ratingsguy Posted March 23, 2007 Posted March 23, 2007 This is kind of strange, and I was hoping to get some perspective. I'm 31, and I've never dated older than me, with the exception of my last ex who was significantly older (46). This changed my opinion about older women entirely, so much so that I've become much more open to the possibility of dating women of any age now. I'm on an internet dating site, and in the past my profile said that I was looking for women 21-31. I have since changed that to 21-50. I would say that the vast majority of response that I get (approx. 80-90%) is from women older than me by about 8 years on average. I am getting almost no response from younger women, my former dating paradigm. Can anyone explain this? I think I can take a stab at the answer, but I'm curious what everyone else thinks.
JamesM Posted March 23, 2007 Posted March 23, 2007 Uh, very few young men like you are looking for the older women?
kribby Posted March 23, 2007 Posted March 23, 2007 Hmmm that is interesting... What is the text of your profile... maybe we can deconstruct it and perhaps see if there are specific words and phrases that automatically attract older women... I guess that makes sense... dunno I am 27, not sure I can really help anyway-- but I will give it a stab.
taylor Posted March 24, 2007 Posted March 24, 2007 Youth is always in demand. A 40 year old woman would jump at a chance to date a 31 year old man. A 21 year old woman may consider you to be too old. I'm 22 years old. My first and only relationship was with a 25 year old. I don't know if I would feel comfortable dating anyone more than 5 or 6 years older than me. But that's just me. Although it is very unfair to think this way...Perhaps age gets equated with the amount of baggage a person may be carrying. A 21 year old woman may wonder how much baggage a 31 year old man is carrying. A 40 year old woman may not be as considered about his baggage because she probably has more than he does. At 25, my ex already had significant baggage. I had none. Now, I've got a matching set of Samsonite. It still feels like a heavy load... Sorry for digressing.. Anyways, that's just my 2 cents...interesting question.
SoleMate Posted March 24, 2007 Posted March 24, 2007 Because those fit, attractive 47 year old women are thrilled to have an alternative to the 68 year old, overweight balding couch potatoes with a sense of entitlement who are jamming up their inboxes with pleas for love.
taylor Posted March 24, 2007 Posted March 24, 2007 Hey SoleMate, My mom is 47 years old. I just read your response to her. She laughed so hard and then said, "Oh, sooooo true!!!!!! BTW, my mom is also very physically fit and active!
norajane Posted March 24, 2007 Posted March 24, 2007 I'm on an internet dating site, and in the past my profile said that I was looking for women 21-31. I have since changed that to 21-50. I would say that the vast majority of response that I get (approx. 80-90%) is from women older than me by about 8 years on average. I am getting almost no response from younger women, my former dating paradigm. Can anyone explain this? I think I can take a stab at the answer, but I'm curious what everyone else thinks. When I see a guy with an age range like that, I think he's not looking for a relaitonship, he's just looking for some play, ANY play, age doesn't matter, it's just a f*ck, right? Most people who are hoping to meet someone for a more serious relationship are likely to search for someone relatively closer to their own age. Also, a woman who is 21 is far, far, FAR different from one who is 50. How can one guy possibly have so much in common with both ends of the spectrum? I don't think he can - if you can enjoy being with a mature woman of 50 who has lived a lot of life, then how can you possibly be satisifed with a young woman barely out of her teens? I'm not saying any of these assumtions are valid necessarily, but I'd weed you right out. I don't know why you get responses from women 8 years older (my age). Maybe we don't have so many single men our own age to choose from, but we're still pretty hot and not ready for the viagra generation.
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