oyster Posted March 23, 2007 Posted March 23, 2007 So having read alot of threads, living the experience as the "Other Men", reflecting on life, I came up with these thoughts 1-Forget about the R in "Relationship" with a MW/MM. This is not a relationship. MW/MM has a relationship with their spouse. This relationship of theirs is LEGAL binding, emotional torture and physical. They are bonded to the inlaws, friends, confortable house etc. 2-If you want to live the experience with an attached person, make sure you get physical then it becomes a "Friends with benefits" 3-Should they leave theirs spouse for you, then deal with it when time comes. 4-Putting pressure on them to leave their spouse for you, well rarely works 5-Moving on with your life for some reason makes you more appealing to them 6-Read books, threads on LS and make sure you share your experience with other so "new comers" to LS can benefit from it.
Izzar Posted March 23, 2007 Posted March 23, 2007 7. Remember when he divorces his wife & marries you, you marry the man not the family.
1DeadB Posted March 23, 2007 Posted March 23, 2007 7. Remember when he divorces his wife & marries you, you marry the man not the family. If he cheated on his wife then, he'll cheat on his wife now.
AnneB49 Posted March 23, 2007 Posted March 23, 2007 7. Remember when he divorces his wife & marries you, you marry the man not the family. so not true...those kids are his forever and they will become a part of your life...you had better like that idea...and he will always have some sort of relationship with his ex when kids are involved...
Author oyster Posted March 23, 2007 Author Posted March 23, 2007 If he cheated on his wife then, he'll cheat on his wife now. WELL there is some truth to it. I believe if you fullfil your spouse needs and evolve with them, cheating risk is minimize. Then again, for the attached person to leave, that is like climbing Mount Everest. Most people rarely get the opportunity to get pass the divorce phase so as a community we have less experience to share on this topic
Izzar Posted March 23, 2007 Posted March 23, 2007 1DB, I beg to differ & I'll update you on my relationship with my s/o to let you know if he cheats.
puddleofmud Posted March 23, 2007 Posted March 23, 2007 7. Remember when he divorces his wife & marries you, you marry the man not the family. Whomever one marries, one marries ALL--and one is FAMILY with all family of origin, the children and the Mother of the children and or the spouse's parents and family as well as any "family of choice". There is simply no escaping this.
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