Porn Man Posted March 25, 2007 Posted March 25, 2007 I could really use some advice here. I am 30 and I haven't been interested in having a serious relationship for a long time. Well that is until a few weeks ago. I met this very lovely women at the local pub that I visit often and we clicked instantly. She is everything that I could hope for but then at the same time I am still not so sure about going any further. We went on three dates and everything has been perfect. Has anyone been in a situation like mine, where you are enjoying the single life but then a "10" comes along?
polywog Posted March 25, 2007 Posted March 25, 2007 Yes, I've been there. Don't analyze it so much. Just go with the flow, and take it slowly. Why are you so reluctant to get involved?
norajane Posted March 25, 2007 Posted March 25, 2007 Bad timing is when you meet a "10" and she just broke up with her bf of 5 years, or you just did. Or when one of you is about to leave the country for a year. Or when one of you is involved in another meaningful relationship. This is not bad timing. This is your FEAR talking you out of something you see as having potential to be serious.
Author Porn Man Posted March 25, 2007 Author Posted March 25, 2007 POLYWOG: My last real relationship lasted 5 years. We had just started talking about getting married and then she did a 180 on me and left me. Ever since then I told myself not to ever get in a situation again where a possibility of heart-break may happen again. I know that its unfair for this woman that I am seeing but it is hard to get past this feeling, since I have felt this way for a long time. NORAJANE: fear is definitely present. I guess that i just need some convincing in order to get past this feeling that I'm having.
norajane Posted March 26, 2007 Posted March 26, 2007 Take things one day at a time, one date at a time, as you have been. Enjoy the present - the past is over and done. Your life experiences make you who you are. You are much stronger now than you were in the past. Following your current holding back strategy, nothing will happen. If nothing happens, then nothing good can happen, can it? You don't want life to pass you by, do you? Just enjoy what you have and have fun with it!
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