guardian Posted March 23, 2007 Posted March 23, 2007 I know this is a hard thing to admit but I have pretty good intuition, and I feel that my relationship with my gf has gone colder lately. We've been together for over a month now. We used to be very infatuated with each other, hold hand continuously and express our love. Maybe I'm just being pessimistic now. I've noticed theres less hand-holding and less text messages. I've heard that as relationships progress, the "superficial aspects" fade, but the underlying love is deepening. I do know she cares about me alot, cuz she does my chores, and cooking and calls me everyday. I know lately I have been slacking a bit myself, not returning her calls as much, not as many gifts as before, but I'm just trying to maintain my individuality and not be too clingy. Is my relationship in trouble? what can I do? Can anyone help me analyze and put some peace to my mind? thanks!
the_pope Posted March 23, 2007 Posted March 23, 2007 The honeymoon period always wears off. I am having the same feeling from my girlfriend of seven weeks. I keep up the emails but she doesn't. Despite her being absolutly infatuated. I do not think it is a sign that things have gone cold, but more a sign that things are settling down into a more mature state. Although I know what you mean, you just want the romance to stay alive. It may not necessarily be in trouble. I mean how many couples do you know that are like that? Only very new ones I bet. But they love each other. It is just reality setting in, thats all.
woodyman Posted March 23, 2007 Posted March 23, 2007 Yeah well said pope...I been with my gf for a year and a couple of months now, and I think that our honeymoon period was a lot longer than most, i dont know, but it lasted well into the 5 month sort of time. Now, I dont get her flowers quite as often as I used to, and her 'almost' daily emails with cute little things in them have stopped...but christ you wont find a closer connection between two people. All you have to make sure you keep doing is holding her hand, buy her flowers when she doesn't know it and send them to her, get her cute little bears if she is into that sort of thing...only you know that about your relationship. You not in trouble, just maturing into a more committed area. Good luck mate
Lauriebell82 Posted March 23, 2007 Posted March 23, 2007 i agree with the other posters that u may be getting out of the honeymoon phase. things do start to die down the totally lovey-dovey, ur partner can do no wrong sort of feelings. like keep doing sweet things for her. try to hold her hand, that is a nice thing to do. my bf of 7 months still holds my hand, and its the nicest feelings. yes those feelings of lovey-dovey infatuation wear off, but u will get a much deeper connection. if u guys still really care for one another and still want to be together, than ur relationship is just maturing and wouldnt worry about it. if she starts to back way off, like never call u back, make excuses not to see u, ect. then i would worry. but from what u said, i think that u guys are just moving out of the honeymoon phase and into a meaningful relationship. try not to worry about it so much.
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