loveratud Posted March 24, 2007 Posted March 24, 2007 I'm 22 years old, in college. I'm about 3 months out from the breakup, wherein I was blindside dumped a couple days after she returned from a trip to Mexico. The relationship was about 5 months long. 1) I can't sleep at night. For those 5 months, we slept together every night, excluding vacations. I will literally lay awake all night. I've tried sleeping with other people, but that doesn't help. I seem to specifically miss sleeping next to her. I have not had a single night of unmedicated sleep since the breakup. I've tried, resulting in staying awake for 4 or 5 days at a time. 2) I'm not attracted to other people. I got around a fair bit before this relationship, but now I don't seem to have that drive at all. I've met up with several casual aquaintences that I knew before the relationship, for what was supposed to be a raunchy throw down like old times, but once I was in the situation, I just couldn't do it. I don't physically respond. I've even dated a few new girls, and when things got that far, I just didn't have it. Women do not like this. They take it very personally. What the hell is wrong with me? Is it possible to have psychosomatic ED? Anyway, that was thoroughly embarassing, but I am legitimately concerned about losing these two bodily functions.
stace79 Posted March 24, 2007 Posted March 24, 2007 I think it's definitely possible that your mental health is affecting both these aspects of your life: sleep and sex. You should see a counselor or psychologist. They could probably help you both by talking through your problems and by prescribing medication. I never believed in that stuff for long term, but definitely just to get you back to your normal self!! Also, it sounds like this girl probably isn't coming back...Who is it hurting for you to continue down this path? Not her....only you! One thing I can be sure of (and I'm going through a bad break up too) is that the only way ...the BEST way...to "show someone what they're missing" is to get back to your normal life. Start enjoying the things you used to. Even if you just start with 15 minutes of something you love....if you can find joy in that 15 minutes it will help you.
norajane Posted March 24, 2007 Posted March 24, 2007 You aren't over her yet. That's why you can't sleep, and that's why you're not interested and not able to perform with other women. Look, it was a 5 month relationship and it's already been 3 months over. Pretty soon, your mourning period is going to end up being longer than your actual relationship. It's time to seek some counseling, get lots of exercise (will help with your sleep), eat healthy, and let her go in your mind. If she's gone, this obviously wasn't the right relationship and there are much better ones out there for you. Don't let her take over your life like this. Are you still thinking she's coming back? You have to accept it's over before you can truly move on.
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