cr8sea Posted March 22, 2007 Posted March 22, 2007 I think i made a big dumb mistake. I stop talking to my ex a week after we broke up. After the break up he kept texting me every day at random times for no reason at all, so it made it hard for me to move on. I made the decision to ask him to stop talking to me when i found out he was seeing someone else (not a week after we broke up). In any case, i went two or three weeks without any contact. I felt much better after i had a talk with someone regarding him. Made me understand why he left and why he was doing what he was doing. SO i felt i was pretty over it, that i didnt want him back and that i wanted to be friends with him. Well that made me text him telling him i was fine and thanking him for giving me time to cool off. He texted me back, talking to me like we were friends which i really appreciated. He even sent me a picture of him and his friends because they were camping and he wanted me to see where they were. I thought he would start texting me again like he did before, everyday, but he didnt. I havent heard from him since sunday and although it obviously makes sense since we're just friends, I cant help but want him to text me like he was when we first broke up. I think contacting was probably a mistake because im thinking about him a lot again. I still dont want to be back with him, but i do want to know that he misses me and wants to talk to me. Apparently he isnt. What do you think? Did i make a huge mistake? or maybe i just need a bit of time to get used to the whole friend thing? I know its not much i can do. I dont want to text him because i dont want him to think im that needy....but i do wanna hear from from. What a mess did i get myself into again!!!
norajane Posted March 22, 2007 Posted March 22, 2007 It was too soon. You need at least two or three months to get over it - and some people need even longer - before you can even begin to think of being friends. Just start over with NC and pretend you never talked to him at all.
D-Lish Posted March 23, 2007 Posted March 23, 2007 It really is too soon to think about a friendship. But it is understandable that you want to feel missed- all of us have felt that- even if we know the relationship wasn't good for us. It's way too hard to be friends with someone when you have unresolved feelings. You had a little relapse- that's okay. The friendship route is so difficult to manage emotionally. It's often better to stay away. Hope you're doing okay. D
Author cr8sea Posted March 23, 2007 Author Posted March 23, 2007 you guys are right it was too soon. I figured that out today when, being out with a friend who seems to have some feelings for me, made me wish i was with my ex and made me tear up over it again. Wow, the way we can fool ourselves! Needless to say, he hasnt contact me at all...i guess its all for the best, even when it doesnt feel like it
magichands Posted March 23, 2007 Posted March 23, 2007 I still dont want to be back with him, You know that's not true. You do... if only a little bit. I think it's best to follow the good advice on this thread. Out of text, out of mind. Sort of. You can be friends with an ex. Just don't ever expect things to be the same between you again. You will never be that close again. Sad, but true.
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