Sex is few and far between in a 3 year relationship and im only 21

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So..

 

I have a girlfriend that I've been dating for over 3 years. Everything is stellar in our relationship. She is my best friend, and i'd rather spend my time with her than anyone else. The problem Im having is, that were only 21. After 3 years of dating, the sex life is almost non-existant. And its not by my wishes thats for sure. Every time we get an opportunity she is either too tired, or sick. Almost every time.

 

Now the thing that agrivates me, this isn't a relationship where I have to worry about her motives, such as if shes cheating on me. Because this girl calls me 24/7, texts me all hours of the day and leaves me myspace messages telling me how much better I make her life and how much she loves me. We have experienced quite a bit together and we are connected at the hip.

 

But the thing Im struggling with is that if she loves me so much, how come she never lets me know she finds me the least bit attractive. Its never a "hey you look nice today", or the casual "nice shirt on you".... nothing.... She loves me and wants to be with me 24/7 till we get into bed, then shes tired or sick. Im at a loss here, because im only 21 and with a girl i've been dating for 3 years I figure we should have sex more than once a month, and when we do she always says "lets make it a quicky".

 

 

So with that being said, I have already confronted her about this, several times over the past year or so, and every time its something along the lines of "im stressed out over school." or shes sick or its a personal body image.... which is just getting rediculous. There are only so many excuses that you can hear until you get fed up. Up until this, i've considered marrying this girl... now I want a break for a while to find myself and atleast enjoy the opposite sex. Im really stuck here... Because i know if i mention something like a breakup that would literally put her in an institution. Im everything to this girl... aparently just not what she wants in bed. ..

 

Any advice would be great.. thanks in advance.