guardian Posted March 23, 2007 Posted March 23, 2007 I know this is a hard thing to admit but I have pretty good intuition, and I feel that my relationship with my gf has gone colder lately. We've been together for over a month now. We used to be very infatuated with each other, hold hand continuously and express our love. Maybe I'm just being pessimistic now. I've noticed theres less hand-holding and less text messages. I've heard that as relationships progress, the "superficial aspects" fade, but the underlying love is deepening. I do know she cares about me alot, cuz she does my chores, and cooking and calls me everyday. I know lately I have been slacking a bit myself, not returning her calls as much, not as many gifts as before, but I'm just trying to maintain my individuality and not be too clingy. Is my relationship in trouble? what can I do? Can anyone help me analyze and put some peace to my mind?
shan7 Posted March 23, 2007 Posted March 23, 2007 Clinging men can be a turn off. If she has become colder since you have been seeking your "individuality" that may not be the case. Its ok to do your own thing but let her know what ever you are doing she is the number one priority. Women love feeling like number one, let her know even when not with her you are thinking about her. She is probably doing your chores to feel needed. Show her you need her for other things. She is not your mother. Maybe you could do your own chores and need her TLC in other ways, she'll respect you more.
Mr. Lucky Posted March 23, 2007 Posted March 23, 2007 I know this is a hard thing to admit but I have pretty good intuition, and I feel that my relationship with my gf has gone colder lately. We've been together for over a month now. I hate to be cynical, but a month? You don't even really know each other yet, so why are you worried about whether "the underlying love is deepening"? Slow down and let things happen naturally, you sound way too intense for a "weeks old" relationship... Mr. Lucky
EC Posted March 23, 2007 Posted March 23, 2007 I agree its only been a month! I didnt feel that way untill about 2 years in! lol Just take things slow and don't try to overanalyze things. Let it flow
1DeadB Posted March 23, 2007 Posted March 23, 2007 If your worried after 2 months, this relationship doesn't stand a chance. Neither will any future relationship you have. About your intuition, everyone thinks they are a good driver. Treat her with honesty and expect the same. This episode is probable all in you mind. Then again, if she's smart, she knows that she doesn't need you. Men can be such morons
Art_Critic Posted March 23, 2007 Posted March 23, 2007 Your gut never lets you down..at least mine never has.. Listen to your gut...
Topper Posted March 23, 2007 Posted March 23, 2007 My gut is saying time for a Peanunt butter and jelly sandwich! My penis is saying I better make a little effort this weekend. My wallet is saying feed me. My credit card is saying I feel so abused. Shes doing your chores? and cooking for you? Maybe when she was cleaning your place, she found your stass of porn and she is have 2nd thoughts.
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