Lauriebell82 Posted March 27, 2007 Posted March 27, 2007 ok this is kind of a small problem/situation. i've been with my bf for 7 months, its a LDR. we had an argument the other day regarding that we spend the entire weekend together 24/7 and its hard if we want to do something seperate without the other person, esp. when he comes to visit me at college. well we agreed that we could maybe still stay with each other for the weekend, but do seperate things for a couple hours and then be with each other again. anyway to the problem: if we are going to do seperate things, the problem is that we dont each have a key. its not as big of an issue when i am at his apartment because he usually just gives me his key for the day and i just make sure i'm back at his apartment when he gets home. then i give it back to him. he has never actually given me a copy however. well the next time he comes up here, i was thinking about giving him a copy of my key. then we can go do what we want and wont have to wait around for the other person or plan when we have to go back. i'm scared to do this however, because he might get freaked out and he has never given me a copy of his key before. ok LS'ers this is kind of weird situation and i was just trying to get opinions on what to do. should i give him my key? is that too soon? i mean our relationship is serious and we stay together all weekend, and if we are going to do different things it would just be easier if he had a key to my apartment. but should i do it? its not a big deal if i dont, i just dont want to upset him scare him by doing it. opinions please!!!!
ruby_gloom Posted March 27, 2007 Posted March 27, 2007 Just ask him for his opinion. Next time you see him, tell him that while the idea of you two going out separately is good, there is a slight problem with the keys. Just casually ask him if he wants a copy of your key or if he has another (better) idea for how solve the problem. You could say something like, "The only thing is that there might be a problem with getting in here since I only have one key. Do you want me to make a copy for you or should we just make time arrangements or something?" This way it'll sound like a more casual thing, and since you sound kind of nervous about it, it won't make it a bigger deal that it has to be. Also, that way you'll be able to hear what he has to say about it, thus ensuring the best solution for the problem. I don't think it's a big deal, though. Just ask him. And be casual about it.
norajane Posted March 27, 2007 Posted March 27, 2007 Don't make it a huge deal, and don't let this lead into a discussion about the future! Just make a copy of your key all by yourself without even mentioning it to him - doesn't everyone have a spare key to their own place??? I think I have at least three sets in case I lose mine, or need to give them to a friend for some reason. Next time he's over, tell him he can take the spare key when he goes out. Let him decide to either give it back when he comes back, or whether he keeps it. Don't even worry about it and do not have a conversation about it!
Author Lauriebell82 Posted March 27, 2007 Author Posted March 27, 2007 Don't make it a huge deal, and don't let this lead into a discussion about the future! Just make a copy of your key all by yourself without even mentioning it to him - doesn't everyone have a spare key to their own place??? I think I have at least three sets in case I lose mine, or need to give them to a friend for some reason. Next time he's over, tell him he can take the spare key when he goes out. Let him decide to either give it back when he comes back, or whether he keeps it. Don't even worry about it and do not have a conversation about it! wow thats a good idea..i dont actually have a spare copy of my key..which i really should since i've locked myself out of my apartment a bunch of times! anyway that is a real good idea, than it wouldnt be like i was giving it to him. i didnt even think this was a big deal or even thought about it until i talked to my friend who freaked me out a little bit. she said it was like this huge deal to exchange copies of keys and a huge step and stuff. i've probably freaked him out enough, i dont want to freak him out even more! thanks for the advice i'll just say i have a spare copy that i made in case i locked myself out or something, and then see if he wants it back.
norajane Posted March 27, 2007 Posted March 27, 2007 wow thats a good idea..i dont actually have a spare copy of my key..which i really should since i've locked myself out of my apartment a bunch of times! anyway that is a real good idea, than it wouldnt be like i was giving it to him. i didnt even think this was a big deal or even thought about it until i talked to my friend who freaked me out a little bit. she said it was like this huge deal to exchange copies of keys and a huge step and stuff. i've probably freaked him out enough, i dont want to freak him out even more! thanks for the advice i'll just say i have a spare copy that i made in case i locked myself out or something, and then see if he wants it back. You could even make a couple spare copies and then say something like, "oh, just take one of the spare keys from the drawer when you go out", like it's totally no big deal, which it isn't. And leave it at that - you don't have to explain why you have spare keys! Even explaining that is more conversation about the key than you need to have.
3hundred Posted March 27, 2007 Posted March 27, 2007 I like the idea above, it is brilliant... you might also wanna try leaving a copy of the key somewhere safe like the mailbox, underneath the doormat, above the door or in the plant pot at all times and let him know where it is..
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