bridget_jones Posted March 23, 2007 Posted March 23, 2007 I don't know if you can assume how much he's going to miss you, necessarily. there might be some feeling of scentiment for him, but guys don't put the same emotional significance in 'stuff' that women do. Even the box, he had the stuff, why not keep it for memory's sake? But if it helps to believe that things you gave him does affect him emotionally, I guess if that helps you cope with the breakup, that's fine. I try not to read too much into things and not dwell on what he's thinking of such things.
Author norajane Posted March 23, 2007 Author Posted March 23, 2007 I don't know if you can assume how much he's going to miss you, necessarily. there might be some feeling of scentiment for him, but guys don't put the same emotional significance in 'stuff' that women do. Even the box, he had the stuff, why not keep it for memory's sake? But if it helps to believe that things you gave him does affect him emotionally, I guess if that helps you cope with the breakup, that's fine. I try not to read too much into things and not dwell on what he's thinking of such things. I think you may have misunderstood, if your post is referring to me. I have no doubt he will miss me terribly. He loves me and we've been dancing this dance for 20 years together. No, my point was that I hadn't realized he - a very unsentimental sort of guy - would even keep all those letters and cards at all, much less collect them for so many years, much less keep them in his top drawer all along, much less not have a single thing there that he kept from someone else. And following that point, was that it showed me how much he did care during our relationship...THAT's what makes me feel better. It tells me that we both were in this relationship for a reason, so my efforts weren't for naught - he wanted this as I did. It's unfortunate that we couldn't resolve our issues this time around and I had to break up with him, but at least I know he also cared very much to even try. And yes, that absolutely does help me cope.
Kwo-ne'-she Posted March 23, 2007 Posted March 23, 2007 Yes. I sometimes wonder what an ex did with things that belonged to me, or were given to him by me. In my case, I will never know.
Art_Critic Posted March 23, 2007 Posted March 23, 2007 Yes. I sometimes wonder what an ex did with things that belonged to me' date=' or were given to him by me. In my case, I will never know.[/quote'] Same here on both counts for just one ex.. but it really doesn't matter..really.. I wrote a real love letter to an ex once..mailed with my cologne on it while she was out of town... I wonder if she ever kept it..
Pyro Posted March 23, 2007 Posted March 23, 2007 Well, what I found in his drawer was small things like letters and notes and cards and pictures that I had given him. But in asking whether you wonder what your ex does with your stuff, I meant anything and everything. OK. That is something that never really crossed my mind. I just assume that once the break-up occurs, all the stuff goes.
Author norajane Posted March 23, 2007 Author Posted March 23, 2007 Same here on both counts for just one ex.. but it really doesn't matter..really.. I wrote a real love letter to an ex once..mailed with my cologne on it while she was out of town... I wonder if she ever kept it.. I think there's a good chance she did. Real love letters are too few and too precious. We do treasure them, even after the love may be long gone, because they make us feel so special.
Art_Critic Posted March 23, 2007 Posted March 23, 2007 I think there's a good chance she did. Real love letters are too few and too precious. We do treasure them, even after the love may be long gone, because they make us feel so special. Yeah.. it would be nice that one day when her kids are going thru her things they happen upon the letter and talk about it..reminiscing on the love I felt for her at the time.. It was a good one and the only one I've ever written..straight from the heart.. Hopefully I'll write another one in my near future to my GF..
Kwo-ne'-she Posted March 24, 2007 Posted March 24, 2007 Same here on both counts for just one ex.. but it really doesn't matter..really.. I wrote a real love letter to an ex once..mailed with my cologne on it while she was out of town... I wonder if she ever kept it.. In the long run, it doesn't matter, as it won't make a difference. Still, it would be kind of nice to know, wouldn't it? I have a small box of things that are my most treasured items from an ex. I look in there sometimes, not often, but once in awhile. And I smile. It would be kind of nice to know he does the same.
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