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When I was at my ex's house a few months ago, I was clearing away some glasses we had left on top of his chest of drawers. His top drawer was mostly open and I noticed a birthday card I had sent him was lying on top of this pile of stuff in the drawer. So I opened it further and found that most of the drawer was filled with letters, pictures, birthday cards, holiday cards - all of them mine. Everything in there was something I had sent or given him.

 

We've known each other 20 years, so it was layer upon layer of our history in that top drawer where he keeps his wallet and keys and things. We've dated and broken up a couple times before, so it kinda blew me away that he had kept all that stuff right there the whole time. It makes me sad to think of it now. :(

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I often wonder what happened to my big tube of extra-strength testicle hair removal cream.

 

It was a gift, and I'm too embarrassed to ask for it at the pharmacy. Good times.

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I often wonder what happened to my big tube of extra-strength testicle hair removal cream.

 

It was a gift, and I'm too embarrassed to ask for it at the pharmacy. Good times.

 

:lmao:

 

Try ordering it online...

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no i don't care with the shyt i gave them. I still used many gifts that were given to me. I have Nautica bathrobe from 98 that was given to me by Mary (i'm wearing it right now). I have a wallet from 99 from antoher girl that i still use to this day.

 

I have many pics of me and my exes. Sometime I masturbate to them just for nostalgias sake.

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When I was at my ex's house a few months ago, I was clearing away some glasses we had left on top of his chest of drawers. His top drawer was mostly open and I noticed a birthday card I had sent him was lying on top of this pile of stuff in the drawer. So I opened it further and found that most of the drawer was filled with letters, pictures, birthday cards, holiday cards - all of them mine. Everything in there was something I had sent or given him.

 

We've known each other 20 years, so it was layer upon layer of our history in that top drawer where he keeps his wallet and keys and things. We've dated and broken up a couple times before, so it kinda blew me away that he had kept all that stuff right there the whole time. It makes me sad to think of it now. :(

 

Are you talking gifts? Stuff of yours that you left over there? Or just small things like notes and cards?

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I have many pics of me and my exes. Sometime I masturbate to them just for nostalgias sake.

That's the beauty of glass frames.

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I was into giving shirts to my ex, and I know he wears those. Really nice ones, like Ralph Lauren, Jcrew and stuff. He loved them.

 

The aquamarine ring he gave me for my birthday the first year we were dating I can't bring myself to wear. Someday I will though.

 

I am also wearing a fuzzy bathrobe he gave me for Christmas, but that doesn't affect me for some reason.

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I am also wearing a fuzzy bathrobe he gave me for Christmas, but that doesn't affect me for some reason.

Doesn't it feel like he's right there with you... at one with your skin? Occasionally brushing the most intimate places?

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Doesn't it feel like he's right there with you... at one with your skin? Occasionally brushing the most intimate places?

 

Ha ha, I didn't think of it that way. I guess it's just like wearing a dress or something. LOL

No, it doesn't have that sexual feeling to me but. hey. I don't know, maybe it will someday.

It's more of a cozy feeling and I just don't associate it with him really.

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I was into giving shirts to my ex, and I know he wears those. Really nice ones, like Ralph Lauren, Jcrew and stuff. He loved them..

I exclusively wear Ralph Lauren...will you be my gf BJ? No I mean it. Then will you play with my balls and stuff>

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I exclusively wear Ralph Lauren...will you be my gf BJ? No I mean it. Then will you play with my balls and stuff>

 

Ummm, I give you a shirt AND play with your balls? What's in this for me?

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Funny i was thinking about that a few days ago. I was cleaning out my "box of memories" where i keep letters and stuff from friends and people i care about. However i also kept letters that my ex from way back that he wrote to me. I keep them because it reminds me that someone loved me the way i wanted to be loved specially when i dont feel so loved. Sad thing is that i broke this guys heart but i still think he has been the best boyfriend ive had. Im sure he would never think i still have all these things, it would really surprise him, specially cuz of how we ended.

SO if you ever wonder if your ex, who broke your heart might still care a weee bit about you, or wether he/she keeps things u gave them to reminds them of good times..chances are that they do.

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When I was at my ex's house a few months ago, I was clearing away some glasses we had left on top of his chest of drawers. His top drawer was mostly open and I noticed a birthday card I had sent him was lying on top of this pile of stuff in the drawer. So I opened it further and found that most of the drawer was filled with letters, pictures, birthday cards, holiday cards - all of them mine. Everything in there was something I had sent or given him.

 

We've known each other 20 years, so it was layer upon layer of our history in that top drawer where he keeps his wallet and keys and things. We've dated and broken up a couple times before, so it kinda blew me away that he had kept all that stuff right there the whole time. It makes me sad to think of it now. :(

 

I understand what you're saying. Every time I get nostalgic, I also feel kind of sad, because these things remind you of a past that you can never revisit... especially when you care for that person. If only I could go back and do this or do that. In some twisted way, we can't let go of those thoughts, so we hold the little things that remind us of the way things used to be. Great post.

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I save and have saved somethings and others I've tossed. They were all parts of my life and at the time I did love them and they me. When I see old postcards or letters or something it reminds me of when they were part of my life and while it's sad it's also nice.

 

Personally, I'm still hurting because my x sent back everything (everything) I ever gave him after he broke up with me and I feel like he just wants to wipe the entire time we were together out.

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I think it speaks of how much you mean to him and that he never really let go of you even after all the break ups. Especially considering the fact that he keeps these things next to the things he uses every day, like his wallet and keys. I think it's really special, I would rather know that my ex kept the things I gave him instead of picturing him burning them or throwing them in the trash the day after the breakup. :( Or worse, attempting to give them back to me!

 

It's weird how some people get sentimentally attached to gifts, and how others don't. It's also weird how some people get sentimental about one type of gift, but are able to treat something else as just an object. My ex used to wear a watch that his ex gave him.. He never seemed emotionally attached to it.. but I did get him a new (and prettier) one eventually. He had also given me jewelry that I loved, but I've never experienced any emotional bonding with it.. One thing that I do really care about though is a fuzzy teddy bear he gave me, and it always meant a whole lot to me.

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Are you talking gifts? Stuff of yours that you left over there? Or just small things like notes and cards?

 

Well, what I found in his drawer was small things like letters and notes and cards and pictures that I had given him.

 

But in asking whether you wonder what your ex does with your stuff, I meant anything and everything.

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I save and have saved somethings and others I've tossed. They were all parts of my life and at the time I did love them and they me. When I see old postcards or letters or something it reminds me of when they were part of my life and while it's sad it's also nice.

 

Personally, I'm still hurting because my x sent back everything (everything) I ever gave him after he broke up with me and I feel like he just wants to wipe the entire time we were together out.

 

When I broke up with him a couple weeks ago, I wanted to give him back all the things he gave me. But he gives practical gifts - no way I was going to return my car battery, the super-galactic space age coffee maker, etc. I DID want to return the very fine set of knives he gave me, but if I returned them in the way I wanted to, I'd probably have been arrested and you'd be hearing about me on the news.

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Mmm. I gave everything back to my ex, and I know he put all the pictures and everything I ever gave him with the stuff I gave him back in the same box. Kinda like sharing the same memory box. Anyone done this before?

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I think it speaks of how much you mean to him and that he never really let go of you even after all the break ups. Especially considering the fact that he keeps these things next to the things he uses every day, like his wallet and keys. I think it's really special, I would rather know that my ex kept the things I gave him instead of picturing him burning them or throwing them in the trash the day after the breakup. :( Or worse, attempting to give them back to me!

 

Yes, that's it exactly. Even more, though, I wouldn't have expected him to be sentimental at all, and would never have expected that he'd have kept old Christmas cards and postcards and all, even stuff from when we weren't dating. I mean, he kept everything, and there was nothing in that drawer from anyone else. I thought it was really special, and now, I can't figure out how he can be that guy who obviously cares, and also be the guy that I can't really trust.

 

It's weird how some people get sentimentally attached to gifts, and how others don't. It's also weird how some people get sentimental about one type of gift, but are able to treat something else as just an object. My ex used to wear a watch that his ex gave him.. He never seemed emotionally attached to it.. but I did get him a new (and prettier) one eventually. He had also given me jewelry that I loved, but I've never experienced any emotional bonding with it.. One thing that I do really care about though is a fuzzy teddy bear he gave me, and it always meant a whole lot to me.

 

This ex gave me a watch the last time we broke up - it was around Christmas time then so we exchanged presents anyway. I didn't wear it for the longest time, and finally did for a little while, but replaced it as soon as I could. I hated that watch, because when he asked me what I wanted for Christmas that year, I told him I wanted time...more time for us together, and more time to see what our relationship could be. Time. So he gave me a watch. Ha.

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Yes, that's it exactly. Even more, though, I wouldn't have expected him to be sentimental at all, and would never have expected that he'd have kept old Christmas cards and postcards and all, even stuff from when we weren't dating. I mean, he kept everything, and there was nothing in that drawer from anyone else. I thought it was really special, and now, I can't figure out how he can be that guy who obviously cares, and also be the guy that I can't really trust.

 

Seriously, I have no idea how that happens, it just doesn't make any sense. I wonder if there are any guys on LS who have really cared about a girl for a long time but kept screwing up that could tell us WHY they can't just concentrate and make it work. I really don't know what goes through their mind. I mean, if you already know that you care that much about a girl, if you've already spent that much time sharing history and making memories with her.. what's a small additional sacrifice cost? Is it that they have weaknesses and shortcomings that they aren't able to change? Is it that these shortcomings are something that we aren't able to just accept? Is it because they care a lot about us but care about either something else or themselves even more and it prevents them from putting the relationship first?? I really wonder........

 

 

I hated that watch, because when he asked me what I wanted for Christmas that year, I told him I wanted time...more time for us together, and more time to see what our relationship could be. Time. So he gave me a watch. Ha.

 

Hahahaha you gotta give him credit for originality! :lmao:

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I agree with princessa that the drawer symbolizes someone who cares.

 

As for myself, I don't care what my exes do with gifts. I hope they continue to enjoy the gifts as I shall mine. As for my stuff, I never leave behind anything that matters to me. If they want to keep it or burn it, that's their choice because I've left it behind for a reason.

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Seriously, I have no idea how that happens, it just doesn't make any sense. I wonder if there are any guys on LS who have really cared about a girl for a long time but kept screwing up that could tell us WHY they can't just concentrate and make it work. I really don't know what goes through their mind. I mean, if you already know that you care that much about a girl, if you've already spent that much time sharing history and making memories with her.. what's a small additional sacrifice cost? Is it that they have weaknesses and shortcomings that they aren't able to change? Is it that these shortcomings are something that we aren't able to just accept? Is it because they care a lot about us but care about either something else or themselves even more and it prevents them from putting the relationship first?? I really wonder........

 

I think that's the answer. The foolishness of that selfish viewpoint (or his weakness, neuroses, issues) is that he doesn't see how putting the relationship first in key respects actually is in his best interests...long term benefits vs. short term selfishness.

 

Hahahaha you gotta give him credit for originality! :lmao:

 

It was ironic to the extreme!

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I agree with princessa that the drawer symbolizes someone who cares.

 

As for myself, I don't care what my exes do with gifts. I hope they continue to enjoy the gifts as I shall mine. As for my stuff, I never leave behind anything that matters to me. If they want to keep it or burn it, that's their choice because I've left it behind for a reason.

 

Knowing that he cares somehow eases my pain at this stage of the break up. I think it makes me feel like I wasn't just beating my head against the wall for NO reason. Still, it doesn't change the outcome.

 

I don't think there's anything wrong with enjoying each other's gifts even after a break up. They were given with love or affection at the time, so why not continue to enjoy them in that spirit? It's only if their presence is upsetting or leaves a bad taste in your mouth that they need to be put away.

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I agree with princessa that the drawer symbolizes someone who cares.

 

As for myself, I don't care what my exes do with gifts. I hope they continue to enjoy the gifts as I shall mine. As for my stuff, I never leave behind anything that matters to me. If they want to keep it or burn it, that's their choice because I've left it behind for a reason.

 

What reason would you have to leave stuff behind?

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Knowing that he cares somehow eases my pain at this stage of the break up. I think it makes me feel like I wasn't just beating my head against the wall for NO reason. Still, it doesn't change the outcome.

 

I don't think there's anything wrong with enjoying each other's gifts even after a break up. They were given with love or affection at the time, so why not continue to enjoy them in that spirit? It's only if their presence is upsetting or leaves a bad taste in your mouth that they need to be put away.

You've got a lot to bring to the table so there's no doubt at least in my mind, that he will miss you desperately.

 

Exactly. I enjoy giving gifts and watching them enjoy them. Why detract from that.

 

As to why I would leave anything behind, it would probably be communal items. Items that he can have because I certainly wouldn't want to have any part of something that we no longer share.

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