Art_Critic Posted March 25, 2007 Posted March 25, 2007 Having someone new come into your life, is like playing Russian Roulette. With a full magazine and one in the chamber..
Pyro Posted March 25, 2007 Posted March 25, 2007 Ya know what? Screw this dating crap. I got better things to do than to be analyzed by a stranger, or to analyze a stranger. Gonna go do something productive. Gonna replace the tires on my son's bike and paint my daughter's room some. Dating is so overrated. Having someone new come into your life, is like playing Russian Roulette. By the looks of it, you can go play a few games of golf. No need to get angry about the situation, but if you don't want to date him, then no biggie.
Author luvtoto Posted March 25, 2007 Author Posted March 25, 2007 By the looks of it, you can go play a few games of golf. No need to get angry about the situation, but if you don't want to date him, then no biggie. I rushed back to explain myself. I was referring to him analyzing me..not you guys. Anyways, I am not angry. Just tired of analyzing things. It isn't worth the trouble. If it's there, it's there. If it isn't, it isn't. Doesn't matter what I do, or how I do it, or what he does, or how he does it. I have decided to just let it happen.
Kamille Posted March 25, 2007 Posted March 25, 2007 I rushed back to explain myself. I was referring to him analyzing me..not you guys. Anyways, I am not angry. Just tired of analyzing things. It isn't worth the trouble. If it's there, it's there. If it isn't, it isn't. Doesn't matter what I do, or how I do it, or what he does, or how he does it. I have decided to just let it happen. Woohoo! Cheerleading pompoms are up again! That's the spirit! Gimme an L! Ah yes, I whisper to myself, he has met his match.
alphamale Posted March 25, 2007 Posted March 25, 2007 Just tired of analyzing things. paralysis by analysis LUVTOTO
Pyro Posted March 25, 2007 Posted March 25, 2007 I rushed back to explain myself. I was referring to him analyzing me..not you guys. Anyways, I am not angry. Just tired of analyzing things. It isn't worth the trouble. If it's there, it's there. If it isn't, it isn't. Doesn't matter what I do, or how I do it, or what he does, or how he does it. I have decided to just let it happen. I know that you weren't referring to us Luv.
Author luvtoto Posted March 25, 2007 Author Posted March 25, 2007 By the looks of it, you can go play a few games of golf. I just now got that!
Author luvtoto Posted March 25, 2007 Author Posted March 25, 2007 Haha...I got paint all over my fingers, hopefully I won't get any on the keyboard. I keep feeling like I need to vent. So... It just sucks. I've spent time working on my self-esteem. I go out in the dating world, thinking "I AM good enough for someone to love". Then, when I do put myself out there, I get "you're not good enough for me". Gosh dang. That's why I hate dating.
Art_Critic Posted March 25, 2007 Posted March 25, 2007 Then, when I do put myself out there, I get "you're not good enough for me". LuvToTo.. there is a very big difference between "you're not good enough for me" and we are not a good match or your not the one for me. As hard as it is don't take dating as a rejection of you and let it make your self worth go down just because some dickhead doesn't want you. There are a million guys out there that don't fit you and very few that do.. finding the ones that do is tough work..
Pyro Posted March 25, 2007 Posted March 25, 2007 I just now got that! Better late then never. Haha...I got paint all over my fingers, hopefully I won't get any on the keyboard. I keep feeling like I need to vent. So... It just sucks. I've spent time working on my self-esteem. I go out in the dating world, thinking "I AM good enough for someone to love". Then, when I do put myself out there, I get "you're not good enough for me". Gosh dang. That's why I hate dating. Luv, you are good enough for someone to love. You can't expect to click with everyone, or click with the ones that you hope to. Sometimes you think that its in the process of working out, and then without notice, it heads south. That happens sometimes. I can understand the frustration on your part, but you can't let these incidents get you down. I know that its easier said then done, but you can do it.
Author luvtoto Posted March 25, 2007 Author Posted March 25, 2007 LuvToTo.. there is a very big difference between "you're not good enough for me" and we are not a good match or your not the one for me. As hard as it is don't take dating as a rejection of you and let it make your self worth go down just because some dickhead doesn't want you. There are a million guys out there that don't fit you and very few that do.. finding the ones that do is tough work.. Thanks, AC. You are very wise. Hey! Anyone up for a game of Strip Russian Roulette??
Kamille Posted March 25, 2007 Posted March 25, 2007 hu? Are you having the post-overanalysing the date backlash of also lapsing into thinking it means he has already made up his mind about you? Falling for the false security of its either black-or-white? The reason why overanalysing one date is exhausting is because seriously, right now, you don't know and you have no way of knowing where this is going or if this going to go anywhere. mixed signals are mixed for a reason. You two are just getting to know each other on that level. Barely. I would not cast him out just yet. And it doesn't sound like he has cast you out either. wait and see if he calls for a date. After one date, he doesn't have much to go on. If he doesn't call it's no big loss and certainly not a big statement on who you are as a person.
IpAncA Posted March 25, 2007 Posted March 25, 2007 Wow someone has no patience. It was just one date and your assuming more then what it really could be Look how long it took this guy to ask you. I remember you saying he was shy. Maybe he was just shy the other night. Who knows but I think that you should give him another chance if he wants to see you again.
alphamale Posted March 25, 2007 Posted March 25, 2007 Look how long it took this guy to ask you. I remember you saying he was shy. Maybe he was just shy the other night. Who knows but I think that you should give him another chance if he wants to see you again. He sounds weird to me....if I was a girl I'd be creeped out.
IpAncA Posted March 25, 2007 Posted March 25, 2007 He sounds weird to me....if I was a girl I'd be creeped out. Usually I can read people but him I can't. That's why I suggested that she see him again if he wants to.
alphamale Posted March 25, 2007 Posted March 25, 2007 Usually I can read people but him I can't. That's why I suggested that she see him again if he wants to. men can read men better in this type of situation...if you go back to another one of LUVTOTO's threads (before they went out) I already predicted he was a creep. There were some give aways.
Author luvtoto Posted March 25, 2007 Author Posted March 25, 2007 men can read men better in this type of situation...if you go back to another one of LUVTOTO's threads (before they went out) I already predicted he was a creep. There were some give aways. Like what give aways? Him giving me his phone number? That predicts a creep??
alphamale Posted March 25, 2007 Posted March 25, 2007 Like what give aways? Him giving me his phone number? That predicts a creep?? um a few things I can't remember. this behavior seems sorta weird from what you wrote in those other threads. or he could be immature also, he is like 12 yrs younger than you
tanbark813 Posted March 25, 2007 Posted March 25, 2007 He, also, stated that he drinks Corona, and gets teased by his buddies for being a "rich ****er" for drinking the good stuff. Since when is Corona "the good stuff"??
IpAncA Posted March 25, 2007 Posted March 25, 2007 Since when is Corona "the good stuff"?? Makes you wonder who he hangs out with.
Pyro Posted March 25, 2007 Posted March 25, 2007 Since when is Corona "the good stuff"?? I was wondering about that too.
alphamale Posted March 25, 2007 Posted March 25, 2007 Since when is Corona "the good stuff"?? ha ha good one TB....I was thinking the same thing. No real man drinks Corona. Girls drink it. Ha ha the stuff is piss-water
Author luvtoto Posted March 25, 2007 Author Posted March 25, 2007 um a few things I can't remember. this behavior seems sorta weird from what you wrote in those other threads. or he could be immature also, he is like 12 yrs younger than you Yea, maybe he is immature. I really don't think he was trying to come off the way he did. But, I was offended a couple times by his remarks. When he was leaving he made the comment that it was good John pointed me out to him. Uh, when I first met him, he got flustered. I thought there was a spark between us. Apparently, he had no interest in me until Jason talked to him about me. I went out of my way to get a date with him...the least he could do was take me out and get to know me. I mean, since I broke down his door for a date and everything. I thought we had an initial spark. If we didn't...then what the hell are we dating for? Since when is Corona "the good stuff"?? Corona is an expensive beer in Nebraska. We are just hicks here. Now, If I lived in NY...that would be a different story.
johan Posted March 25, 2007 Posted March 25, 2007 Here's something to keep in mind while you're getting to know this guy. Which I suggest you keep doing, but with few expectations. For a while. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t114962/ I thought the responses were interesting. And they show that real matches are not a common occurrence. So if you want one, you have to be out there testing connections quite a bit. And the expectation you should have for any one guy being the right fit should be low.
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