Guest Posted March 22, 2007 Posted March 22, 2007 well my gf broke up with me last march after we had been together for about 2 years. . . she started hanging out with this guy i knew from hs the next day and she knew i hated him and she proceeded to mess around with him like a week after we broke up which was really inconsiderate to me. The reason for the breakup was that she wanted to date around and she said she knew we would get back together sometime. Well it has been almost a year now and they have been together ever since(even though only officially for about 6-7 months) but anyways . . i tried to get her back for the first 2 months and it wasnt going anywhere so I went nc in june and i have been ever since. for the first 6 months she would try calling, texting,emailing . .anything to try to get me to talk to her. . even emailed me on our anniversary that said "today was 2 years" . . she would try to contact me on average every 1-3 weeks for 6 months. she even tried to get me to hang out with her . . continued below Additional Details 21 minutes ago she even tried to gee me to come to her bday party when he was going to be there . .knowing that it would cause a fight . . .then there was a break from december till just a week ago when she sent me another email saying "just wondering if ur done hating me yet". .. i just dont get it . .. she seems happy from what I can tell . . she going on sb with her bf and everything . . why is she trying to contact me after 9 months of me not contacting her back? . . what does she want? What do u think is going on in her head? Additional Details 12 minutes ago i can understand like the first couple months because maybe she wasnt sure about her new bf . . but it has been a year and she is still trying to contact me . . .wouldnt she get the hint when i havent responded in 9 months? If she was that happy then why would she still be doing this?
wlminfla Posted March 23, 2007 Posted March 23, 2007 DUDE, Trust me on this one...the girl is SCREWING with you. She's got a sadistic love of being the Master of Puppets. Not offense to your ex, but you sound like a good man and I really hope for yourself that you will stay as far as away as humanly possible from this girl. She is NOT worth it, and is especially not worth you getting into a fight with the new boyfriend. She'll eventually get the hint but if she doesn't, then pick up the phone, stand tall, and say "Leave me alone...I want nothing to do with you" You have every reason to hate her and don't let her manipulative words pierce your mind and get you feeling bad about the whole thing. Stand tall and stay away!
bubbalump Posted March 23, 2007 Posted March 23, 2007 well if u feel shes screwing with u ....and she wont leave u alone.... mess with her back..could be fun ..be "friends " and tell her about all the new girls your with and how much better they are than her, and your so glad its over.
Erik Posted March 23, 2007 Posted March 23, 2007 The effect of a successful NC. She really loves you now, but the moment you take her back, that love will fade rapidly.
Erik Posted March 23, 2007 Posted March 23, 2007 Bubbalump's suggestion is fun, but very evil, she'll be hopelessly in love with you for the rest of her life.
EC Posted March 23, 2007 Posted March 23, 2007 ok she left you to date around...because she liked you but wasn't sure if you were the one. So she wanted to mess around and if she didnt find anything satusfying return to you? right? Yes basically. And had you taken her back after she would have done the same thing after a couple months IMO. I think you did the right thing by not talking to this girl again. She was with you for two years but was obviously missing something and went to go find it. Dont talk to her. You will just get put into a nasty cycle. She dated a guy after only a week of breaking up with you. Which means she had to have been talking to him during the relationship. You just dont date a guy after a week of a two year break up! Let her go..let her keep trying to talk to you. If you can handle being just friends then w/e write to her telling her how FANTASTIC your life is now. But i wouldnt recommend opening contact with her again. For what?
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