Woggle Posted March 22, 2007 Posted March 22, 2007 My friend that is going through the divorce is having some anger issues right now. He was always a meek, nice and soft spoken guy who wanted to please everybody and never had a temper but lately there is this wave repressed anger just pouring out of him. He is bitter about being nice to everybody his entire life and getting nothing but crap for it. I think the divorce is the final straw and while I am glad he finally growing a backbone I don't want him to do anything stupid. How can I help him deal with this anger in a healthy way?
laRubiaBonita Posted March 22, 2007 Posted March 22, 2007 what about some form of martial arts? or kick boxing?
a4a Posted March 22, 2007 Posted March 22, 2007 take him to a strip club and make them ho's dance for a dollar! :p :lmao: Seriously I have a sneaking suspicion that you are probably not the best person to guide him into productive use of his anger. It probably is a good idea if he were to seek some professional help. Suggest that to him.
dropdeadlegs Posted March 22, 2007 Posted March 22, 2007 Woggle, you can't do much except be his friend. You can give him a listening ear to vent his frustrations. Getting it out by talking with you is probably helping him, and that's not so unhealthy. My friends have not only listened, they have joined in the chorus. They sometimes take the anger to such extremes that it actually calms me down, because I see how silly it is when I see them so caught up in it. Let him have his angry moments. A nice, soft spoken man won't be angry forever, he just needs to vent. You could always send him to LS!
Author Woggle Posted March 22, 2007 Author Posted March 22, 2007 I got him a punching bag and told him to pretend it is his ex. That may or may not be healthy but hitting on object that can't feel pain certainly helps me. I think this is a phase he is going through and when he comes out the other end he will be a stronger man.
dropdeadlegs Posted March 22, 2007 Posted March 22, 2007 I got him a punching bag and told him to pretend it is his ex. That may or may not be healthy but hitting on object that can't feel pain certainly helps me. I think this is a phase he is going through and when he comes out the other end he will be a stronger man. Physical exertion is an excellent way of relieving stress and pain. Good call. the anger has to released or it will just eat him up. I agree that he will come out stronger than ever.
IfWishesWereHorses Posted March 22, 2007 Posted March 22, 2007 Anger is a natural part of the grief process. It's actually healthy that he is not repressing it. He is bitter about being nice to everybody his entire life and getting nothing but crap for it. Some good can come of this. He may learn to change his role somewhat in all friendships/relationships and to watch out for people that might abuse or take advantage of someone who is a "giver". People grow from this experiences but seldom does it change their "personality" completely. Professional counseling is a great suggestion. As a friend though I would just listen and let him vent without trying to help him "fix" things.
alphamale Posted March 22, 2007 Posted March 22, 2007 How can I help him deal with this anger in a healthy way? there is not much u can do WOGGLE....let him be angry. It will be good for him. Just be there for him when he need to go out drinking or to the ball game.
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