2ndIINone Posted March 24, 2007 Posted March 24, 2007 Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. So to you, a hot woman is who you find attractive. So if you believe that hot women in relationships are trouble, then you must only date women that you find unattractive.actually, I'm a magnet for the 'hot' girl.... (my ex was once casted for the B rated low budget film Bikini Bandits) I wasn't proud...nuff said. hahahaha of course my 'trouble' comment was based on my personal experiences. I have found that there is a difference between a 'hot' girl and a 'hot' girl that knows she's hot. The ones that KNOW they're hot, are the ones I meet. Bad attitudes, gimme' gimme'.... I deserve this and that... I can have any guy I want... type attitudes. As I got older, I did realize beauty is only skin deep. And find the average looking women with big hearts and a sense of humor more appealing. But I still have to be attracted to them. Naturally, physical attraction is very important or the relationship won't last AT ALL. My latest ex had a million guys sniffin' her @ss as well... went to her head. Many times I wanted to tell her to get over herself.... because I've seen both sides of her.... at night with and in the morning WITHOUT makeup. )
Pyro Posted March 24, 2007 Posted March 24, 2007 actually, I'm a magnet for the 'hot' girl.... (my ex was once casted for the B rated low budget film Bikini Bandits) I wasn't proud...nuff said. hahahaha of course my 'trouble' comment was based on my personal experiences. I have found that there is a difference between a 'hot' girl and a 'hot' girl that knows she's hot. The ones that KNOW they're hot, are the ones I meet. Bad attitudes, gimme' gimme'.... I deserve this and that... I can have any guy I want... type attitudes. As I got older, I did realize beauty is only skin deep. And find the average looking women with big hearts and a sense of humor more appealing. But I still have to be attracted to them. Naturally, physical attraction is very important or the relationship won't last AT ALL. My latest ex had a million guys sniffin' her @ss as well... went to her head. Many times I wanted to tell her to get over herself.... because I've seen both sides of her.... at night with and in the morning WITHOUT makeup. ) Without a doubt is conceitedness and cockiness a huge turn-off. Just be thankful for the blessings that you were given.
Kamille Posted March 24, 2007 Posted March 24, 2007 I'll admit that I'm most likely a cutie-not-a-hottie, but then I pretty much proved to myself, thanks to LS, that the distinction is, for most women, all about performance. I can perform hotness if I want too and get hit on by a slew of guys. I am just way more confortable being a cutie, hotness not being that much of a priority in my life right now. There's something I don't get. The men I find hot I usually find hot because I'm guessing we share a lot of things in common, which would therefore mean that we would share the same ideas about what's important which in turn would mean that I'm likely not going to identify them as a**holes or players or any such thing. I mean it's just a radar thing I have going and it's pretty much served me right throughout my dating life. I think men often respond to how we perceive them. If I approach a guy like someone who has moral integrity, he usually turns out to have moral integrity - or he will skiddadle faster then I can say d*ckhead. Alpha popped up with this stat elsewhere that women initiate 75% of all relationship (or was it approaches?). I know that it's a stat that actually does add up in my dating life. Relationships have only succeeded if and when I decided a guy is worth my time. I think you ladies need to be more agentive and start doing the approach and taking on responsibility for the selection process.
sb129 Posted March 24, 2007 Posted March 24, 2007 I have found that there is a difference between a 'hot' girl and a 'hot' girl that knows she's hot. The ones that KNOW they're hot, are the ones I meet. Bad attitudes, gimme' gimme'.... I deserve this and that... I can have any guy I want... type attitudes. Good point 2ndIINone. There are some "hot women that know they are hot" who scare me silly. They are the ones that look you up and down with distaste as they hog the mirror in the ladies bathrooms. They are the ones that flirt with your man in front of you, they look at you as if you had committed a crime when you eat a piece of cake or drink a beer. Its these type of women (esp when they hunt in packs in expensive bars and you know they are only going to talk to the men with lots of cash) that give me the heeebie jeebies. But alot of them are neurotic nutters to boot, and so bitchy you wouldn't want them as your friend. Surprisingly (or not surprisingly!) tho, many guys don't find these kind of women attractive...
Pyro Posted March 24, 2007 Posted March 24, 2007 Good point 2ndIINone. There are some "hot women that know they are hot" who scare me silly. They are the ones that look you up and down with distaste as they hog the mirror in the ladies bathrooms. They are the ones that flirt with your man in front of you, they look at you as if you had committed a crime when you eat a piece of cake or drink a beer. Its these type of women (esp when they hunt in packs in expensive bars and you know they are only going to talk to the men with lots of cash) that give me the heeebie jeebies. But alot of them are neurotic nutters to boot, and so bitchy you wouldn't want them as your friend. Surprisingly (or not surprisingly!) tho, many guys don't find these kind of women attractive... Isn't that the truth? I don't find that attractive. I use to years ago but I have learned my lesson.
sb129 Posted March 24, 2007 Posted March 24, 2007 I think someone becomes more (or less) attractive the more you get to know them too. My man is average looking by conventional standards.... but because he is such a great guy, to me he is the handsomest man in the world, and even Mr B.Pitt himself couldn't entice me away from him.
sb129 Posted March 24, 2007 Posted March 24, 2007 Isn't that the truth? I don't find that attractive. I use to years ago but I have learned my lesson. The funny thing is, now when I see these kinds of women out in bars etc, I don't feel threatened by them at all. And they would probably be mortified to know that. I actually feel sorry for them.
2ndIINone Posted March 24, 2007 Posted March 24, 2007 blessings Rid... I only wish I could call it blessings. I prefer the word 'cursed'.... and if you saw how my last 3 relationships went.... you'd call me 'cursed' too. You see... I'm a reformed 'nice guy'. Use to be the begging, pleading, "why don't you like me anymore" type nice guy. Then took a hard long look at my past relationships.... stopped looking at the ex's and started focusing on my own faults.... what and where I could've went wrong with them. The 'hot' bikini girl beat me down emotionally, and mentally. (and once physically:laugh:).... my self asteem fell through the floor. That's when I started taking a hard look at me... and the women I was choosing. Now, I'm a genuinely nice, that won't take any crap. The first 'red flag' I see... I walk... no time for drama.... games... tests... If I'm not being treated the way I treat 'her'... I don't question anymore or beg... I simply turn away. I guess you can say... I regained my confidence. Although, I still maybe a bit jaded. When I see/meet and extremely attractive 10... my first thought is.... "How many issues is she carrying in that Prada handbag of hers??"
Pyro Posted March 24, 2007 Posted March 24, 2007 I think someone becomes more (or less) attractive the more you get to know them too. My man is average looking by conventional standards.... but because he is such a great guy, to me he is the handsomest man in the world, and even Mr B.Pitt himself couldn't entice me away from him. Keep it up. You are on a roll with your posts.
sb129 Posted March 24, 2007 Posted March 24, 2007 . "How many issues is she carrying in that Prada handbag of hers??" Thats funny. Thats what i think too!!! Keep it up. You are on a roll with your posts. Why thankyou! Just telling it how I see it!
Pyro Posted March 24, 2007 Posted March 24, 2007 Rid... I only wish I could call it blessings. I prefer the word 'cursed'.... and if you saw how my last 3 relationships went.... you'd call me 'cursed' too. You see... I'm a reformed 'nice guy'. Use to be the begging, pleading, "why don't you like me anymore" type nice guy. Then took a hard long look at my past relationships.... stopped looking at the ex's and started focusing on my own faults.... what and where I could've went wrong with them. The 'hot' bikini girl beat me down emotionally, and mentally. (and once physically:laugh:).... my self asteem fell through the floor. That's when I started taking a hard look at me... and the women I was choosing. Now, I'm a genuinely nice, that won't take any crap. The first 'red flag' I see... I walk... no time for drama.... games... tests... If I'm not being treated the way I treat 'her'... I don't question anymore or beg... I simply turn away. I guess you can say... I regained my confidence. Although, I still maybe a bit jaded. When I see/meet and extremely attractive 10... my first thought is.... "How many issues is she carrying in that Prada handbag of hers??" Dude, that almost sounds like my story. I too went through a reformation. By blessings I was referring to the type of women (and men) that have been blessed with good looks and they know it. Instead of rubbing it in everyones face and thinking that you are Gods gift, just thank your higher power for what you have been blessed with, and not just limited to the looks department. Many people in this world are in a not so good situation. Don't take things for granted.
Pyro Posted March 24, 2007 Posted March 24, 2007 The funny thing is, now when I see these kinds of women out in bars etc, I don't feel threatened by them at all. And they would probably be mortified to know that. I actually feel sorry for them. Thats good. You are suppose to have confidence in yourself.
2ndIINone Posted March 24, 2007 Posted March 24, 2007 heeebie jeebies ahaha... they give me the geeebie jeebies now too... I just turn my head. Though, I think it hurt me a little being that way. Sometimes at the bar or out.... God'sgift will walk through the door (carrying her attitude) and expect the entire room to part so she can make an entrance. I pay no mind to them... unfortunately, I think they find that attractive... which is a whole new topic.... "Wanting the ones who don't want you."
sb129 Posted March 24, 2007 Posted March 24, 2007 Thats good. You are suppose to have confidence in yourself. I do. But it took me 29 years to get it! (I am 30 this year;) )
Pyro Posted March 24, 2007 Posted March 24, 2007 I do. But it took me 29 years to get it! (I am 30 this year;) ) Unfortunately it may take a lot longer for others or they may never get it. It took me 23 years (I am 26 this year). Its not something that you obtain overnight, thats for sure.
2ndIINone Posted March 24, 2007 Posted March 24, 2007 Well I pretty much heard my entire life... "Duuuuude, you're too nice to them girls..." this coming from my friends... close girl-friends...sisters... but when MY OWN mother tells me I'm to nice??? That was it... time to do something about it... I had carried on a friendship/relationship with friend (a 9.5 btw) for years and years... she complained about her ex's... I complained about my girlfriends... we dated, hooked up here and there. She would always say... "I wish you and I would get serious, you are sooo nice, you are sooo perfect.... any girl would be lucky to have you...even confessed her love for me" so I finally dumped the girlfriend and pursued the longtime friend..... she said no way.... with no regret, remorse or regard for the history/friendship.... cut me off cold turkey... now she treats me like I ran over her puppy. Can't win.
sb129 Posted March 24, 2007 Posted March 24, 2007 Unfortunately it may take a lot longer for others or they may never get it. It took me 23 years (I am 26 this year). Its not something that you obtain overnight, thats for sure. No way. I don't even know the magic formula. This time last year I was coming out of a seriously deep depression, and I think I am one of those people who had to hit rock bottom to get better. But is great coming out of the fog.... makes you appreciate the light so much more.
Pyro Posted March 24, 2007 Posted March 24, 2007 No way. I don't even know the magic formula. This time last year I was coming out of a seriously deep depression, and I think I am one of those people who had to hit rock bottom to get better. But is great coming out of the fog.... makes you appreciate the light so much more. There is no formula. Its just accepting you for who you are and not letting other peoples opinions affect you in a negative way. I hit rock bottom too, and that was due to dating a stuck-up, for of herself insecure female. It sure does. That is a big reason why I am here and why I like to give advice. I want others who are where I use to be see the light and appreciate the change.
sb129 Posted March 24, 2007 Posted March 24, 2007 There is no formula. Its just accepting you for who you are and not letting other peoples opinions affect you in a negative way. I hit rock bottom too, and that was due to dating a stuck-up, for of herself insecure female. It sure does. That is a big reason why I am here and why I like to give advice. I want others who are where I use to be see the light and appreciate the change. Me too. Go go power rangers.. Can I be the red one?
Pyro Posted March 24, 2007 Posted March 24, 2007 Me too. Go go power rangers.. Can I be the red one? You sure can. I'm not picky, so I'll take any of the others.
sb129 Posted March 24, 2007 Posted March 24, 2007 Cool. Well this power rangers problem solving abilities are going to be put on hold for now. Bon nuit mon ami
Pyro Posted March 24, 2007 Posted March 24, 2007 Cool. Well this power rangers problem solving abilities are going to be put on hold for now. Bon nuit mon ami Me too. Its dinner time for me. Italian restaurant here I come. Adios.
funkify Posted March 24, 2007 Posted March 24, 2007 I've been told I am the 'hot girl', but I'm also very true and genuine, loyal and caring. It hasn't stopped men screwing me over though
alphamale Posted March 24, 2007 Posted March 24, 2007 Go go power rangers.. Can I be the red one? wonder twin powers...activate!
americat Posted March 25, 2007 Posted March 25, 2007 Well I pretty much heard my entire life... "Duuuuude, you're too nice to them girls..." this coming from my friends... close girl-friends...sisters... but when MY OWN mother tells me I'm to nice??? That was it... time to do something about it... I had carried on a friendship/relationship with friend (a 9.5 btw) for years and years... she complained about her ex's... I complained about my girlfriends... we dated, hooked up here and there. She would always say... "I wish you and I would get serious, you are sooo nice, you are sooo perfect.... any girl would be lucky to have you...even confessed her love for me" so I finally dumped the girlfriend and pursued the longtime friend..... she said no way.... with no regret, remorse or regard for the history/friendship.... cut me off cold turkey... now she treats me like I ran over her puppy. Can't win. Dumping a girlfriend for an attractive whore makes you a "nice guy"? Or is this when you were trying to turn over a new leaf for the worse? Serves you right. The whore had you wrapped around her pretty little fingers. Can't win? You had a girlfriend. I thought we were talking about people who could not even hold a relationship together or get a date?
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