Guest Posted March 23, 2007 Posted March 23, 2007 My bf and I are both overseas born children of Asian descent. We met abroad studying in Asia. Prior to dating me, my bf had never dated anyone of our racial background. He's had a fair few gfs who I am very sure were of the beautiful caucasian European look (I know this is broad, but basically he likes the big chest, full body, clear eyes...) I know that he does not find Asian girls attractive, particularly the stereotypical stick thin, flat chested kind (no offense intended ladies, as I honestly view myself as this as well). Now before any guys here go blowing off my top telling me I'm an insecure girl looking for justification, I just want to say that I am NOT insecure, not in the least. I know that I'm an attractive enough girl to win a fair man's heart, probably more over with my personality than my looks. But I AM curious to know if anyone else here has had this with their SO...dating someone of the same race as you who has only ever previously dated people of other races. If so, why do you believe this is so? Is it because of something tied to culture or parents' preferences, or something that just happened coincedentally with liking the woman? This might sound a bit strange, but I'll just add this in...I've always felt that IF my bf were to leave me for a European (not Western like the US or British girls) girl like his previous gfs, that I would simply not be able to compete (and also just give up and let her take my man), unlike if he were to leave me for another Asian girl. I'm not a racist in the least, but I wonder why I feel that I'd have better odds fighting for my man against another girl who looks ethnically like me rather than a girl who looks completely different to me in color. Not meaning to cause an argument, just curious. FYI, this is the first time I've dated someone Asian too, but I think I'd be too scared to ask my bf about these kinds of things. I know men don't like to express their feelings or reasoning often, so I don't press for it.
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