WhiteKnight Posted March 23, 2007 Posted March 23, 2007 Hey everyone I'm finding myself in a hard situation at the moment with a former friend of mine. Well, to start from the top on who it is. She's my ex-fiancee. So I'll explain the story and here it goes. Around in late 2006, I had too many issues with my ex-partner who kept annoying me to a level about her still acting like an immature 6 year old on the forums or online gaming places I go to. It got very annoying with her when she married her friend on a roleplay without the husband's knowledge or consent. Furthermore, it got quite annoying so at one time through a conversation we had online via msn. It got to the point that I told my ex partner that I'm going away for awhile because I don't know what to 'think' or 'say' about her anymore. I asked her to delete my mobile no as it has been disconnected. Then silently I did cut all ties and walked off again the second time round as she was trying to heal the friendship between us. In the year 2007, things improved in my life a little. My current girlfriend was being very supportive of me and understood that I needed time away from her and others because I was quite emotional inside. For a Chinese woman, she's very supportive of me because she knew that my heart was so frail at best and also could tell I needed time to be with myself and recover from the rough ending of 2006. So I did. As a first step to recovery when I did change my mobile (cell) phone number to a new one, I felt better. Email wise, I managed to block my ex and also her husband as well. Also any friends of theirs that resided with her during the act when my ex was cheating on her husband with me in the first place. Also, if you want to get more into the details... my ex wouldn't tell the husband the truth about her talking to me again despite the husband had made it clear to me to go away and never speak to her. After doing all this, it was very good but a mixture feeling that I wish it didn't had to come back to this all over again. After about 2 months later, my ex partner had been asking her friends alot about me. Talking to them and so forth, she spoke to me neutrally on the forums or any online games that we do. In the end things got very nosy that she wanted to know about me more and more... it got very annoying. As I had cut her off from any of the chat programs, I said to myself 'This is for the best' because I could remember last year when my partner saw me talking to my ex, it was very bad... lots of jealousy, anger, hatred... very negative and that's why I cut all ties with my ex silently the second time. Around back in early March, my current partner wanted to try and reconcile with her ex-bf and I allowed it because I knew she didn't want to be mortal enemies with the guy. As I watched her doing it, my partner was slowly trying to heal things between her and her ex-bf. As I thought about it all, I thought I should try the same thing with my current gf's approval to try it once. I unblocked my ex on msn and left her alone, never intiated the conversation. About give a couple days later she spoke for the first time and started trying to get along with me at an easy pace. About 2 or 3 weeks later, she started to act all of a sudden weirdly. My ex, who I left as a friend for now, started saying things that she wanted to help me. Help me in a way to make me feel better between her and I, despite of the past on how I betrayed her and how she betrayed me, of course I had a lot of reservations about this... cause I stayed back away from it. The general awkwardness is there. Then at one time she left me a message on msn that got me very startled with... I know that I don't trust her at all. Here's the quote... "Hey! If you ever get the chance, do the landmark forum becauseit has changed my life completely... i have been transformed. I let go of my past totally and i ahve so much possibility now.. to do what ever i wish! I invite you to look at it because it could be one of the best gifts i could give you... and tha's to share in my experience." After I read this, I was like a part of me said 'oh that's good to know...' but the other part of me felt like it wasn't the case because the trust between her and I was blown out of the water since after I betrayed her by telling the husband she was cheating on with another guy online. And vice versa of her betraying my own heart for not telling me truthfully about her 'relationship status', which you can see is hard. Later on... she came to me a few days later on msn and started chatting as per normal after this workshop she attended and acted weird on again. Then she asked me a sudden question that got me to the point, i had to ignore or avoid. My friend (ex partner) asked me this... "Btw... what is your mobile number?" What I did was that I ignored it and quickly followed it up on the topic she and I was talking about. The trouble is though, given the history of my terrible break up with my ex and the friendship that ended eventually was not good. I don't really know why she wanted my mobile number to be honest, it got me confused. The reason why it got me confused was that during after mid 2006, my ex partner (or lost friend) wanted only an online friendship and I was okay with the onlne friendship in the end, 'cause I had to accept it. And now all of the sudden, out of the blue. She wants my mobile number. Does anyone have a clue why? Also, if I didn't say give her my mobile number, would she ask for it again in the near future? Here's another thing... What would happen if I didn't give her my mobile number? What would the impact of that would be? She and I are not in the same city, but in the near future I will be secretly making my way back to Melbourne with my partner where we are going to work and establish our company there. Also to take things into consideration, she claimed that she told her husband about the fact she told me about the workshop she went to and the husband was 'okay' with me talking to her. I don't believe that because she never talks to me when the husband is around. Do you find this odd? I do. Any feedback or advice. Guide me here my friends.
Author WhiteKnight Posted March 27, 2007 Author Posted March 27, 2007 Well just to update on this recently. My friends who I have consulted with in person, most of them suggested I should "wait and see..." about my ex's true intensions. Furthermore I think it would be best not to give her my mobile details until she has truly gained my trust. As I'm still not convinced about the husband factor. To elaborate on this further, some of my friends express their concern to me that if I had given her my mobile number. She might use it as a way of escape I think.
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