silentcharon Posted March 25, 2007 Posted March 25, 2007 I've been friends with a guy for a very long time- he recently started school in Washington D.C. He'll be done in may so he'll be coming back to Canada for the summer, and he asked me if I was looking for a room mate, I said yes, you'll have to talk to my landlord first though. I'm also good friends with his girlfriend, she currently lives in Spokane- she has expressed a desire to move to Calgary. She approached me online today asking how I would feel about us becoming room mates. I had no idea that they never discussed it- so I said, it would be cool with me if you lived here. It would be no problem if he lived with her here for the summer and he'd go back to school in September, she would be the permanent resident with me. My guy friend suddenly msn'ed me with a pissy message, "WTF? I thought it was just going to be you and me!" I told him that I thought they had discussed this- he told me that I assumed. I apologized for assuming, but now I'm in a bind. I NEED a room mate that's going to be more permanent than my guy friend who is just looking for a place for the summer. I also want to help the girlfriend, since she doesn't have anywhere to go with the rent being so expensive in Calgary right now. My guy friend has options like his parents house, but he has expressed that he would like to live on his own during the summer, which is understandable. He explained the extent of that idea, was to live on his own and see his girlfriend seperately. I said that was his business, I'm in the business of finding a room mate, though I have no desire for this to create a chasm between all of us. Am I obligated to my guy friend because we've been friends for so long even if he doesn't need the place as much as the girlfriend does. How do I solve this problem? I'm actually leaning towards the girlfriend, because she really doesn't have anywhere to go and as a friend, I want to help her out. Do I look at this as a strictly business deal, or do I take the friendships into account when I make a decision who gets the place?
Dadubwa Posted March 26, 2007 Posted March 26, 2007 If you're friend cared about his girlfriend...he'd let her stay with you. She's in a pickle, help her out. If he boyfriend can't understand that...that's irrational. a true friend helps a friend in need!!
Author silentcharon Posted March 26, 2007 Author Posted March 26, 2007 Issue is that though, I have been friends with the guy longer than I have been with the girlfriend. I agree, he's an azz for throwing a temper tantrum like that. I explained to him that she needs the place more than he does, he has the choice to either move in with her or stay at his parents house. I told both of them to talk to my landlord, and she emailed him last night. I don't think my guy friend talked to him yet. I suppose I could just say something like, "first come, first serve." He can be a very stubborn guy. I just hope it works out because I really need a room mate
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