Spengles Posted March 26, 2007 Posted March 26, 2007 Lately, I have begun to question myself and my own needs. I have been with my girlfriend for almost 4 months now. We started off pretty hot and heavy doing everything but. We agreed to not have sex until we were married but we have continued to fool around. I'm in no need to have sex since at age 23, I am still a virgin. She is not and her own sexual experience is fairly higher than mine. Lately, I've run into situation over and over again where she just isn't in the mood. She struggles with herself religiously. She feels wrong fooling around yet she does so because her temptation is too strong. She enjoys herself but then regrets it. She's my first girlfriend and I find myself.. constantly horny. I've never really been this way before but almost every time I'm around her--I'm hard. It's become sort of a running joke and I'm not sure how to deal with it. In the past few weeks, things have calm down a lot sexually. We no longer mess around on a daily basis. And if we ever do, I feel as if I'm the one to initiate it. I've been o.k. with that but lately, it has been taxing. She speaks of it being different if we were married and she felt more comfortable with it. Other than that, we're pretty much wonderful together. I'm a very romantic guy and I'm sure that's not the issue. I went above and beyond the call for Valentine's Day, her birthday, our 3 month, etc. That honestly has attributed to another problem.. that I do a bit too much for her. She feels that she can honestly not reciprocate all of my actions and take care of all of my needs. This post turned out to be a lot longer than I expected. I guess in short, I'm confused about our sexual situation. I don't know if I'm being too demanding or if I'm not respecting her situation. I want her to initiate things more. I don't want to feel wrong because I'm easily turned on. Any advice? Will things get better?
D-Lish Posted March 26, 2007 Posted March 26, 2007 You're only 23... and your sexual desires are really healthy and normal. Communication is really important- have you talked to her about how you feel? Sometimes it helps to lay everything out on the table- you don't want to start off a relationship not being able to talk about how you feel.
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