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All DUMPERS are like MONKEYS! Pls read this if you have been DUMPED!!!

Deelove2007

By Deelove2007
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Deelove2007

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Hi guys hope all are well,

 

Its been 50 days ( 7 weeks ) since me and my EX broke up! I can't wait for the day when I will stop counting the days, but day by day it's getting better and I'm actually starting to hate my EX more and more, the LOVE I had for her has totally gone into PURE hate!!!!

 

Anyway I went out last night for a few drinks with my work friends and had a great time, we were talking about relantionships and my friend came out with a comment that made me really laugh and to a certain degree is so very true, here is what he said:

 

"Dumpers are like monkeys, when monkeys jump tree to tree, they make sure that they have hold of a branch till they swing across tree to tree! Women and Men do the same thing when breaking up with there EX, they make sure that they have someone in the pipeline already or have an intrest in somebody that they think can go somewhere before letting go of you"

 

I think this is so true especially if you and your GF or BF have been in a long term relantionship and they leave you for NO reason what so ever just out of the blue!

 

My EX has moved on with somebody else just weeks after we broke up! Do you think that this just happened by chance NO WAY!!! She knew she had someone intrested in her before we broke up!

 

If you think different I would love to hear your views.

MWC_LifeBeginsAt40 Established Member

MWC_LifeBeginsAt40

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I agree. I used to do that. Except for this time. I learned my lesson. He still thought I broke up out of the blue, but there were so many little things.

 

THen I found out he cheated on me a month earlier.

Auqakuh Member

Auqakuh

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Hi guys hope all are well,

 

Its been 50 days ( 7 weeks ) since me and my EX broke up! I can't wait for the day when I will stop counting the days, but day by day it's getting better and I'm actually starting to hate my EX more and more, the LOVE I had for her has totally gone into PURE hate!!!!

 

Anyway I went out last night for a few drinks with my work friends and had a great time, we were talking about relantionships and my friend came out with a comment that made me really laugh and to a certain degree is so very true, here is what he said:

 

"Dumpers are like monkeys, when monkeys jump tree to tree, they make sure that they have hold of a branch till they swing across tree to tree! Women and Men do the same thing when breaking up with there EX, they make sure that they have someone in the pipeline already or have an intrest in somebody that they think can go somewhere before letting go of you"

 

I think this is so true especially if you and your GF or BF have been in a long term relantionship and they leave you for NO reason what so ever just out of the blue!

 

My EX has moved on with somebody else just weeks after we broke up! Do you think that this just happened by chance NO WAY!!! She knew she had someone intrested in her before we broke up!

 

If you think different I would love to hear your views.

 

Bitterness produces it's own inelegant unreasoning view of the truth... just as love does. While you were with her, she was wonderous! she was amazing!

 

Now she's an object of hate, so naturally, you think of her in the least positive light possible.

 

Just because you think it, however, doesn't make it true.

 

And I would like to point out that hating your ex is even worse than chasing after them begging for forgiveness. It says something far more telling about your character.

 

Now if you could move on and accept that what you felt was quite real when you felt it, I'd clap you on the back and say, well done. You're a well-adjusted person.

 

Currently, though, you're an angry person looking for a way to make yourself believe she wasn't what you thought she was. Don't use lies to do it. Use the truth.

EC Established Member

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blah, I think anger is good.

 

Its part of the breakup process. First your like wow what happened? Then your like sad and trying to win them back..then your like I hate them I was so stupid Its their loss..then you accpet everything and move on lol

 

So your at the anger stage..which I truly don't believe you hate her..because you did love her at one point..but it helps you to move on.

 

Eventually the anger will subside and you will be indifferent about the whole thing. Hopefully lol :)~

Trialbyfire Established Member

Trialbyfire

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blah, I think anger is good.

 

Its part of the breakup process. First your like wow what happened? Then your like sad and trying to win them back..then your like I hate them I was so stupid Its their loss..then you accpet everything and move on lol

 

So your at the anger stage..which I truly don't believe you hate her..because you did love her at one point..but it helps you to move on.

 

Eventually the anger will subside and you will be indifferent about the whole thing. Hopefully lol :)~

Exactly. Everyone goes through these cycles when relationships end, even when you're the dumper for some very valid reasons such as infidelity. Repression of strong emotions is not a good idea.

luvtoto Established Member

luvtoto

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I am famous at LoveShack for my "dumper" abilities. (I am NOT proud of that title, just so ya know. It's a pathological defect.)

 

But anyways, I have never, ever had anyone waiting in the wings for me, after I have dumped someone. (Well, except for alpha! ;) haha!)

 

Seriously..don't make such a blanket statement. All dumpers are not monkeys. Some dumpers are just fools.

Johnny B Established Member

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I am famous at LoveShack for my "dumper" abilities. (I am NOT proud of that title, just so ya know. It's a pathological defect.)

 

But anyways, I have never, ever had anyone waiting in the wings for me, after I have dumped someone. (Well, except for alpha! ;) haha!)

 

Seriously..don't make such a blanket statement. All dumpers are not monkeys. Some dumpers are just fools.

 

I have been exactly the same throughout my entire life.

Except this last time, I dumped her and I think it was the biggest mistake of my life... she's now with someone new and says shes very happy.

 

Have you ever had a regret like this? Have you tried to get any of them back? All of this is a first for me... I tried my best to get her back, but it NEVER works when they've already moved on from you.

Auqakuh Member

Auqakuh

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I have been exactly the same throughout my entire life.

Except this last time, I dumped her and I think it was the biggest mistake of my life... she's now with someone new and says shes very happy.

 

Have you ever had a regret like this? Have you tried to get any of them back? All of this is a first for me... I tried my best to get her back, but it NEVER works when they've already moved on from you.

 

I had similar, but she dumped me. And she did come back, after saying she'd moved on for quite some time. Of course, back then, we never could stay away from each other for long anyway; we had some sort of elastic connection.

 

Same girl as I wrote about in my "Lost..." thread. I fear the rubber band has snapped, now, but that was entirely my fault... if I hadn't lied to her, I'm sure we'd still be together now.

 

It took four months to "win her back", and they were four very hard months (for both of us, for different reasons)... every time I tried to walk away she would happen to miss me and come back, every time she tried to walk away I wouldn't let her... it was quite the cycle for a while. But she did come back.

 

And for at least two of those four months, I seriously did believe she'd moved on.

 

She's a great woman, she really is, I just wish I hadn't screwed up so badly that she doesn't ever want to talk to me again, heh.

cr8sea Established Member

cr8sea

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wow i kinda agree with this whole monkey business ;)

Well sorta i dont know about everyone but for sure my last ex, after our break up kept txting me every day for the first week, like we were still together which confused me like hell....later i found out that maybe four days after our break up he was already talking to another chick. I realized he was keeping me around in case he couldnt find anything else so i told him to stop talking to me.

Now, a few weeks later, after i realized what really happened and that we're better off as friends i texted him and we talked for a bit. That was two weeks ago and havent heard from him....so....yeah, he was keeping me on the wings....oh did i mention he's seeing the new chick often now? people people people!!!

But anyway moral of the story...dont let anyone make you a back up plan...its really not healthy!

Living_For_Me Member

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That is an excellent analogy.

 

Maybe not true 100% of the time but definately more common than not.

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