Chewybrwn Posted March 22, 2007 Posted March 22, 2007 on Feb 1st I met Ryan. through a friend of a friend. after a night of hanging out and socializing, i realized that i am attracted to this guy physically and intectually. after a whole night of getting to know each other, we end the night with a kiss. the whole month following is perfect. from the beginning i am more comfortable with him, than anyone else i've been with in the beginning. our feelings for each other are equally getting stronger, and the future i'm seeing with this guy looks great. he was always sincere and had taken the best care of me. He had given me the first amazing Valentine in my life yet. and even only after a month, i told me parents about him (like he requested). Then on one night we discussed a possible future together. He had just gotten a new better paying job and told me that he's need a little space to get it together. Then one day, after a whole month of near perfection of a developing relationship, i get no call from him. i call once every other day and even leave messages with his roomate to see what's up. After 2 weeks of no phone calls or any returned, i officially give up. i finally start to understand that i can't dwell on this forever and that life needs to go on. i cry myself to sleep a few nights, and eventually start to get over the pain of a shallow rejection. Then approxiametly 3 weeks after no contact or calls, i get a call from him really late at night and i dont answer. the first voicemail he leaves goes on and on about how much of an idiot he feels like.. then my VM cut's him off. Then he calls again, and again I don't answer. And he leaves another voicemail, assuring me that it had nothing to do with being with someone else. Letting me know that he still has no interest in anyone but me. Now i dont know what to do. I want to talk to him, but i dont want to seem too eager. i dont like playing games, but at the same time i want him to know how it feels to be avoided. any thoughts???
Kwo-ne'-she Posted March 23, 2007 Posted March 23, 2007 I agree, you shouldn't sound to eager. If it were me, I would hear him out. At least listen to what he has to say. Possibly he was falling too fast for his own comfort, and got scared. You really won't know, until you give him the chance to speak to you, and if you don't hear him out ~ you may always wonder...
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