RecordProducer Posted March 26, 2007 Posted March 26, 2007 In regards to full custody and stuff i am pretty sure that there would be no way he would be able to get full custody for a variety of reasons 1. hes been in prison numerous times. 2. he has never lived with his child 3. he didnt even turn up to put his name on my sons birth certificate and 4. he likes to spend his money on himself he moans something terrible if i ask him to get something for me (example being a new car seat he bought my son a couple of weeks ago - hes still going on about what a nice guy he was for doing that:rolleyes: ) and also 5. i have opened bank accounts and have life insurance in place in case anything happens to me which he would never dream of doing. And to answer your question recordproducer i think i am going to keep the baby for a few reasons 1. i know i can cope financially as i have done so before 2. as i am 16-17 weeks gone it may be risky and 3. My son is the best thing thats ever happened to me and i know ill feel the same way when this baby comes too. I just hope my ex can grow up enough to at least be a dad to his kids. Well you alos sound like a smart woman. You don't need a loser like him when you are a strong woman like yourself.
LittleWoman12 Posted March 26, 2007 Posted March 26, 2007 Hi I made a couple of posts middle of last year about my boyfriend and the father of my 3 year old child. He went through a spate of dumping me and then saying he didnt mean it afew days later anyway he did that 3 times last year. Since then he asked my to marry him on valentines day this year and i also found out i am 16 weeks pregnant. Anyway this morning i recieve another of the same sort of messages from him saying he doesnt want us to be together anymore etc etc ....exactly the same as last time again. But now im obviously wondering if thats it (id prefer it as this is taking the mick now) or whether its just another of his little games. He said last time he did it because he was feeling down and lonely and basically wanted to see if id go running to him. He also made a joke that he wanted to get me pregnant so that no one else would want me ......... i have a feeling i have been taken for a mug but now i am wondering whether it is fair to have this baby knowing i am going to be on my own. I did ok with my son but obviously i will have a baby and my 3 year old son. I am not upset just really confused about what to do and wondering if my ex has a screw loose. Any advice would be greatly appreiciated.You could always advertise on Craigslist and sell yourself. There are a lot of guys out there that are looking to do a pregnant chick. I think that would at least help pay for the child.
RecordProducer Posted March 26, 2007 Posted March 26, 2007 You could always advertise on Craigslist and sell yourself. There are a lot of guys out there that are looking to do a pregnant chick. I think that would at least help pay for the child. Little Woman, you already stated that you became a prostitute to "get back at your boyfriend." While I might think that you're intimately fascinated with this occupation (not necessarily work as a prostitute in real life), I think advising a decent working woman, a pregnant mother to "sell herself" is not appropriate. The original poster might be offended by your "advice." She is not a prostitute and will not become one. Some people have skills other than screwing in order to pay their bills, you know..
LittleWoman12 Posted March 26, 2007 Posted March 26, 2007 Little Woman, you already stated that you became a prostitute to "get back at your boyfriend." While I might think that you're intimately fascinated with this occupation (not necessarily work as a prostitute in real life), I think advising a decent working woman, a pregnant mother to "sell herself" is not appropriate. The original poster might be offended by your "advice." She is not a prostitute and will not become one. Some people have skills other than screwing in order to pay their bills, you know..I know many great working upper class women who hold a regular job and on the occassion cater to discerning gentlemen on the side. It is a very common practice; more than you would think.
sb129 Posted March 26, 2007 Posted March 26, 2007 You could always advertise on Craigslist and sell yourself. There are a lot of guys out there that are looking to do a pregnant chick. I think that would at least help pay for the child. Oh.My.God. How insensitive. Are you for real? I know many great working upper class women who hold a regular job and on the occassion cater to discerning gentlemen on the side. It is a very common practice; more than you would think. So what? Does that mean EVERYbody should do it when they need a little extra cash? Some of us have oh, I don't know, our health to think of. Mental AND physical. For a newbie you are pretty antagonistic. And not doing so good at winning yourself any pals. Unless you are a troll.... that would figure.
Author mazy3 Posted March 26, 2007 Author Posted March 26, 2007 Thank you again for your replies. Where as selling myself i guess is an option its not really for me. I dont even think i want to get back at him as he probably was no good for me anyway. Maybe now i will meet somebody who actually cares about me although i wont bank on it with 2 kids but i have plenty of time to worry about that ....just an update my ex sent me a text today saying he really still wants to be friends and that he would see his son sometime soon. A question.......does it sound bad if i feel that we have to be polite for the kids sakes but i dont want him as a friend or do you think thats a good idea.
sb129 Posted March 26, 2007 Posted March 26, 2007 Mazy you're too nice! Don't be friends. Be polite for your sons sake, but being friends porb isn't possible for a long long time for now.
Author mazy3 Posted March 26, 2007 Author Posted March 26, 2007 Thanks for that ...thats what i thought as you say i have to be polite but i dont have to pretend that i want to be friends. Its not that i hold any grudge against him (i have not cried or anything once since he texted me to break up) he just wouldnt be my choice of a friend.
RecordProducer Posted March 26, 2007 Posted March 26, 2007 I know many great working upper class women who hold a regular job and on the occassion cater to discerning gentlemen on the side. It is a very common practice; more than you would think. I am sure you know many of them, but suggesting to someone to turn into a prostitute as if it's something good (other than the financial aspect) is off base. Some things are just not for sale...
Fiona Posted March 27, 2007 Posted March 27, 2007 ...For a newbie you are pretty antagonistic. And not doing so good at winning yourself any pals. Unless you are a troll.... that would figure. SB129, being a green Ogress and a newbie, I need to ask in which context you discriminate against trolls?
RecordProducer Posted March 27, 2007 Posted March 27, 2007 SB129, being a green Ogress and a newbie, I need to ask in which context you discriminate against trolls? Every newbie asks what a troll is. It's a person who comes to the forum just to aggrevate and annoy others by insulting and attacking them personally just for the fun of it. Or a troll can be someone with a fake story.
Fiona Posted March 27, 2007 Posted March 27, 2007 Every newbie asks what a troll is. It's a person who comes to the forum just to aggrevate and annoy others by insulting and attacking them personally just for the fun of it. Or a troll can be someone with a fake story. Yes, I see. Trolls are nasty, mean things. Thank you! (as long as everybody understands that Trolls are not related to Ogres in any way! )
Author mazy3 Posted March 30, 2007 Author Posted March 30, 2007 Well heres an update for anyone who may be interested ex started texting me again today......buying stuff for unborn baby and stuff. reckons he made a mistake........again. i dont know but i seem to be just not bothered anymore too much stress i cant be bothered with it.
Asafan Posted March 30, 2007 Posted March 30, 2007 Take whatever he wants to give you for the baby, but stay EMOTIONALLY DETACHED from him. This will be difficult but you must try. Don't believe his words at all. Not one of them. Try to step outside of yourself when dealing with him and pretend you watching from someone elses eyes. You will see him for who he really is. You will wind up laughing to yourself and seeing him in a different light. This will make it much easier to deal with him until you can safely put him out with the trash.
sb129 Posted March 30, 2007 Posted March 30, 2007 SB129, being a green Ogress and a newbie, I need to ask in which context you discriminate against trolls? I have no problems with ogres. Mazy..... please stay strong.. He is not going to change, however much these latest gesture may suggest that at the moment.
Author mazy3 Posted March 30, 2007 Author Posted March 30, 2007 Thanks for that and i agree with what you have said i think i have got to the point of realising what i have got to do and i must admit it feels quite good to feel slightly back in control of things
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