married to a liarF

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posted a letter this morning that took me two hours to writr, and i don't know where it went to,so i guess i have to start all over again!!! I have been married to lala-momoftwins 4 14 years. 12 1/2 of these years she has been a complete liar. she is a pathalogical And compulsive liar. she has been through 5 therapists and all of them TOLD her she had to have her twin sister and her mom out of her life on a permanent basis.

 

trhey told her that she could not get any better or have any sucess in her life if she had any contact with them. that may sound extreme, but if you knew what went on between them you wouild understand. this was all based off of what my wife told them about them. my wifes siblings 7 from 4 husbands are all complete liars. her mom laughs and says her kids know how to play the system. pretty sick!!

 

her mom at 70 yrs is the worst offender. she has been openly lying to her 4th husband 4 over 20 yrs, saya he does'nt need to know anything. this is what she helped her older sister do in her marrige lied spent all of their money lost their house and had an affair, all with her moms guidance. her mom never had a good man, and did;nt like the fact that her daughter married such a stand up man. she was threatened buy the fact that i opened her daughters eyes to all the true facts.

 

her mom played her against her fathes and told him if he did'nt buy her a car for her 16th b-day, she would make sure that he never seen her again. it has now been over 22 yrs since she has talked to him. she want's to make contact but is afraid of what she is going to find out about her mom!!! the person that was her moms boyfriend did'nt want any responsibility for her or her sister.

 

he yells all the time when my wife calls to just talk to her. he only married her after she was given a 113,ooo.00 retirement check. her mom gambled it all away in a very short period of time. she had to go back to work, and that job ended not long ago. she was made to leave becuase of ome missing money.she told me her mom never held her or told her she loved her. that and the fact of her moms b friend not wanting to do anything for her set her up for complete failure with a man. her twin sister has never had a boyfriend or been in a real adult relationship. she has made it her goal to make her sister as alone and sad as her.

 

she was jealous of us since day one. she has never been my wife,always been my daughter. she has told lies of fake organ transplants commited several felonies, and even lied to her pastor at church to get some spending money. i found out when the pastor called me to offer what help they could to us. i was very embarressed for her. by the end of that phone call myself and the pastor were more enlighted about my wife. she stole our kids savings bonds there is not much she won't do.

 

i feel a big part of the blame for enabeling her 4 all thopes years. i have wanted a divorce since 2000 the year most of her lies were being exposed i don't have time to write all the lies she tells everyone it would make most peoples haeds spin. she has some whoppers. she keeps saying she does'nt want to lie to everyone any more, but she won't use any of the tools she was giving. i told her to open a bank account after x-mas so she could take bacmk obver the family finances. i have had them for the last couple of years becuase her therApist told her to give them up becuase she had no control over her self.

 

for 8 yrs she had total control of them and we had every utility turned off were evicted and were sometimes lacking food. her idea of a budget is to spend all of her money all of the time. she has a complete check to check approch. that is hard to do when you have a house 2 kids and no savings she is very harsh on our kids.screams at them all the time. she parents from our couch. i am a honest as you can get .

 

i feel like most of society that honesty and trust are extremly impottant in your everyday life. she wants the most for doing nothing. she is jealous of my closeness with ourkids. she says that it is not fair, becuase she is their mom and they are suppose to like her more. if she would have put down her romance novels and got of the couch, she might have had a better relationship with them.. she posted her thoughts and painted the picture she wants people to see.

 

she is very careful to leave out all important details that would give people the true insight as to who she really is.. has asked me in the past to lie alittle so i would make her life alittle easier. she has said she will lie under oath the sadness pain and frustration i feel has made me yell at her. how can some one look you in the eyes a lie to you like that. when i read some of the replies she got i had to tell theTRUTH.telling her to do this and that with out all the real facts is not a good thing.

 

i have stayed with her b ecuase of the kids, and i now know it was a mistake.i do all the housework, laundry, cookiny mostlt take of the kids and the pets. she will sit on the couch after dinner and watch me dom everything have to go post later