way of staying close to her, even in that minimal way. Let go of this last piece of her so that you truly can move on.
Author tomtommyboy Posted March 27, 2007 Author Posted March 27, 2007 Thanks I know you're right...God I wish it was that easy. It's like an addiction, I've just got to fight the urge. But it really is a way of 'holding on' that's so true...no idea how I'm going to let go tho. Feels a million miles away from where I am at the moment. Thanks for the advice anyway!
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